Recently my sister (who has 2 girls) was at a family dinner and a reletive asked when they were going to have a boy. I was irritated for her!
It got me all worked up because I know I'll be hearing it this holiday season as well.
Why is it anyone else's business what's going on with my uterus/fertility?
Since we had DS I hear the "he needs a sister" all. the. time. and I know it's just going to be that much worse over the holidays.
Please tell me I'm not crazy... Is anyone else dreading this?
Will you openly share when you want to try for another, or will it be hush-hush until you announce the pregnancy?
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I would hate that. This will probably be my last Christmas to NOT get that question.
DF's cousin got married 5 years ago, and someone always asks them at our get togethers, I feel bad for her when they ask. They don't really talk about what's going on, but I'm pretty sure they've been to fertility doctors, and may have already tried a round of IVF. I've seen her a couple of times recently, and she's been wearing looser clothes than she normally would.. I really hope this is their year.
What's a good way to fend off those questions?
I get asked ALL THE FREAKING time whether it's holidays or not, if we are having another, or even worse "you're done right?" WTH! No, we are not done, we plan on 1-2 more kids if things work out for us and we don't change our minds.
I just answer truthfully that we want a large family and are having at least one more if we can. I'm dreading the "when" questions this year. We had DS and DD so close in age I think people are going to start asking "when are you having your 3rd" since everyone already knows we are going to have another eventually. I'm considering answering "no idea, but you won't be told until I'm 14 weeks pregnant and you better be happy for us!" LOL think that would shut them up?
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This is pretty annoying. People need to mind their own business. I went to a party of the thanksgiving holiday and literally everyone there was pregnant or had a baby with them. So after they all announced their pregnancies, they all turned to us and asked "so what about you guys?" And of course this has been quite a sensitive topic in our house lately. DH was pissed. My MIL and my dad both ask us all the time. NO pressure! Geez.
I hated that too.....for us, though, we won't be hearing that any time soon. Everyone on both sides thinks that since we've had a boy we're finished. DH and I have decided that we'll keep quiet until we're pregnant and share then. Hopefully you won't hear too much over the holidays. I wish people would just learn to keep their thoughts to themselves. We'll share that important information when we're ready
yea I've got it a few times in the last month, which is really hard because I DON'T know what's going on yet (lost my job, so most likely won't be trying in Jan like we had planned, but DH won't give me a definitive NO) I feel like saying "well we were PLANNING on trying in January, but I just lost my job, so now we aren't....thanks for bringing it up and making me sad.....AGAIN" my family all know what is going on, so I don't get it from them, but random people on the street who think they need to ask me personal questions just piss me off
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Hello all (totally lurking around here)!
I got that question so many times over the past 8 years! My DD has been an 'only' and if I had a dollar for every time someone suggested that my daughter needed a sibling I'd have been able to buy her one :/ Even AFTER most people found out that my (now EX) husband had a vasectomy they still brought it up (he didn't want kids to begin with).
My experience is, making a comment that throws them off will lessen the frequency of the questioning LOL. However it's a line that will never end, no matter what.
It's started again now that I'm remarried to a wonderful man and we DO plan to have more children, in fact we have been trying for a year but I don't think that's our families or friends or strangers business! I like the comment that they'll find out when you're 14 weeks pregnant!