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November Chat Thread :)

What's going on everyone, it's been kinda quiet?

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I have been super busy lately, I'm hoping it dies down a little bit soon! The weather changed, it is now in the 20's overnight and in the morning when we have to get out the door, and it warms up to MAYBE 40's. It's cold...and I.HATE.IT.

There was an online deal (Amazon) for like 40 OPK's and 10 HPT's for $10, so I bought it. I've never even used an OPK before so I may need some help, I think I'm going to use them the next 2 months just to see when I am ovulating....my AF came EXACTLY 4 weeks to the day this month. I'm kinda excited to get my package Smile it's been so long since I've POAS Wink

My dh has started talking more about it, I think he's secretly getting kinda excited :rolleyes: I was looking in the mirror at the dreaded baby tummy that no amount of working out gets rid of, and kinda complaining about it, and he said something like, Yeah and you just want to put another baby right in there again....I said YEP I sure do!

one of my co-worker's wife' just had her baby yesterday, there is girl after girl on my Jan 09 BB getting pg (one was waiting until Jan also to start trying, but then got PG unexpectedly!) there is one due in Nov, one in Jan, one in April, May, and now June/July. Oh well, it's fun to watch them Smile I also have a friend having twins in Feb, a cousin having twins in Feb, my sister is due in March, and a couple more cousins due in April/May. :eek:

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OH and we just found out that my brother is moving back to Utah! He, his wife and 2 kids have been living in Fairfax, VA for the last 3 years, and he just found a new job and is coming HOME! Yahoo My brother is pretty awesome, and is one of my favorite people, his wife is one of my bestest friends (I almost miss her MORE than my brother LOL) and their 2 kids are 3 & 1, and sad to say I don't know them very well. I can't WAIT for them to get here!

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well since I'm just a'chatting away with myself, thought I would show you some funny pics (at least I think they're funny) of my dd on Halloween

I just thought this was a pretty funny progression of pics....

this is what she wore all day to daycare, it was a hand-me-down, one of my friends made it for her daughter


must have bit her tongue or something

ah well, guess I'll just pick my nose

sick of pictures

MOM! STOP! I don't know why but everytime I see this picture I crack up

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Love the pictures! TFS! I can't believe that many people you know are pregnant! Crazy! That's great about your brother and Best friend moving back to UT! How exciting!

Things are busy here at my house. Work has been slammed, Halloween being a Monday and then we are having friends stay with us this weekend, so that should be good but busy too! DD isn't sleeping well, she's a terrible teether!!! I think it's the only reason I really don't have "baby fever" quite yet! I need more sleep first! LOL!

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Fun photos Lesli, thanks for sharing! And yes the preggos are everywhere. Two days before my wedding I found out that 2 people are pregnant, in addition to the 2 other pregnant ladies I know. Are you still aiming to TTC in January? I think we are pushing back TTC until we get our honeymoon out of the way (I know...always an excuse). We are hoping to reschedule the Thailand trip for the end of January and beginning of February.

Not much else going on. This weekend we are having a staycation. Yay! We are both a little sick, just sneezy and coughing...no fever or anything, but I think we are wiped out from wedding stuff and family stuff. Today is DH's 30th birthday...he is out getting soup right now and then we are going to have a movie night! I already gave him his present awhile back, and we will most likely celebrate with family on Sunday.

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yes we are still shooting for January! I will be getting my IUD out Dec 23rd, and I should have my period shortly after that, so we will be trying right away! Yahoo

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"les27" wrote:

yes we are still shooting for January! I will be getting my IUD out Dec 23rd, and I should have my period shortly after that, so we will be trying right away! Yahoo

Exciting! Yahoo

So my DS was in the ER again this weekend and had to be sedated for stitches because they were so deep and he's so little. This kid is so accident prone it's not funny!!! OMG! Fell off the end of his bed (that has bed rails on it) and managed to cut his forehead open very deep. I am going to wrap him in bubble wrap soon!

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i went to the doctor to get blood results and found out i have high cholestoral they gave me sum pills to help lower it but it says u shouldn't take well pregnant so im going to start eating cream of wheat and oatmeal and stay away from eggs and drink my pills and i go back in a month to see if it lowered so i don't have to drink any pills. and my ac1 is a 10 1/2 so i have to lower it to a 6. so we will see what happens.
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I have been so busy, I have been out of town the past 3 weekends, then declined things for the next two weekends to be at home, and then another three weekends in a row out of town. It's been hard to keep up with everything.

