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so I'll start the chat thread....

We have a bunch of "newbies" on the board - let's all get to know each other!

I'm Mel, I have two children (see siggy) and we are TOC a third child in October. I work outside the home three days a week and from home two days a week. When we have #3 I'll become a SAHM, no way my salary stretches far enough to afford even part-time daycare for three kids! I love to scrapbook, enjoy baking and spending time with friends when I can convince DH to watch the kids!

So who are you?? Wink

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I will play!
Hi, Sara 31(eww) I work for a large bank handling regulatory inquiries- good times. DH is 31 as well and a Chief in the Navy. My mom was nice enough to retire after I had to go back to work from maternity leave from having Tommy. He is my love, and I cant get enough of him! He is very active, sweet, loud, shy and has a lovely temper. We are on the verge of talking I feel. Right now he has about 7-10 words. His eating and sleeping are horrible. And he is on the small side for his age. I am learning every day to be more and more OK with it. DH and I arent big people so its unlikely he is going to be a big kid. I really want DH to get on the at least TOC side. A few friends of mine just annouced they are PG and I am majorly jealous. OK this has turned into a ramble. So HI!

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Hi Sara! Rambles are good! Smile My DS exploded with talking at 18 months so I'm sure Tommy is right about there! Boys talk later than girls IMHO. I totally understand the horrible sleeping and eating. My DS is not eating well and DD is a terrible sleeper! DD is in the 10% for weight&height. As long as he's gaining and meeting milestones he's fine! When do you think your DH will be on board? If he was, when would you want to TTC? Yeah, I get the jealous thing! I have a bunch of friends with either new babies (under 6 months) or who have just announced a pregnancy. It's rough some days!

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I would like to TTC end of this year. I have long cycles so we used OPks last time and got our BFP right away. With my work, I get 6 months paid mat leave so that will be great timing to have winter home with the kiddos and the holidays. But really, getting a BFP anytime would be just fine with me. That way also Tommy will be 3 when we have the next one and hopefully not as clingy. for some reason I am not worried about the talking aspect, just his eating. I can work with the sleeping but he just doesnt like food, never has. He is 3rd for weight and 25th for height. So long and skinny. Has your DS been bad eater always or just recently?At this point I figure when he decides food is good he will eat. But the last 19 months has been trying but I have learned somewhat to let go of the worry.

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6 months maternity leave is awesome! DS has only been trouble eating recently. DD barely ate anything until she was 12 months. I'm finding that they go through stages with food. Sometimes it's great and sometimes it is terrible. Are you concerned with general amount of intake, or the pickiness? I'm learning to let go on each individual meal, and concentrate on each week instead. I'm also trying really hard to limit foods that aren't as healthy so that what they do eat is nutritious. Sounds like a no brainer, but realized that I really wasn't doing well at it, so making a new effort to limit things like graham crackers etc. We also do not do juice except on special days (birthdays etc.). I think it helps with the eating because they aren't filing up on liquid. As far as worrying - it means you are a good mom! Smile Never met a mom I respected that didn't worry about something with their kids! Smile

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DS wont even touch juice, either water or milk, thats is. His issue is he doesnt eat enough. WEird, he eats decent at my parents house but at our house its literally like 1-2 bites each meal. He loves milk though. We tried reducing his milk intake to hopefully cause him to eat more food, nope backfired. he lost half a pound in 10 days. So we went back to milk with carnation breakfast mixed or pedisure mixed in. anything for calories. lol!

Where is everyone else??

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Just wrote a bunch of stuff and accidentally hit "reply to thread" and it deleted it all. Ok 2nd try...

I'm Elizabeth (31), DH is 30. We have been together for 6 years and just got married in October. We don't have children yet. The ladies who know me from this board know that DH has been hard to convince. But he agreed to TTC this summer. Although I have to admit I may be leaving this board soon because we have DTD twice now unprotected. But both times have been in my non-fertile days. Do you think he knows? Haha.

We both work in architecture and are taking our ARE exams for architect licensing. It consists of 7 hard tests that have to completed in 5 years. So I am hoping to finish a couple more exams before seriously TTC with charting and all that. For now JLIH works for me.

