Is anyone still here?
This used to be a really busy board, but it seems very quiet now!
We want #3 and will probably start TTC in the spring. If I were younger, I would wait until next year.
I'm finding I'm having lots of apprehension about being pregnant again because I don't want to feel sick for months and deal with the stress of first term bleeding. I had both with both my girls so I'm kind of assuming that will be how it will be this time. I'm also nervous about a repeat of the complications from last time (PPROM/abruption).
Basically I want the baby and feeling the magic of pregnancy but I don't want the health issues or stress of it
LOL I can understand that! I have very complicated high risk pregnancies and thought I was done until recently when baby fever hit me hard. I'm not sure whether we will or even can have any more, but I thought I'd come and hang out here anyway. I really want to lose weight first anyway, and I'm guessing that's going to take me at least a year to do.
It's nice to see you here. Makes the board seem not so quiet!
I am here too! I was just going to post a new thread! I keep trying to get the board more active but it is proving to be more difficult then expected. I will start TTC end of summer beginning of fall.
Aw, I'm sure it'll pick up around here. It's probably just a quiet phase.
I'd love to start TTC in September if I'm honest. But that doesn't really give me enough time to lose the weight I gained whilst on the mirena plus although DH has said he'll do whatever I want to do, I want him to want another too rather than just agreeing with me.
I'm currently charting as I need to know what my cycles are doing and whether we'll need any help or a consultation. So I was planning to chart for the next six months or so and get an idea of what's going on and take it from there. In the meantime I'm suffering serious baby fever, I can't stop thinking about it, or looking at baby things (we've got NOTHING left over from the other kids anymore) or thinking about names!
We are also charting to prevent. I think I'm hoping there is an oops moment and I don't have to decide when to start. Even though I want the end result, I find it hard to do something that will make me sick and barely functional for 5+ months. I keep thinking that I don't want it at this time or at that time. My key points now are: my husband has an accreditation exam in April so I don't want him having to pick up my slack while he trying to prepare for it. Summer I'd love to be active with the kids and take them to some nearby amusement parks so I don't want to be pregnant but it will be the only time we'll see all our family and be able to tell them in person. Finally, we want to buy a house sometime after May. We moved from Western Canada to Eastern USA when I was 7 months pregnant with DD2. I don't want to move pregnant again and I'm not sure if that contributed to my complications. I think we are aiming to start TTC after his exam and just go with the flow for the summer. If we do find a house and buy it, I would probably stop TTC and wait until we moved (unless I'm pregnant and then I'd probably ask if one set of parents could come out and help).
Wow that sure is a lot going on. I totally understand the fear of being pregnant during all that and isn't it crazy how we'll all put ourselves through months of discomfort for a child?! LOL I'd never really thought about it before reading your post, but yeah it does seem pretty crazy.
I've had high risk pregnancies in the past, but I'm feeling pretty confident for (if there is a) next time. I'm fitter now and healthier, and I'd always had one pregnancy after another and never given myself time to heal at all. Something I now realise did a lot of damage.
Hopefully you'll have an opps baby and then you don't have to make the conscious decision. I'm sure you'd be fine if you were pregnant during any of those events.
How did you find out you had POF? Did you have trouble conceiving any of your other children? It is hard to say what damage you did do having your kids close together. If you had waited a few years in between each one so you could recover more, you might not have been able to have a large family due to your POF.
I do agree that no matter what happens, you figure out a way to make it work. I am such a planner that for kids I really have to remember that there is no perfect time and unexpected events do come up.
I had blood work done to determine my AMH levels and the nurse said they were so low for my age that given my family history and my AMH levels they considered that I had premature ovarian failure and that I would probably enter the menopause in the next few years. I didn't really ask a lot about it to be honest as I wasn't planning on having anymore anyway, so when she said it would be best for me to freeze any eggs I could, and that if I changed my mind I'd possibly need IVF with donor eggs if I didn't freeze my own, I didn't really pay any attention and just blew it off. I was more interested in if there was a way I could stop the symptoms I was having, like the hot flushes etc.
I actually had no trouble conceiving my children, I did have a lot of trouble staying pregnant though (had multiple MCs) and very high risk pregnancies. Bit of a blessing and a curse, because I got pregnant so easily but then had trouble staying that way. That said I did take it totally for granted and felt like I'd be fertile forever.
I know when I was charting before I had the mirena put in that it didn't appear that I was ovulating. I'm just waiting to see what charting shows up now that it's out again.
I'm a planner too. I plan everything and do find it stressful when things go off plan!
So what changed your mind after you thought you were done?
Before kids, I thought 2. When I was pregnant with my 1st, I couldn't imagine being pregnant again but I knew I wanted one more. When I was pregnant with DD2, even though I still had all the same issues as with DD1, I couldn't imagine stopping at 2. DH always thought 2-3. I'm curious to see if after #3 I'll feel done or if there will always be a desire for another.
I honestly don't know. I was done after #7. Like done, done! I couldn't stand the thought of being pregnant ever again kind of done. And then one day I woke up and thought maybe I wasn't so done after all. And then I started dreaming about being pregnant and it set it all in motion really.
I don't really know if we will go for a #8. DH is pretty happy as we are, especially as our youngest starts full time school in September and I keep going back and forth. Yesterday all I could think about was babies, after a bad dream last night I'm terrified of the thought of it! LOL I guess it's not helped by the fact my kids are asking if we can have one more and friends are beginning to make the comments about #8 to "round it off"....
I'm kind of TOC in September, too. We have 4 boys (youngest is 2 1/2 months) and I think I'd like one more, but I'm not sure. My first three pregnancies were pretty easy, except for first trimester hyperemesis. Then I had two m/c (this fir with a BO and I went through a few weeks of hyperemesis before discovering it). And my most recent pregnancy was a roller coaster with 2 SCH in the first tri and them complete previa in the 2nd tri which barely managed to resolve (at 38 weeks!) I do want another baby, or even two, but I'm not sure I can face another pregnancy if it's like that again. DH thinks he feels done, but he's not sure. So, who knows which way we'll go.
My kids want another, too. I love it when they ask if they can have another new baby.
Aw Pico, we go around the same loop. The more we talk about it though the firmer I am in my decision. It's cute that your kids want another baby - I love it when kids are so enthusiastic!
(((((HUGS))))) I hope your decision making process resolves itself. Until then hang out here and talk to us!