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Holy moly! How is it November???

Lesli~ Love the pictures of your DD! She's a doll.

Elizabeth~ I don't blame you for pushing off TTC until after (during?) your honeymoon. I was newly pregnant when we took a trip to Italy. I was so sick, I felt like I missed most of
the trip.

Mel~ Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry about your DS! Poor little guy. How's he feeling today?

Wendy~ Wow! You are busy. Hope at least some of your weekend trips are fun. Take care of yourself!

AFM~ Just the usual around here. We had another showing yesterday. I hope to hear today what the response was.

DH should be hearing back in a week or so about a job he interviewed for in October. Not sure if we hope he got it or not... It would mean leaving his job with the state, so he would lose a considerable chunk of his retirement, but if the salary and benefits were enough, it would be worth it.

My oldest is two months away from being five. I'm having a really hard time with that idea. I love watching her grow, but I miss that sweet baby. On top of it, she's been a pill lately. I know it's because I've been letting her slide on a lot of things. This whole "being consistent with discipline" thing is hard. You'd think I'd be really good at it, considering it's what I do at my job ALL DAY, but it's different when it's your own kid. We're tightening up and it'll get better, but there's going to be a lot of crying in the meantime. *sigh*

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Yeah some are fun, the last three were to take and pick hubby up from the airport ( we live an hour and a half from the closest airport) and for a meeting. The next three are my Grandfather's birthday, a meeting and my school reunion and my work Christmas party.

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Frustrated over here. My hcg level is still enough to get a faint positive on a pregnancy test. I was hoping it'd be down so since it is not Im slowly losing hope of ovulating and having AF before the end of the month and my regular time. Im freaked out that after the d/c that my cycles wont be the same...we were hoping to try in Jan...oy. Wish it'd return to normal!!!

I also have a cold/cough thing going on thats annoying the heck outta me. wakes me up a night and hard to go back to sleep...hence 1 am and on here...

leslie-cute pics

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Lesli - TFS those photos! She is absolutely adorable. And yay for starting on the TTC train soon!

Elizabeth - Here's to hoping you come back with a 'souvenir' from your honeymoon. Wink

Mel - That must have been quite a deep cut! Hopefully the scar isn't too noticeable when healed.

Crystal - I hope your cholesterol lowers easily. My mom had to lower hers not too long ago. Switching to whole grains and limiting carbs really helped her.

Wendy - Hopefully you're getting some time for yourself to relax. Is your hubby gone every week for work?

AFM - Just working and waiting for the snow to fall. A storm is building on the horizon and supposed to hit us in the next couple of days. SO is ready to start snowboarding this weekend and has gotten into his yearly funk. Every winter he makes a stink about being at work while friends are skiing during the day. I keep having to remind him that with a good job he can afford his 'toys' but skiing 2 days a week still isn't enough for him.

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Crystal - Google the "Brewer Diet". It can help immensely with lowering cholesterol and it's also a diet many midwives recommend during pregnancy.

DS is doing okay. He had two deep stitches (disolvable kind) and then 6 outside stitches. DH took him to get the outside stitches out today and he looks okay I guess, going to have a scar I think, but it's straight and doesn't look too funky I hope. On Tuesday he managed to climb on the bureau in his room at naptime and tip it totally over. He's lucky we didn't go to the ER yet again. OY!

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"kitkata" wrote:

Wendy - Hopefully you're getting some time for yourself to relax. Is your hubby gone every week for work?
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Hubby is a chef and works split shifts 5 days a week so I barely see him, even when he is home he spends most of his time in our back room playing his x box or watching anime online. He went away to visit his brother while he was on holidays which is why I had to take him to the airport. Me time doesn't really exist for me, I get maybe 15 mins a morning if I get up at 6am and thats to eat breakfast qiuickly. My DS doesn't go to sleep early and even when he gets to bed he wakes a lot at night still.