We also have a furbaby, a beagle named Ramona. She doesn't know that is her name though because we call her turkey, monkey, the beast, queenie, Mrs. beagleton, turkus beagus amongst other names.

Looking forward to chatting with you more. Can I still hang out here if I'm JLIH? I'm not even certain we are JLIH. DH is so wishy washy about babies, and we previously used the withdrawal method, so its kind of up to him you know? I'm in a weird spot..because most people are either actively TTC and I just don't fit in that category yet.

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Oh and about my earlier post in another thread where I mentioned there was a story about the night we decided to go for it. It's because we found out one of DH's friends might be pregnant. After he heard that rumor, he said "lets do this." And I swear he agreed JLIH mostly out of competition. Is that not ridiculous? But hey, I will take it. Men are so funny.

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Oh and about my earlier post in another thread where I mentioned there was a story about the night we decided to go for it. It's because we found out one of DH's friends might be pregnant. After he heard that rumor, he said "lets do this." And I swear he agreed JLIH mostly out of competition. Is that not ridiculous? But hey, I will take it. Men are so funny.

LMAO! I honestly think that is what convinced my DH to having our son! Our close friends had announced they were pregnant. I don't think it was the competition as much as the "I want to do this at the same time they do" type of thing though! Smile Poor DH though it was one month of JLIH and then I convinced him to TTC and we were pregnant the next month. Don't think he bargained for getting pregnant so quickly!

And until you TTC I think hanging out here makes sense to me! Smile stick around for a bit!

Sara - both of my children eat better at other people's houses or daycare than at home. No idea why!

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thats actually reassuring Mel! Just thought my kid was the weirdo! hahha!

And I agree, its not the competition thing for us but it helps. DH is alway very hesitant on things. He waited 4.5 years before getting engaged. This was after he had a 5 year max and all of his BFFs were all married. Same with kids. We were the last ones of our friends to have a baby. By the time we were PG everyone else was done or having their last one. it was like he saw that life doesnt end when you have kids and was good with it. That and we did want to get everything financially in order. So we have our mortgage and thats it. this way we werent bringing baby into a house of debt.
Now this 2nd one(thats not even really there at all) is going to take more convincing. I will admit now that DS is older its nice being able to do more than being stuck in the house or having a babe stuck to your boob all day.
And I say JLIH is more TTC than what I have going on!

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I haven't been around much because TOC is making me sad right now. In my ideal world I would be due in June and getting a nice bump oing right now. It doesn't help a workmate is due inJune.
Anyway I'm Wendy and I'm 27. I have one sweet, crazy, adorable, crazy, handsome and did I mention crazy boy, Ronin who is 17 months old.
Ronin is small weight wise, he was the 3rd percentile at his 12 month appt and going by current weight gain he will be just above the 5th by 18 months, at least the health nurse will get off my back about his weight as he would have gone up percentiles. I know what I pack him for lunches for day care and he eats a ton.

I will hopefully be TTC in August/September as then I have one less fight with my local hospital to get a VBAC because there will be 2 years between pregnancies. Hopefully TTC is short and sweet like last time s I really want a before June 30 baby as then they go to school a year earlier which saves a year of day care costs.

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Hi, all.
I'm Virginia. I'm 28 and DH is 27. We have 3 enormous boys ages 4y3m, 2 1/2, and 10m. They're all above the 90th percentile for weight and height. LO is indeed my little one since he was "only" 23lbs 11oz at 9 months! I'm tiny (5'3" and just over 100lbs) and am often asked whether I'm the nanny. (how's that for a digression?)
I was planning to wait until summer 2013 to TTC, but DH might be interested in TTC this summer. I'm a little nervous because I'm a SAHM and it can get pretty crazy at times. There are still times I can't believe we already have 3 kids. None of our friends are having babies yet! It's quite the adventure.

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Hi Wendy! Wow, Australia's cutoff for school is so much sooner than in the US. It's September 1st in my area. My daughter will be 5yrs 9months when she finally gets to start school.

