Poking my head in ;)

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Poking my head in ;)

Hi all :wavehello:

I'm Nathalie. Mommy to 3 precious boys aged 6, 4, and 2. Hope you don't mind if I hang out here a little. My baby just turned two and I've gots the fever bad ! lol This is the longest I have gone without getting pregnant again since having my oldest. DH and I agreed after DS#2 was born that we would no longer actively TTC, but we aren't preventing either. Just leaving it all in God's hands. DS#3 was a huge surprise and our first "not trying not preventing" blessing, so now I'm just here hoping and praying that God will bless us with another surprise. Biggrin

Looking forward to obsessing with you all.

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Welcome! It's nice to see a new face around here!

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Thanks Sarah-Jean ! Biggrin

I love the little baby emotes in your sig. Super cute. Wow, 7 little miracles. You must be so busy but what a blessing to be surrounded by so many children. They sure make life worth living. Biggrin

How did your families react to you having so many ? Were they supportive ? Makes me sad that our families aren't in favor of us having any more. They feel that 3 is enough. We barely got a reaction when we announced number 3 was on the way, but they absolutely adore and dote on him now, so I guess it will be the same if we have another.

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My family is always mixed. They know not to say anything negative, but that doesn't mean they're very happy about it. To be honest though, I couldn't care less. It's my life, my family, my finances and my time and effort... If I feel I can cope and give my kids a good life, that's all that matters in my book! LOL

And as you said, they're always so in love with them once they actually arrive!

I'm perimenopausal now so I feel like time is running out for me. At my last appointment I was told my AMH levels were so low I'd probably need IVF with donor eggs to conceive. I don't feel it's reached that stage yet as my chart this month said I Ovulated so I intend to improve my health and then see if we can get pregnant and stay that way. Smile If it's meant to happen I'm sure it will... Smile

You'll never regret having #4! You may regret giving into family pressure and not having another though. (((((HUGS)))))

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"Sarah-Jean" wrote:

It's my life, my family, my finances and my time and effort... If I feel I can cope and give my kids a good life, that's all that matters in my book!

THIS is exactly how we feel too ! I was nervous about telling them about baby #3 and a little sad at the lack of excitement, but in the end, I agree 110% with what you said. Our life, our business. Our kids are well taken care of and have everything they need and then some. They are happy, well adjusted, well behaved kids. Clearly we're doing something right. Wink

I'm so sorry to hear of your condition. How did you find out ? Were you specifically tested for it ? I hope menopause holds off for a while yet for ya ! :bighug:

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I'd been having the classic symptoms for perimenopause since I was about 28, on and off. Finally couldn't live with it anymore and after being told by my Dr twice that it was impossible (despite a family history of premature menopause) I paid for private testing. Lo and behold it turned out to be exactly what I suspected it was! LOL

We've decided we won't go as far as IVF. At one time we would have done, but now we're fairly settled and comfortable and although another baby would be a blessing, I'd rather spend the money on the kids I have to be honest. So it's either going to happen naturally, or it's not I suppose. I'm trying not to think about it too much! LOL Just focussing on getting as fit as possible and as much of the excess weight off as possible before September! I'll worry about the rest when/if it turns out to be a problem. Blum 3

I'm sorry your family weren't happy with #3. It's so easy for others to stand in judgement when they're not a part of it all. People have a horrible habit of shirking their own personal tastes and preferences onto others. "I wouldn't want 3 kids, so nobody should!" style! LOL I've learnt over the years that if I'm happy, I don't care about anyone else's opinions. But I do remember how much it hurt back then, when I really wanted people to be happy and bouncy for me... Having a large family is controversial at the best of times, but it's just so, so worth it!!! We have so much fun, everything is a big adventure!

Are you currently TTC, or just hoping it'll happen or do you have a time limit of when you're going to start?