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"ange84" wrote:

Hubby is a chef and works split shifts 5 days a week so I barely see him, even when he is home he spends most of his time in our back room playing his x box or watching anime online. He went away to visit his brother while he was on holidays which is why I had to take him to the airport. Me time doesn't really exist for me, I get maybe 15 mins a morning if I get up at 6am and thats to eat breakfast qiuickly. My DS doesn't go to sleep early and even when he gets to bed he wakes a lot at night still.

I'm sorry Wendy! That's hard. Sounds to me like your DH needs to help a bit more when he is home, or at least spend time with you and DS. Do you have any family or friends that could take DS for just an afternoon or something?

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UGH just got back from the doctor.....a few weeks ago I got what I thought was an ingrown hair in the crease right at the top of my thigh right where the thigh meets the hip, and it hurt but I've had them before so I just tried to get rid of it on my own, well it was pretty much gone on Wednesday, then all of a sudden Thursday it flared back up, it was super red and I could feel fluid in there and HURT SO FRIGGIN BAD!, so I went in to the doctor. He put a local anesthetic on it, then opened it up and got all the puss out, it was absessed (sp). Then took a sample to go to the labs to see exactly what type of infection it was (he thinks it may be MRSA :() and wrote me 2 different antibiotics. So now I have an owie on my leg, but it definitely feels better than it did with the absess on it. and I'm on major antibiotics. So this will be a fun 10 days Sad

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No my family all live an hour and a half away, my friends aren't really at the having kids stage and wouldn't want to babysit, and they all live an hour and a half away as well, I have one close friend locally but she is always really busy and often not around on weekends, the rest of the people I know are either work mates or other Mum's from daycare, none of which I would feel comfortable calling on to help out. If my Mum comes down or we stay up there she always offers to watch DS but she has raised her children and I don't want her to feel like she has to raise mine as well so I only accept if it's really needed, like Guide meetings or not so kid friendly events, but most of the time if the event isn't overly kid friendly I just don't go.

Lesli- Sorry about that ingrown hair going so bad and what a terrible spot. I have had them turn to boils before and thats not fun. I hope it isn't MRSA.

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Wendy, you and I are in the same boat, all my family is at least 1.5 hours away, most are almost 3 hours away Sad dh's family lives 4 miles away, but we never see them.....

just wanted to give you hugs :bigarmhug:

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oh...and can I just say how much I LOVE my doctor? he's a GP, so he is my OB, Savanna's pediatrician, etc. when I went in today, he said "So, I seem to remember prescribing you prenatal vitamins a month or so ago, any luck?" I called in a prescription, I never talked to him face to face, and he remembers something like this! I told him that no, I just started on the prenatals for the 3 months prior and that I was getting my IUD out next month. He also remembered my DD's name (without looking at the chart). I just love him so much! And he was so excited that we were going to have another one! Smile

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Sounds like you got a winner of a doctor. My local doctor sucks, any appointment is usually 2 hours late and a work mates husband was still waiting at 5pm for an 11:30am appointment a couple of weeks back.
My good doctor is in my home town and on indefinate leave for family reasons which sucks. She only saw me once in my pregnancy for unrelated issues, but still ran overtime on my appointment so she could hear the heart beat on her doppler and discuss birth and birth plans with me and was so supportive of my plans to give birth naturally giving me tips to help out, then didn't charge me extra for a long consultation.

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Kate-Hope your cycles return to normal soon so you can start TTC in Jan.

Erica-Fun Snowboarding! I've only been skiing once in Andorra and I didn't get any lessons before getting to the top of the blue slope. Learning on the way down was not so fun. I'd like to try it again on a smaller slope Wink

Mel-Poor DS. Hope it heals nicely. Sounds like you have an active little guy.

Wendy-You need a break girl! Find a sitter for DS and schedule yourself a day at the spa.

Lesli-Oh my MRSA's are no fun. I had an absess once on my shin and it was a MRSA. Took forever to go away and they are so scary!

Amy-Any news on DH's job yet?

AFM-This week has been a PITA trying to reschedule the honeymoon. Travelocity tried to tell us that we would not be receiving a refund for our flights to Thailand, that was like 4 years of my savings, so I became livid and persistent and finally got my way! But I'm still dealing with all the rescheduling of the hotels/guesthouses as well as the national flights since we were flying to Cambodia and Phuket.