Hi Virginia! That's kinda funny that you are asked if you are the nanny! Was the transition to 3 kids difficult? Do you think 4 will be a lot harder? My father keeps saying we are crazy to want 3 or 4 children....

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you know, I've found every transition challenging in its own way. DH got more time off with #3 than with the others, but I was sick when LO was born so it was a bit of a rough start. Having a newborn felt like second nature, but DS1 wasn't napping at all, so once DH went back to work I didn't get to nap either. I think how difficult 4 is depends on when we have #4.

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Anyone think going from 0-1 or 1-2 more difficult? Anyone have kiddos with around 3 year age gap? Easy or difficult?

Virginia- how many kiddos do you want? Just curious.

I think if DH let it happen I would have 4 but I think I am going to be good with 2.

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Hi Wendy! Wow, Australia's cutoff for school is so much sooner than in the US. It's September 1st in my area. My daughter will be 5yrs 9months when she finally gets to start school.

Here they start school the year they turn five, if they turn five before June 30 they are 4 when they start, If they turn five after June 30 they are five when they start. Ronin will be five and three months when he starts school because they start at the end of January

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Here they start school the year they turn five, if they turn five before June 30 they are 4 when they start, If they turn five after June 30 they are five when they start. Ronin will be five and three months when he starts school because they start at the end of January

Interesting! TFS!

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Anyone think going from 0-1 or 1-2 more difficult? Anyone have kiddos with around 3 year age gap? Easy or difficult?

Virginia- how many kiddos do you want? Just curious.

I think if DH let it happen I would have 4 but I think I am going to be good with 2.

Depends on what you found difficult about going from 0-1. If you found it difficult because you had no time to yourself than 1-2 will be even harder. if it was the learning curve about how to take care of your child than 0-1 would be harder. I have a friend with a 3 year age gap and she seemed to struggle more than I did with a 17 1/2 month gap. Sounds strange, but I think it really depends on the children. If your 3 year old is independent and potty trained already it should be fairly good age gap. She was still potty training and her younger son also had BFing issues and nursed for hours at a time. So it was really hard for her to deal with the potty training.

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you know, I've found every transition challenging in its own way. DH got more time off with #3 than with the others, but I was sick when LO was born so it was a bit of a rough start. Having a newborn felt like second nature, but DS1 wasn't napping at all, so once DH went back to work I didn't get to nap either. I think how difficult 4 is depends on when we have #4.

That makes sense. I'd probably gap #3 further out if I was younger, but at 33, thinking I better have #3 sooner rather than later. My mom started menopause at 39.

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Virginia- how many kiddos do you want? Just curious.

I don't know. I'm one of four and I liked that. But we started young and love being parents, so we might end up with a few more. It's weird because people in my area just don't have more than 3 kids (even 3 is kind of rare) and they usually don't start until 5-10 years older than I did. But it works for us. Smile

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That makes sense. I'd probably gap #3 further out if I was younger, but at 33, thinking I better have #3 sooner rather than later. My mom started menopause at 39.

well, 3 under 4 is doable. It's been tough at times, but it's also been a lot of fun. My DS1 was the same age as your DS is now (2y8m) and DS2 was 12m when we conceived #3.

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well, 3 under 4 is doable. It's been tough at times, but it's also been a lot of fun. My DS1 was the same age as your DS is now (2y8m) and DS2 was 12m when we conceived #3.

So I'm not as crazy as DH thinks I am some days! LOL! Smile

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3 under 4 sounds crazy, but also like alot of fun and laughter!!!

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So I'm not as crazy as DH thinks I am some days! LOL! Smile

well, I don't know about that. A lot of people think I'm crazy for having 3 so close. If we decide to go for another this summer I might just lie and tell people it was an accident. Speaking of which, I'm 7dpo and had some spotting this morning but it has since stopped. I'm BFing (which gives me short LPs) and it's my first cycle, so I think it's probably AF starting. it's making me a little nervous, though.

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well, I don't know about that. A lot of people think I'm crazy for having 3 so close. If we decide to go for another this summer I might just lie and tell people it was an accident. Speaking of which, I'm 7dpo and had some spotting this morning but it has since stopped. I'm BFing (which gives me short LPs) and it's my first cycle, so I think it's probably AF starting. it's making me a little nervous, though.

