June Chat Thread

**tink9702** · 06-06-2012, 07:31 PM

Elizabeth - of course you are welcome to hang out here!!!!! I didn't mean it in a bad way, just thinking you'll get a BFP soon and then move on which makes me sad! That's difficult about the opks. I wonder if you ovulate twice in the cycle? Do twins run in your family? Oh and Chuggington is a British train show. ha ha

Jessica - very confusing about the spotting. I hope it means you are implanting?

Sara - maybe he secretly wants another kiddo? I think you should have that talk with him!!!

**eliann** · 06-06-2012, 09:42 PM

No twins in my family or DH's. DH keeps saying he wants twins, so he only has to deal with sleepless nights once. Silly man.

Sara-Yep, you need to have the talk. It's time girl. Jk, I seriously know how hard it is. I have a hard time talking about babies with my DH. It's getting easier for me to talk about it, but even though we are TTC I still wonder how I will even tell him I'm pregnant. I still freak out that he will freak out. Speaking of all that...

I was chatting with a pseudo friend today (she's a friend of a friend and we don't hang out that much) anyways, she and I happen to be cycle buddies and they are TTC also. But she is WAY into TTC. She said they DTD 6x in the matter of 3 days. She asked me today if I lifted my butt in the air for 20 min after DTD. I was like "ugh, I would never let DH see me in that position, because he would think I'm a crazy baby lady." I did tell her that I lifted for the 1.5 minutes that he went to the bathroom. I have to keep all this stuff secret, its silly right? You all know that I am a crazy baby lady, but I still feel like I should keep those obsessive thoughts and techniques a secret from DH. I also didn't tell DH that I started taking HPTs at 6dpo last cycle. At 11dpo, I did tell him and his response was "That's way too early, you are wasting money."

**browntown** · 06-06-2012, 10:14 PM

Originally Posted by eliann

At 11dpo, I did tell him and his response was "That's way too early, you are wasting money."

LOL! Men! FH is quite understanding of the whole situation, and knows a fair bit about charting and cycles for a dude, but this is totally something he would say too. But, back to your question, I don't think he knows the extent of the 'crazy-baby-lady' in me. He knows that I don't get up right away anymore after DTD, he leaves me alone for a while. If he leaves me alone long enough, I'll totally lift my butt up, LOL. Typically though, I don't. I try not to do anything that would set panic into him, making him worried that he's about to marry a nutcase.

I'm a POAS-aholic, so testing at 6dpo to me doesn't sound nuts, but I also use cheapies, so I don't feel guilty. Maybe this is a good excuse to stock up on cheapies? I'm not keeping FRERs in the house. I'll go pick up a box when I need them, which, from this point forward will only be after the faintest of positives on a cheapie, or a truly missed period.

Mel - I HOPE that it's implantation bleeding, but I don't think it's likely! I'm on day 4 of this spotting now. It's enough to need a liner, but not enough for anything more. While I think that it seems different this time (texture wise, sorry, TMI), that could very well by my mind playing tricks on me. I think it seems different, but how much have I really paid attention in the past?

**lizzib45** · 06-06-2012, 11:26 PM

Yeah DH knew i was getting to be the crazy baby lady last time. But I think we all do our little secret things. and yes I would do the butt in the air thing if he went to the bathroom or I would have him get me water afterwards for an excuse. hehe!
And yes I agree- I think he is secretly ready but he knew I didnt enjoy being pg so maybe he thinks I am not ready. Talk is coming I promise.

**ange84** · 06-07-2012, 04:00 AM

My hubby was the opposite he was all if butt in the air helps do it, and got me pillows to make me comfortable and books etc so i was comfortable and relaxed while I sat with my fat old butt in the air

**pico83** · 06-07-2012, 04:30 PM

Sara - just go with it. you warned him, he knows you're off BC, maybe it's his way of saying he's ready.

Eliann and Jessica - for me a + OPK is usually a test line clearly darker than the control. This cycle it was barely darker, but still easy to tell it was darker. Close to + should just be ignored unless you fade-in (I do) and get progressively darker OPKs for a few days. And I do test with FMU. If I get a + or almost + I test again around 10-11am (the time I've usually heard recommended). HTH.

I did the butt in the air thing with the first one. Never again.

If you want to avoid that but get the same effect TMI you can get a menstrual cup (like diva cup or lunette) and put that in after DTD for a bit.

**browntown** · 06-10-2012, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by pico83

Eliann and Jessica - for me a + OPK is usually a test line clearly darker than the control. This cycle it was barely darker, but still easy to tell it was darker. Close to + should just be ignored unless you fade-in (I do) and get progressively darker OPKs for a few days. And I do test with FMU. If I get a + or almost + I test again around 10-11am (the time I've usually heard recommended). HTH.

I've been fading in too, I've been testing for 10+ consecutive days, so it's easy to see where the + is. Here's from this cycle:

I considered CD20 my positive, but this pic was taken the following day, I don't have a pic of the "fresh test", LOL. If I'm not pg this cycle, next cycle will be easier to read, as I'm charting again as well.

I looove Divacups. I've been using them for AF for a couple of years now, no looking back.