I've also started studying for my arch exams again. Blek. And DH (ha I can call him my husband now) and I got into a long discussion about kids the other day that warrants it own post. I was thinking about maybe leaving the boards for awhile to take my focus away from babies, but not sure that would really help since 4 people have become pregnant within the last week. But basically he just doesn't think its possible for us to have kids. I do think he was just having an awful week, but still, hurt my feelings. MEN:annoyed:

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Yes MEN! Sorry hope things get better for you....

AFM- just found out I wont have a jobeffective Jan 31....which will postpone our ttc plan Sad unless I can find other work...more ranting to come tomorrow Sad

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Elizabeth~ Nope... No word on the job. The company was supposed to make a decision mid-month, so I guess he should hear soon.

I'm so sorry you and your DH aren't seeing eye to eye on having children. I hope his outlook on things gets better soon.

Lesli~ Oh my gosh! That's terrible. I hope you find work soon!

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me too Sad of course the first words out of dh's mouth when I told him, was "well then I guess ttc is out of the question" Sad

I do have a couple of things that might work out, so I've got to just think positive...
1) I can now add more Zumba classes, maybe do some classes in the mornings/afternoons (right now I only offer 2 nights a week, and 1 sat morning class) won't bring in a ton of money, but it would bring in some
2) my babysitter offered me a job as a 2nd caregiver, we could have 16 kids total if there were 2 caregivers - she is going to call the city today and see what the ordinance says (she thinks they may only be able to do 8, its an in-home daycare) and she would just split the profits 50/50 with me....and dd would be free, so that saves us $400+month right there
3) my old job asked me a few months ago if I wanted to work on an as needed basis, but I would have to get a business license and work for myself, and work isn't guaranteed...but I can name my own price since I would be the only one in town (I live in a small rural town 100+ miles from any amenities) so if I did do it it would be a big assett

so anyway, this ^ is what I've come up with in the last 24 hours :eek: so hopefully that means everything will work out

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Lesli sorry about your job, glad you have some options though.

Elizabeth, the only baby sitter I have is my Mum and she lives an hour and a half away and I hate imposing on her too much, even though she doesn't mind babysitting DS. She watches him one Saturday morning every 2 months for me to attend a meeting, now he is mobile he's a bit harder to take with me, when he was little he just came to the meeting and she is baby sitting on December 3rd because I have a school reunion. She also offered to babysit for my work Christmas party the week after.

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#2 is out, can't have that many kids in an in-home daycare Sad

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I haven't been on the boards since the summer, I really needed to just leave it alone for a while since the 'baby fever' was getting on DF's nerves. Since it's been forever since I was on here telling our story, a quick recap:

Back in April, DF found out he had testicular cancer, super scary. The doctors worked quickly, he had surgery at the beginning of May to remove the affected testicle, which led to us talking about TTC earlier than we had originally planned. The fear of chemo affecting his fertility was looming, so we thought it might be best to try right away, although it wasn't the ideal situation. Fortunately, after followup testing, he was deemed cancer-free, and wouldn't need chemo after the surgery. We've decided to wait until the late-spring to start trying. The goal is to be far enough along at our wedding to be able to tell everyone then.

It's creeping up quickly! Just over 9 months until we get married! In the meantime, we have to reno the kitchen and bathroom of our new house before we move into it in April-May, so life will be busy.

I'm excited to spend more time on the boards, especially now that we have a timeframe for when we'll be ready to TTC. Looking forward to getting to know you all!

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Elizabeth - so sorry to hear that DH is changing his thinking on children. I totally get this as SO has been back and forth for years and it's heartbreaking when they voice a change of opinion. I really hope your DH comes around and it's just a reflection of the bad week he's been having.

We do live in a great area for skiing. I taught myself by pointing myself down a hill and going but I was younger so less fearful of falling.

Leslie - I really hope everything works out for you. Could you open your own daycare in your house?

Wendy - I really hope you get some time for yourself. Does DH ever do a 'Daddy Day' with Ronin?

Amy - how's the house selling going? Are you waiting until you sell to look for a house?

AFM - SO and I are slowly looking at houses that interest us. We've made a list of what we want in a house but it's hard to find in the town we're living in. Most of the houses were built cheaply by coal miners in the 1940's/50's. I'm just hoping for a house that doesn't require much fixing to be livable when we buy (as it has happened to a few of our friends already - new furnace, insulation, etc.). Does anyone have any tips for first-time buyers?