LMAO! Yeah, I guess we are a little crazy at least! I wouldn't lie, just say we want a big family and you aren't getting any younger. I feel so bad for any kid that gets told they were an "Accident" by a cousin etc. It just sounds icky! I'm sure it's just AF starting.

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It did turn into AF, thankfully. I'm not really ready for another yet since my milk dries up when I get pregnant.
My family has its fair share of "accidents". I have a brother and a few cousins who were surprises. I don't think any of them have ever felt unwanted. But, it's a good point. I think "surprise" makes it sound a lot better than "accident".
And I do want a big family, but I'm sure dreading the comments. My mom will be thrilled. Just about everyone else is already dropping hints that they think we should be done. I guess there's nothing I can really do about that.

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It did turn into AF, thankfully. I'm not really ready for another yet since my milk dries up when I get pregnant.
My family has its fair share of "accidents". I have a brother and a few cousins who were surprises. I don't think any of them have ever felt unwanted. But, it's a good point. I think "surprise" makes it sound a lot better than "accident".
And I do want a big family, but I'm sure dreading the comments. My mom will be thrilled. Just about everyone else is already dropping hints that they think we should be done. I guess there's nothing I can really do about that.

Yes, I much prefer "surprise" to "accident"! My father is also dropping hints that we should be done but he knows we want 3 or 4. Ugh!! We just have to ignore them!

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I'm curious to know what people will think if we have a 3rd. I think everyone will be happy for us while also thinking we're nuts. Smile

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Wow! The TOC board is getting busier! February was a busy month, didn't get on here much.

We got our house at the end of Feb, which is a big reno project, wrapping up week 1 right now. I got into a decent car accident in the last week of Feb too, totalled my car, but both FH and I are fine. Insurance worked quickly, so I was able to get a new set of wheels within the week. We also had to do the marriage prep course, as well as finalize some things with new vendors for the wedding (just over 5 months away now!).

I don't know about the rest of your ladies, but I'm glad that daylight savings has come and gone. It's SO much nicer to have that extra sunlight at the end of a long work day! Winter is such a drag, getting up and driving to work in the dark, and driving home in the dark takes its toll.

Nothing new on the TTC front here, still going to wait until June to try. FH keeps saying July, and "what's one more month", I keep saying June, and "what's one less month!". Hopefully life will have settled down a bit by June, and we'll be all moved in to our new place and he can really start envisioning what it'll be like to add to our family in our own home.

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Hi Jessica. I am new here so hoping to chat with everyone in this in between time!

I love weddings! So stressful but always a special time. I totally agree on day light savings!!! My DS is an early riser, and I have been able to shower by myself a few times since the time change. So nice not waking up in the 5am hour! And we pushed his bedtime too, so now we can actually do things after work with him, whereas before he was in bed by 7, so there wasnt much time to be out and about!

Other than that, I POAS the other day. I have been having some strange breakthrough spotting and thought it was slim chances but worth a shot. Obviously BFN. But geez I am ready to get the show on the road!

Anyone doing anything fun for St. Pattys day?

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Sara, sorry about the BFN...even when you're not TTC its still not fun. What DPO are you?

Jessica, sorry to hear about the accident...I'm glad you guys are ok. I'm loving the extra sunlight in the evenings too, however it has been difficult to get up in the morning.

AFM- It's been a rough week. My dad had a second heart attack on Saturday, he had one last year as well. He is ok, but its still so scary. He is at home now, taking it easy. Before my dad ended up in the hospital I went to a 1 year old birthday party, where I was the only person that didn't have a child attached to them or pregnant. Bummer. Lots of questions there. Then we also went to a wedding. Since that was kind of whirlwind of events...DH and I didn't get any alone time together this weekend (ovulation weekend). So I'm not sure if JLIH is still on or what. I did remind him yesterday that June is the absolute latest that I'm willing to wait. He seemed on board still.:wink:

The area where I live (Greenville Ave.) has a St. Patti's day event every year where they have a parade, close the streets down and let people drink in public. But this year we are going to skip it and go to my dad's. Didn't really want to hang around for the "people puking in my front yard" part anyway.

