Hey there guys, I have been a member here forever but don't think I was during my two pregnancies with my daughters. I joined up after the fact.
I have two girls (7 & 10). I had them in my 30's before I went on anti-depressants and before I became overweight.
I have always felt that my little family was incomplete with 2 kids. Always always always wanted 3. But I had given up that dream a couple years back for no clear reason. I just became accepting of the "fact" that I needed to be on anti-depressants forever and figured it would just be easier to give up thinking of having another baby. I had an IUD for 5 years and it works very well for me, but I took the IUD out myself last week. I have just become fed up with my weight gain and want to rid my body of all hormone altering drugs including anti-depressants. I have also already started taking my meds about every 2nd or 3rd day instead of every day; depending on withdrawal symptoms. I've just had it with feeling like I have no control over my body (and weight) anymore.
Unrelated to this decision tho, I started thinking about maybe baby #3 wasn't completely lost. Maybe I could still do it. I'm prepared to do it too. My husband has always felt satisfied with our two daughters but I have a deep need to have a 3rd and at the same time hoping for a boy. Altho having a boy is less of a need for me than having 3. 3 girls would be cool and it would complete my family.
So anyways, I feel that having a 3rd child is completely my decision for reasons I won't go into, but just know that it is. Financially, we're not "there" but I've never believed that a family should wait on money. In fact, family always has a way of making money work for it however it needs to, if that makes sense.
So, I'm sooo ready to start ttc but I want to be off the anti-depressants first. I'm trying not to go cold turkey either. And I don't plan on quitting my ADHD meds. I still need to see what the risks of continuing to take those are....
Anyone else out there in a similar situation as me?
- me Tania
- dd Jada (10)
- dd Maya (7)
I was thinking your username sounded familiar - I think we were on the same board with our 7 year olds!
I am pretty much right there with you, except I am on the end of trying to decide when to give up on trying.
Definately need help in the weight department, have some undiagnosed depression issues, but can appreciate your feeling about getting off medication, as it is my main concern about not wanting to go on any. Turned 42 the end of last year and that alone should have me thinking about shutting down the factory - but I just can't seem to let go of the thought of that just 1 more (I would love it to be a girl, but like you, 3 of the same is fine too)
If you feel like having a third then great! Make sure you are discussing any symptoms of going off the antidepressants with your doctor, I wasn't on them for long (like five months) before I realized they weren't doing much for me but it still made things go a bit wacky till my body adjusted to being without them.
I took out my IUD by myself (well half way and made DH finish it) too, weirdest feeling ever, made me nearly faint just because it was weird.
Good luck with you TOC/TTC journey.
Turned 42 the end of last year and that alone should have me thinking about shutting down the factory - but I just can't seem to let go of the thought of that just 1 more (I would love it to be a girl, but like you, 3 of the same is fine too)