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DH and I made a deal after DS#2 was born. We decided that we won't actively TTC anymore, but we won't ever prevent either. We had a very difficult time getting pg with DS#1 and although conceiving DS#2 was a breeze, I still wondered if with our history of infertility it would be possible for us to get pregnant without actually trying. Then DS#3 came along and showed me that it is possible. Biggrin

So... just hoping and praying that the JLIH thing will work again. lol

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I love the JLIH thing too! It's nice to be able to just take everything in your stride.

Here's hoping it happens soon for you! (((((HUGS)))))

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NATHALIE!!!!!! HI! I hope JLIH works for you!

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Hi! Our boys are pretty close in age. My oldest is 6y 1m, then 4y 5m, and 2y 9m, and 2m. I love having 4. It's wonderful.

I got a great reaction from my parents even with #4. But, during the pregnancy my dad and ILs all recommended we be done after 4, mostly because they're worried I'll ruin my health by having more. I'm 30, a very healthy weight, and in good shape, and my MW thinks I would do fine. My pregnancies haven't been a breeze, but, except for placenta previa with #4, they haven't been complicated, either.
Other people have been much less enthusiastic with each additional baby. 2 they took in stride. 3 they accepted. By 4 I was getting the "have you figured out how it happens yet?" comments. You just have to take it in stride. And maybe think up some good retorts.

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Thanks Sarah-Jean ! Hope everything works out for you too. Biggrin

Hi Mel ! :wavehello: Thanks.

I've been lurking and checking up on you on the birth boards. Wink I hope that you get your BFP soon. I know how frustrating TTC can get when it takes longer than expected. Maybe we'll get to share another birth board. That would be fun ! :bighug:

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Hi pico (sorry don't know your real name lol),

I think I recognize your screen name from the December '07 BB. I was on the Nov '07 BB and used to lurk on Oct and Dec as well. Biggrin

We get the same comments. I think 2 kids is just the norm and people are shocked when you have more than that. I think my family worries about me as well which is why they are less enthusiastic about us having more. My first pregnancy was a little rough. I was sick a lot and bled throughout the first trimester and I had issues with high blood pressure which turned into pre-e at the end. My second pregnancy was better. My blood pressure was a bit of an issue again and my fluid levels were high so I was induced at 38 weeks. My little guy was facing the wrong way and I ended up with a c-sec. after a long labor. I think family was just worried about the same issues happening again with another pregnancy, so that is why they were less than enthusiastic when we announced #3 was on the way. This time though, I was more informed and a lot healthier. I started the pregnancy 15 lbs lighter and consulted with a Naturopath throughout my pregnancy. She had me drinking RRL tea and Nettle tea and taking fish oil. I had a text book perfect pregnancy with no health issues whatsoever and I had an easy and quick natural VBAC. I felt so great I couldn't wait to do it all over again. lol

Do you get the girl comments too ? Some people were like "aaah that's too bad" when baby #3 turned out to be a boy, and of course we get the "are you going to try for a girl" comments. As if the reason I want more is because I am dying for a girl. :roll: I would love a daughter for sure, but I have never been disappointed not even for a second, to have 3 boys. I love being a mommy and couldn't care less if I end up with a dozen boys. Wink

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Yeah, I've been around since the Dec 07 board. I definitely get the girl comments all the time. I used to want a girl, but I'm thrilled with a pack of boys and would love more of the same.

I get hyperemesis with my pregnancies which makes the first 4 months unbearable. With all except my first I said I'd never do it again. Then I go through low BP for a few months and have to be very careful not to faint. The third tri is actually my best. I tend to breeze through it. I was even mostly comfortable right up until 41w with DS4. My births have been great. I'm never up again right after, but my body has no trouble getting the babies out. The only really dangerous issue I've ever had was placenta previa this past time which barely moved enough at the last minute for a vaginal delivery. It was scary and is really the main reason I'm not completely sure I want another. If I could skip the hyperemesis and know the placenta would cooperate, I'd want 2 more, easily.