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Sara - Smart move! I guess the time change is a good way to trick the kiddos into a more convenient schedule. I remember being a kid, and thinking my parents sucked because I had to go to bed when it was still light out in the summer! I still find BFNs disappointing even if the timing wouldn't be the most convenient. If I got a BFP right now, I wouldn't be able to hide anything under my wedding dress, but if I wait until June, there's a good chance no one would know unless I told them.

What do you guys think of announcing a pregnancy at our wedding? I was hoping that if we get PG right away, that we'd be close enough to the 2nd trimester by then to be able to tell everyone, but keep it a HUGE secret until the wedding day, even keep it from our parents/siblings. I understand that some of the older folks at our wedding might find it to be in bad taste, but I think we're both ready to accept the negative comments.

Eliann - So sorry to hear about your dad, I'm glad he's doing alright. Do they know the cause of the heart attacks? Is there anything he can do to prevent another? Sounds like you had a busy weekend, that's a lot to have happen! I swear men "know" when we're fertile or something.. FH gets extra precautious around that time. At least he's still on the same June-page.. you never know, we may end up on the same birth board!

I don't think we've planned anything for St. Patty's day. Ottawa is PACKED with Irish pubs, and if you want to get a seat, or even get inside any of them, you need to be there waiting outside at 10 AM or earlier. Not my cup of tea, I don't even really drink to begin with. Last year, I went to a parade in Toronto, and that was pretty neat, but I think I'm going to spend my day scraping wallpaper tomorrow Blum 3 I need to get ready to prime and paint!

Hopefully you all have a nice St. Patty's Day weekend, and that no one pukes on your front lawn (LOL)

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Ya I agree with the no puking in your front yard- that doesnt sound like a good time!
Jessica- Our best friends announced at their wedding they were expecting. It was towards the end and probably 50% of the people knew already, I think she was 12 weeks along at that point. Only slight bummer about being preggo at your wedding is not drinking- if thats your thing.
Eliann- June isnt that far away. But I think for me anyways, we went to JLIH to OPKs like that! Its like the minute you want to conceieve it consumes your brain. For me JLIH doesnt work. I am like lets go! But hope your DH stays on board for June! And I am sorry about your dad. Resting and spending some time with him sounds like an excellent St Pattys day!
AFM- no plans this weekend. Its supposed to rain pretty good this weekend. I dont drink too often but maybe will have some wine. BFNs are not fun. Still disappointing even though I am on BC and certain we didnt hit my fertile period. I was about 15DPO and I got a blazing BFP with DS when I was 10DPO. But man! every day I am more and more anxious to TTC. Kinda worried about having a serious chat with DH about it. He isnt wanting another. So what do you do if your DH says no more? I have no clue what I will think or do. Arg!

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Jessica - I think I'd like the time change more if I didn't have little kids! They used to all wake up at the same time, but now they're all over the place. I'd be hesitant to announce pregnancy at a wedding, but it depends on your family. No judgement, just to put it in context, I also wouldn't have TTC before getting married. I can just picture my kid coming up to me and asking "so, why was I born 6 months after your wedding if women are pregnant for 9 months?" Lol

Sara - sorry about the BFN. My DH has said "no more" several times, but has always eventually come around. I'd sit down with him and try to talk it out.

Eliann - I'm sorry about your dad. I hope he continues to improve. I agree with Jessica, my DH knows when I'm fertile. It's part how I act and probably part how I smell. I usually tell him and his response will be "I know." (we use FAM with backup when I could be fertile)

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Hi ladies!

Sorry I didn't join the conversation sooner. My 19 month old has decided she hates napping and now that we aren't BFing, it's been a challenge getting her to sleep during the day, which is when I usually jump on here. I'm Mia and DH and I have one child, Emma. We were wanting to TTC in December but I had some medical stuff for my eye that we had to do first. I go in to see my eye specialist this THursday when we *should* get the go ahead to start TTCing. We're getting really excited.