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"kitkata" wrote:

Wendy - I really hope you get some time for yourself. Does DH ever do a 'Daddy Day' with Ronin?

AFM - SO and I are slowly looking at houses that interest us. We've made a list of what we want in a house but it's hard to find in the town we're living in. Most of the houses were built cheaply by coal miners in the 1940's/50's. I'm just hoping for a house that doesn't require much fixing to be livable when we buy (as it has happened to a few of our friends already - new furnace, insulation, etc.). Does anyone have any tips for first-time buyers?

No hubby doesn't do a Daddy day, he has a couple of times when his day off has coincided with DS being sick, but thats it. Hubby is very clear on telling me he likes to enjoy his days off. He doesn't do a lot of houework on his midweek day off even though he is home alone as DS is at day care (hubby's days off can change from week to week so we have to keep daycare for 5 days). Hubby won't even walk DS down to the park nearby ish for a play, even if I go, he would prefer to sit in the back room and watch anime or play video games. I know no matter how manyy kids we have I will pretty much be a single mother because hubby is inherently selfish or is at work.

For buying a house make sure you get a good inspection done, building and pest, then look at what they say needs to be done and decide if you can afford/ want to do that much work.

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Lesli-Sorry to hear about your job. That's tough. I went without a job for 3 months before I started waiting tables. Being a waitress was awful so I won't recommend it to you. But its great that you have some options.

Browntown-Sorry I can't remember your name and when you are in reply mode, you can't see signatures. I hear ya on the baby fever getting on DH's nerves. That's sort of why I joined these forums...I needed an outlet for my baby talk. And yay for DF being cancer free and not needing chemo. Have fun planning your wedding! Mine was fun, but I'm glad its over. Hope your wait to conceive isn't too long.

Wendy-I'm sorry, it looks like you don't have a lot of options. I don't want to step on any toes, but it might be worth having a talk with DH about all this stuff if its really getting to you. If I lived near you, I would totally come and babysit and send you to the spa for a day.

Erica-We are also looking to buy. Possibly a townhome or a really old home as well. We too are nervous about buying something older because of maintenance issues. There is a lot to consider. A lot of our friends moved into homes and immediately had to replace AC units, fix roofing problems and termite problems. Like Wendy said, you should hire an inspector.

I'm going to post a rant now. Stay tuned.

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"eliann" wrote:

Browntown-Sorry I can't remember your name and when you are in reply mode, you can't see signatures. I hear ya on the baby fever getting on DH's nerves. That's sort of why I joined these forums...I needed an outlet for my baby talk. And yay for DF being cancer free and not needing chemo. Have fun planning your wedding! Mine was fun, but I'm glad its over. Hope your wait to conceive isn't too long.

The baby fever is strong over here! I can't tell if the fact that all of my friends are having babies makes it better or worse :rolleyes:

You guys just got married recently, right? Do you think he might just want some time to settle into married life before taking the next step? It's so hard when you're not on the same page. When DF first mentioned TTC early back in the spring (his idea), I was all over it, in a "Can we go do it right now?" kind of way. Then, when I got serious about it, he backed off and got very panicky whenever I brought it up. Understandably so, he had a lot on his plate.

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Jessica-Saw your name this time before I posted Wink Yes we just got married last month. Everyone keeps telling me the same thing...he needs to settle into marriage. We've been co-habitating for years, I guess I never realized he would need to "settle" in. I'm backing off for now. And what you said is so true. If I don't bring babies up for awhile, he starts talking about TTC and then when I get all excited about it, he backs off. Guys are weird. Your guy had more of reason for wanting to wait though.

Glad to have you back! Look forward to chatting with you more.

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Im trying to be patient...but last week I took a hpt -equate brand-to see if my levels had dropped low enough that i would get a negative. it was a faint positive. 8 days later i got a shopko brand and it was negative-evap showed up a looong time later and there was faint line but i know it wasnt there w in the time frame as i held it up to the light and couldnt see anything so im going w that first answer of course-but now i dont know what level of hcg that brand picks up to get my neg-i know my numbers are somewhere between 50-25 last week...and the equate picks up 25 and over, the shopko may be one of those that picks up 50 and over so of course it would be neg...i really should just go to walmart and get another equate...but im so impatient as to wondering if i will get AF late next week or early the week after (before d/c i always got AF at the end of the month-around the 29-30th. So Im hoping I O next month...

