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    I guess I'm here. I have a story...

    Firstly DH never wanted babies until he was 30. Well we are both 30 this year and we have 2 kids

    So we got preg after being married for less than a year after DH had an epiphany after breaking his leg.

    Unfortunately that ended with M/C but we got through it and I got preg again straight away

    DS1 was born. We decided pretty soon after he needed a sibling and DS2 was born.

    Now we are here. I have always said I wanted 3 babies and DH said he wanted none (before we were married). He loves his sons (even though 2 and 4 year are HARD work ) but he says if we never had any more he'd be more than happy. Now I'm at the point where I am craving just one more child. I don't know if I would just really love a daughter to round things off nicely or if I really really want a child. I mean I do, but because DH is so 'done' my poor old brain and heart are in turmoil.

    We have spoken about it and he has said he's done but if another one came along he wouldn't be upset. Also he said if I wanted another baby THAT badly I would just get pregnant and there is nothing he could do to stop me (well apart from not have sex, but what man would say no to sex!?!)

    When ever I bring it up it's always done in a joking way and I just hope that one day he'll say yes. I'd like to TTC this summer as it would be great timing (for me, and work, and the kids at school etc etc) but I don't know if I'm being really selfish.

    I know he'd be happy after a few days of shock and it wouldn't take him long to come round but him making the decision to TTC probably isn't going to happen.

    Could one of you just get me pregnant? Or make DH see my way

    So yeah, I'm here. Could be a few months, could be a few years...could be here forever. But I feel like I need to belong somehwere



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    Hi Sarah

    Welcome! You've boys are so cute!

    I've been here for a couple years now, but only in the last 6 months has my DH actually been onboard. We started actual TTC in Dec '12 but that unfortunately ended in a m/c so I'm back here until AF arrives and we can start again.

    I hope your DH comes round to your thinking, or if he's not ultra-paranoid like my DH is then that it just happens anyway
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    Welcome! We're going to TTC in July but the closer it gets the more nervous I get!
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    Hi and Welcome!

    Like Jen, we will be TTC in July. You should join us!

    On a serious note, do you think your DH is just having cold feet? It sounds like he's not totally opposed to #3.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tink9702 View Post

    On a serious note, do you think your DH is just having cold feet? It sounds like he's not totally opposed to #3.
    Yes!! I do think he's got cold feet. If we had an accident he'd be quite happy. It's just the decision of him saying yes to the idea that's stopping him lol
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    Hoping that 'accident' comes along soon!!!

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    Your story sounds so much like mine! When DH and I got married he never really wanted kids or at least wanted to wait a good long while. Within a year he had changed his mind and we were expecting. Still, he didn't want more than two. Maybe three. Then we had two... and then three. And he said maybe four. And now we're almost 30 and expecting #4. But each time it took him a bit to come around and then one day he was suddenly ready.
    It's weird that he's "inviting" you to have an oops. I hope you're able to talk him around so you can agree to another baby instead of just hoping it happens.
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