I've been tracking my cycles since the fall as BFing made them wonky and I didn't get AF back until DD was 11.5 months old. The first couple cycles were perfect 28 day cycles then I had a 35 day one with crazy O and PMS symptoms and thought I was preggo lol. I'm a week past Oing now and it seems like the longest "fertile window" ever with how my body is acting. Still tons of cm that's now getting watery and my boobs are killing me. I also stopped BFing a month ago so maybe that has something to dow ith it.

Anyway, I look forward to getting to know all you ladies more. Biggrin Sorry I don't have time to catch up on the previous posts now but I'll come back and read them asap. Smile

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I'm not sure if I really introduced myself. I'm Julie (27). DH, Daniel, is 28. I love scrapbooking and other picture projects. I also love the beach which is good since I live in FL. I'm TOC this summer or next, but lately I've been leaning toward next despite my obsession with the age gap being too far apart. Really, it would be nice if a baby could just appear in my arms. LOL. I do not enjoy being pregnant, going to all the dr appnts, and birth/recovery is miserable. Don't get me wrong... It's totally worth it, but it's hard for me to jump into it knowing how miserable I am for 9+ months. Plus, I keep wondering if having 3 will completely overwhelm me. I feel like people will see me out and about and just think, "Wow! She is in WAY over her head."

Going from 0-1 was WAY harder for me than 1-2. I had such a fairy tale vision of what being a mom was going to be like, and once I had my first it was a real wake up call to how hard it is AND not having all the time I wanted for myself and DH. Once I got preggo with #2, I had a more realistic vision and things went much more smoothly. My kids are 22 months apart and I love it. For the most part, they get along great. They spend just about every moment together (even sleep in the same room), yet when one is away they miss each other terribly. It's a wonderful bond. I think a 3 year gap would be awesome. I'm looking at a 5 and 7 yr gap with the 3rd if I TTC next year and I'm having a hard time imagining it working out as beautifully. Sad

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Hey Julie! Planning on age gaps is hard. I hear the pros and cons from everyone on one way being better than the next. If you have a 3rd will that be your last? PS- Love your picture in your signature. very sweet!

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"lizzib45" wrote:

If you have a 3rd will that be your last?

Yes, definitely our last. I have c-sections so I think a 4th would be too hard on my body, but I think I'll feel done after 3 anyway. That just feels like the max for us. Smile

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PS- Love your picture in your signature. very sweet!

Thanks! It's from last Easter. I keep thinking I need to put a more recent pic... I'm just lazy. Smile

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good luck with the spacing, Julie. And 3 can be a challenge. But, mine are all close (20m and 20.5m). I like the close spacing, too, but think another so close might drive me up the wall. DS1 is a Dec birthday so he has another year of preschool before kindergarten. So, I'd have the all home most of the time.

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I totally understand the hesitation towards TTC before the wedding, but the back-story is that FH had testicular cancer this past year, and we'd really like to avoid seeing fertility specialists if we don't need to. They only had to remove one testicle, but, it'll take 4 more years of clean scans for him to be considered "cancer-free". It's already been arranged that if it comes back, he's off to the fertility clinic to make a 'deposit', but there are just so many costs that come with going the medical route. Since there's nothing wrong with me, it wouldn't be covered under any health plan.

With that said.. not many people actually know that he had cancer, so only a few people would really get why we started trying early. I think we're just going to JLIH, and go with the flow.

Not sure were you all are located, but it's unseasonably warm here right now. We're getting temps that are breaking records by 10 degrees (*C) or more. I whine and moan about winter, and do the same in the summer... I wish we had actually gotten a few good spring months!

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hi girls! I've been MIA for a bit, just busy! We are also really unseasonably warm where I am (Rhode Island). I'm enjoying it though because it's in the 60/70s which I like. Took the kids to a great playground Tuesday and hoping to go on Friday again. Smile

Do you all celebrate Easter at all? I'm not religious, but do enjoy getting together with family and having a good meal. We also do the Easter Bunny stuff because it's fun! Smile

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Julie - I hear what you're saying about three being your max. In a dream world where finances weren't a question and DH and I could both be home just doing what we love and raising our children, I would love two of each but three would be our max in reality too.

