Spanking: for or against?
We are non-spankers (more by my husband's choice), although there are some days I swear Cecelia will drive me to it!
Very against it!!
I don't see myself spanking as I still remember being spanked as a child and those are not memories I would want for my future children.
For!! I was raised by the saying "spare the rod and spoil the child" ! It drives me innnssaaannneeeee to see disobedient children ... Especiallyy the children that act out in public and disrespect their parents ! It makes the parents look like the have no control.. For for for!!! Now im not saying that if you dont spank your children they will def be disobedient .. I dont want people to feel any type of way
Against...don't want to do it but did a couple of times when Hunter was being disobedient and felt soo bad after....
it just doesn't make sense to me how if you hit an adult its illegal but if you hit a child it's just "spanking".
Lurker. I'm for it! I was raised spare the rod spoil the child as well. I was spanked when I was younger, and I'm now a well adjusted, good person. I think it's also all in how you do it too. Always remove yourself and calm down first. Never Never spank a child in anger.
I am for spanking but only in certain situations.... Like when Makenna (DD) ran out into the street, I wanted to make a huge point that that was very dangerous. It isn't something that I routinely do.
Well Alison when you hit an adult u intend to do bodily garm to that person .. When u spank a child its for discipline purposes. Now if you hit a child to cause bodily harm thats abuse. Its all relative to the situation and what the outcome is supposed to be . There is a difference between beating a child and disiplining one
To me hitting is hitting. Where do you draw the line?
Reminds me of that quote:
"there's nothing manly about hitting a woman, and theres nothing adult about hitting a child"
I believe in certain situations it might be ok. But I also believe most things can be resolved without it. I remember when my brother was little and he went to put a fork in the outlet. My dad pulled him away and slapped the top of his hand and I think in that situation it would be ok. After being spanked as a child, my dad would let us cry it out in our rooms for half an hour and then he would come in and say that he was sorry, and remind us of what we did wrong and make us promise to never do it again. And we never ever did.
I would try things like timeout and talking with a serious disappointment voice before I'd try spanking. But I see a lot of kids yell "no" back to their parents and then continue to run wild. I think some children have worse behavior problems than others and may require a spank from time to time.
Alison the line get drawn with self control.. My mother disciplined us NEVER my dad because if my father hit us then he felt that it would be acceptable for a man to hit us. For some its about culture .. These children have no respect for anyone or anything . To each his own .. You wouldnt and that extremely understandable . To me its not so much fear but a way to learn not to do anythig .. There is so many times you can reiterate ..