Its been almost 7 wks post d/c...I envy the girls who get back on track and stopped bleeding w in 2 wks...I had ALOT of problems...I just wanna be normal and get back on track so we can try again!!!

Dont know if anyone cares, just wanted to get my thoughts out...

Started back at the gym-got a gym membership now. Thats so nice. I went 3 days this week. Taking today and tomorrow off as I dont want to wear myself out and spend some time with my son. I already feel better. I was doing spinning and walking 3x a week from Feb-Start of July and then quit, gained what I lost back, got pg, so I didnt care much, now it feels good to start back.

Have a good weekend ladies

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Wendy - thanks for the advice. We have a couple of friends that did the inspection after they got the house and then found out there were major repairs that needed to be done before moving in (new furnace, insulation, etc.).

I completely understand about doing everything around the house. That's one thing that worries me with wanting children with SO. He's a walking tornado and doesn't always understand everything I do around the house to keep it clean. I've contemplated going 'on strike' but I know SO still won't lift a finger. He can handle more mess than I can. I've tried talking to him about it but the last thing I want to become is a nag. And I'm with Elizabeth, I would totally babysit for you if you weren't on the other side of the world. Smile

Elizabeth - It's a gamble buying something older for sure. My mom has told us we shouldn't look at anything before 1975 but then we're looking out of our price range. The one rule SO and I have is that we don't want to be spending our entire paychecks on owning a house. I need my play money too.

Jessica - welcome back! So sorry I didn't respond to you last time! So happy to hear that your FI is cancer free. Smile

Kate - sorry to hear about your loss and that it's taking longer to get back to normal. Are you getting another beta anytime soon to see where your levels are? And good for you for starting your workout routine again! I love how good I feel after a hike.

Winter is here and it's not leaving. We have about 6 inches of snow already but it turned bitter cold so I'm staying indoors as much as possible. I'm trying to convince SO that a real tree for Christmas is a great way to go but so far no luck. He's worried about the cats climbing it when we're not home. Has anyone had this problem before?

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Elizabeth - Marriage is a big step! I'm sure he'll come around. Maybe you two could compromise? Pick a date where you can sit down and discuss it matter-of-factly, and do your best to hear each other out? If he can understand why it's important to you to start earlier than later, he might find that it makes more sense than waiting a couple of years?

DF suggested trying because there was a very real chance of becoming infertile as a result of treatments. We had everything lined up for the worst case scenario. If he needed chemo or radiation, we had an instant, same day appointment with a fertility clinic for him to go and provide a.. well, deposit. Generous family members offered to foot the bills for the storage, and for further treatments. I'm not sure what it takes to have fertility treatments covered by healthcare, I *think* the female needs to have blocked tubes?? Not sure.

Kitkata
- A fellow Canadian! That's too bad that you guys got snow already! It's been much warmer than average for this time of year, but I don't think that the snow is too far off now. FYI, out cat climbed the Christmas tree once. Key word being once, because it scared the crap out of her, and she never tried again! I was a kid when that happened, but after that one incident, my dad used two small screws and twine to tether the tree to the wall. There's nothing like the smell of a fresh cut tree though, I love them!

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Ive never had problems with cats climbing xmas trees, Ive had cats my whole life. They may play w the ornaments, but we just move those that are lower to the higher ground and thats fine...
My next beta is anytime but she said after I get my AF would be best. I started bleeding today and cramping so Im thinking its my AF. Even though it wouldnt really be due (If i were back to my normal cycles, for 7 days at the earliest) so being a week off isnt to bad I dont think....we'll see. And even if my cycle stays like this, I wouldnt mind, as the way the cycles were puts me at the very beginning of a month to have a baby-which means I have it at the end of the month before my due dates...so it wouldnt be all that bad to have them moved...we'll see if they stay that way...and I hope we are able to conceive as easily as the first two...