Jessica - What a challenge for you and DF to face! I hope you guys get preggo soon. Smile My mom had a transplant for liver cancer last year and thankfully all went well but cancer is so amazingly life changing. I hope all of DFs treatment goes smoothly and productively as possible!

Mel - We're having good weather too (in NH). Our families are Christian so they'll celebrate that way. I am not but I am religious so I do more of a spring celebration. For DD, we'll do a basket with some spring themed things. When she's older I really want to give her seeds to plant each year or something cute like that.

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Jessica - that makes a lot of sense. I hope you're able to get pregnant quickly and your FH doesn't have a recurrence.

We do a bunch of secular Easter stuff. DH had the brilliant idea last year to fill our Easter eggs with healthy goodies. The boys were actually overjoyed to find things like nuts and blackberries inside them. I guess it's probably one of those things you have to start early. Wink It's been unseasonably warm here, too. We had the baby pool out in the backyard all week!

AFM: what is it about gearing up to O that sends baby fever through the roof? It doesn't help that it was 5 years ago today that we conceived DS1. I can't believe it's been that long already!

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Julie - I hear what you're saying about three being your max. In a dream world where finances weren't a question and DH and I could both be home just doing what we love and raising our children, I would love two of each but three would be our max in reality too.

Jessica - What a challenge for you and DF to face! I hope you guys get preggo soon. Smile My mom had a transplant for liver cancer last year and thankfully all went well but cancer is so amazingly life changing. I hope all of DFs treatment goes smoothly and productively as possible!

Mel - We're having good weather too (in NH). Our families are Christian so they'll celebrate that way. I am not but I am religious so I do more of a spring celebration. For DD, we'll do a basket with some spring themed things. When she's older I really want to give her seeds to plant each year or something cute like that.

I love the idea of seeds! Might have to steal that one!

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Jessica - that makes a lot of sense. I hope you're able to get pregnant quickly and your FH doesn't have a recurrence.

We do a bunch of secular Easter stuff. DH had the brilliant idea last year to fill our Easter eggs with healthy goodies. The boys were actually overjoyed to find things like nuts and blackberries inside them. I guess it's probably one of those things you have to start early. Wink It's been unseasonably warm here, too. We had the baby pool out in the backyard all week!

AFM: what is it about gearing up to O that sends baby fever through the roof? It doesn't help that it was 5 years ago today that we conceived DS1. I can't believe it's been that long already!

Good idea on the healthier eggs. Maybe I'll try some of that this year. Unfortunately, DS is highly allergic to nuts. He loves raisins though, that might work!

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Jessica- I hope the next 3 years go quickly in the aspect of cancer free. Cancer affects way too many people!

I live in So Cal so the weather is typical, been varying between 65-80- spring time is for sure here. Waiting for the really warm weather but that means I need to get back to the gym. We are not religious but we will do the easter dinner and easter basket this year for DS. he was really too little last year for any real easter basket. I dont know if he would get easter egg hunting this year but I am sure next year will be better for that. Seriously though TTC has engulfed my brain. I have my annual appointment tomorrow. I am somewhat considered not refilling my BC. my cycles are soooo sporadic maybe I can get DH to see what happens- doubtful but I will be bringing it up. but kinda annoyed with DH right now regarding DS's sleeping situation so gotta get that resolved first. lol!

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We do a bunch of secular Easter stuff. DH had the brilliant idea last year to fill our Easter eggs with healthy goodies. The boys were actually overjoyed to find things like nuts and blackberries inside them.

AFM: what is it about gearing up to O that sends baby fever through the roof? It doesn't help that it was 5 years ago today that we conceived DS1. I can't believe it's been that long already!

I love the idea of helathy stuff! DD doesn't like sweets much but loves fruit so I was thinking of doing something along those lines. It's not like I'll never let her have chocolate/candy but why not encourage good habits. Smile

I so know what you mean about getting close to O and wanting to BD like crazy. It always happens to me.

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We don't really celebrate Easter. I'm sure when we have kids we will. I say that, but actually last year MIL invited us over to color eggs. Yep some 30 year olds coloring eggs. It was silly. She's desperate for a grandchild.

Yep when I get close to O I get super baby fever. Well the truth is I have it all the time.

Sorry I haven't been on much, March is always a crazy month. Today is actually my 31st birthday. DH and I went out with friends last night and today we are having lunch with my family. I am also planning a sprinkle (2nd baby shower) for my friend. The sprinkle is next weekend and we are going to a tea room. I've never been to one, so I'm excited.

So there are a few people getting close to TTC. I'm curious what board will you move to?

Sara-did you get your BC refilled? It would be fun to move to a new board with some familiar faces Smile

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We don't really celebrate Easter. I'm sure when we have kids we will. I say that, but actually last year MIL invited us over to color eggs. Yep some 30 year olds coloring eggs. It was silly. She's desperate for a grandchild.

Yep when I get close to O I get super baby fever. Well the truth is I have it all the time.

Sorry I haven't been on much, March is always a crazy month. Today is actually my 31st birthday. DH and I went out with friends last night and today we are having lunch with my family. I am also planning a sprinkle (2nd baby shower) for my friend. The sprinkle is next weekend and we are going to a tea room. I've never been to one, so I'm excited.

So there are a few people getting close to TTC. I'm curious what board will you move to?

Sara-did you get your BC refilled? It would be fun to move to a new board with some familiar faces Smile

Happy Birthday!!!!! Hope you are having a great day! A second baby sprinkle sounds like fun! Wish I'd had one with #2. It would have been nice to celebrate with some girlfriends.

I'm not close to TTC, but thought I'd answer anyway....I tend to lurk until I get that BFP. I'm not one to go from birth board to birth board each month, just not my thing. The TTC boards are nice to hang out on though!

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Ugh Yes I refilled it. And to make matters worse, I switched my Rx to Target and they gave me 3 months of it all at once. Like really? I dont think we are even close to board hopping or TTC. So I will be sticking around for a bit.
Happy Birthday! I just turned 31 last month. Have fun at the Tea Room, never been either but sounds like fun!

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Oh yeah, our kids get candy. Bust since they love fruit and stuff I figure why not fill the Easter eggs with healthy stuff? That way I can let them gorge themselves on it if they want and not have to worry (too much) about then getting sick.

I don't think we're too close to TTC (but who knows). I joined BBs while TTC before and we get pregnant pretty quickly, so I might again. Or I might just lurk. there's a grads board (planning a family grads) with a bunch of nice ladies who graduated from TOC at the same time about 2 years ago if you need another place to hang out once you start TTC.

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Yeah I lurk in the TTC boards and recently noticed that people board hop as well. I don't think board hopping will be for me, I can see me getting attached to a month and being bummed when it turned out to not be my month. I think it would make me more crazy about the timing of it all.

My birthday has been nice! Dh got me a cast iron tea pot, loose leaf teas, and cute little tea cups. We don't usually buy presents for each other (just outings...dinner, concerts, vacations). But it was nice to actually open something this year! I actually cried...AF is on her way.

Sorry Sara to hear about the BC. Maybe in another 3 months?

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Ohh you got a tea set just in time for your Tea Room Sprinkle. Fun!!!
I dont board hop either. I do lurk all over the place though. It seems like the boards have slowed down a great deal from when I joined till now. So WHEN I get DH on Board will likely stay here until BFP. I too get attached especially when TTC and I dont want to jinx anything.3 months? Thats so far away.... DS will be 2 right after that.

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I guess there are a few benefits to board hopping the birth months boards. You get to know some of the ladies who will share your board with you and it gives you a great excuse to lurk (and post a little) on the other months. Wink

So, we're not TTC but I find myself kind of wondering if I'm in the 2WW. Since DS3 we've only been using spermicide, which was fine when I wasn't Oing. It was even fine my first PP cycle since I knew I'd have a short LP. But now... I have a history of conceiving right around the 12m mark and suddenly the 21% failure rate doesn't sound so good. I'd love another baby, but not quite yet. And I'd rather not be due Dec 20th! We already have 3 birthday between Thanksgiving and Christmas. We don't really need another.

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