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Joined: 04/27/07
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Its the crazy week of Thanksgiving...wow. Time sure flies! Yesterday had a dentist apt, had to skip the gym due to lack of time after work, supper, cleaning, shopping..
Today I plan to go to the gym for at least a hr then have to make dessert for DH's potluck at work tomorrow, Tomorrow is grocery shopping after supper and work and then thanksgiving. Im undecided whether to hit walmart at 10pm that night. Id like to get a few toys and a bedding set for him thats there but not sure...we'll see. Then nothing Fri.

Anyone else doing shopping for black fri?

Have a great Thanksgiving!

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I sometimes shop black friday, but never the early morning deals, it's just not worth it to me....I don't do well with so many people in one place, anxiety or something

I do go later in the morning/afternoon, because they still have great deals, but not a gazillion people

trying to keep my hopes up, my dh and I had an argument a few days ago, I told him that us not TTC should be a discussion between the two of us, it shouldn't be an absolute NO just because I lost my job. we didn't talk about it for a few days, then last night he finally asked me if I was ready to talk to him about it, and so we did. He said he just needs some time to process this, we need to look at our debt & income and see it all laid out on paper. He is just worried that he can't provide for our family on just his income. I told him I understood that, but that a baby is not going to add much extra expenses, our insurance pays for everything maternity (maybe $100 out of pocket, including birth, well baby check ups, maternity care, etc) I have everything I need if we have another girl, my sister has everything we need if we have a boy. It's not going to add much expense was my point. diapers and wipes (which we already buy anyway) and I'm going to BF so no expenses there. He said to just be patient, he just wants some time to think. He said maybe in a few weeks he'll feel better about it and we can proceed, but he needs some time. He also said that he's just as bummed about this as I am (uh, no he's not) and that he was getting pretty excited about having another baby too. Like I said, trying to keep my hopes up that we can still proceed TTC the first of the year......

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I hope it all works out for you Lesli.

If I have a 2013 baby I can access my long service leave and get more time off. Leave is a huge issue for me at work right now, I took 7 weeks this year and they are at the point where if I don't put a plan in place for next year asap I will be ordered to take a month off and have no choice on the time. I have a possible minor procedure to be done next year so I guess I will take anytime I need for that as rec leave instead of sick.

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Wendy, I'm just curious what do you do for work?

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Child protection

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Hope it all works out for you to Les. What a ongoing battle/discussion.

Thatd be nice to have a long leave! Is it a possiblity for you to have 2013 baby?

Have a good thanksgiving to all who celebrate it! We are going to my brothers tomorrow, which is good. We have not seen him for a looong time. Im ready for some good food!

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Yeah 2013 is probably the most doable for us at the moment. Not only would I get my long service leave my workplace gives 14 weeks maternity leave and the government gives 18 weeks, though the government one is paid at a lower rate than my normal wage.

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Joined: 04/30/11
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Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!

We already had ours last month, but I was joking around with my parents to re-open the cottage in NY and go visit one last time for the season. I want another turkey!

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Hi there, hope you all had a fantabulous Thanksgiving! It's almost December, its crazy!!! I love Christmas so I can't wait!

Well thanksgiving sure brought the preggos out. I learned that 4 more people are pregnant over the holidays. I know 11 pregnant women now. Not all that I'm close to (I'm including facebook friends). But I went to a party where 2 people announced their pregnancies. Crazy sauce.

Anyone get any similar news? I guess this chat thread is ending soon! I might not log on for a couple days, so see you in December!

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I had someone tell me in confidence that they are pregnant and I thought my cousin said something about it Saturday night which I truely hope not as I saw her drinking alcohol and smoking the same night.

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so last night I said to dh "so I guess I need to cancel my appointment huh" (appointment to take IUD out Dec 22) he said "yea probably" then waited a minute then said "well don't cancel it yet"

what's a girl supposed to think? Sad

Joined: 11/30/11
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OH and we just found out that my brother is moving back to Utah! He, his wife and 2 kids have been living in Fairfax, VA for the last 3 years, and he just found a new job and is coming HOME! My brother is pretty awesome, and is one of my favorite people, his wife is one of my bestest friends (I almost miss her MORE than my brother LOL) and their 2 kids are 3 & 1, and sad to say I don't know them very well. I can't WAIT for them to get here!