Sorry I'm late getting this up! Elizabeth's turn!
What are you DS and DD like? Are their personalities different?
What is your DH like?
How did you and your DH meet?
What is it like to be in ministry together? Do you have long hours?
What denomination are you? Do you actually stand up and do sermons (I have a huge fear of public speaking, so this would be huge to me)?
Have you always been religious?
What are 5 things that you want to do/accomplish in your life?
What is your favorite book?
Favorite thing to cook?
Favorite thing to eat?
Yay! So excited about this!!
What are you DS and DD like? Are their personalities different?Ha! Good question- I don't think they could be MORE different. Aidan is very rough and tumble, but he has a very sensitive heart. He doesn't like watching anything even remotely sinister/scary and he tears up when he hears about bad things happening to people. For instance, we were watching Monsters vs. Aliens the other day and he was most concerned that Susan/Ginormica was taken from her family. He looked at me with tears in his eyes asking "What's going to happen to her, mommy?"
Ainsley on the other hand is very bada**. She has this huge personality that makes me scared of her teenage years. We dressed her up like a shark for Halloween because she has a habit of biting when she gets angry.
What is your DH like?He's the guy that everyone loves. I don't know if you guys watch this seasons' Dancing With The Stars (my guilty pleasure), but JR totally reminds me of him. Always positive, looks for the best in everyone, funny. He's half Indian and half Dutch, so he's this big, tall brown guy. Good lookin. He's a great dad, too.
How did you and your DH meet?We met at this tiny college in Saskatchewan. I transferred there a semester before him. He walked into the girls' dorm and said, "hey, is that your Buick out there? My mom has one just like that!" Classy pick up line.
What is it like to be in ministry together? Do you have long hours?We love being in ministry together, but we do face a lot of resistance. We are a team, through and through. We each have our strengths and cover each others' weaknesses. A lot of people can't handle women in leadership in ministry. I've come to realize that I will always face some resistance, but as long as the two of us are on the same page, I don't really care about everyone else's opinions.
We work long hours because DH also works another job full time. We take turns carrying the load. I handle most of the day to day load. I take people to coffee, do hospital visits, administrative work, organize meetings when needed, and I head up the music and children's programs. Trevor does most of the speaking, and he does coffee with people throughout the week as well. We've started taking one night a week that is family night because it started overwhelming our lives!
We are part of a denomination called Foursquare International (I guess one would dub it Charismatic), but I've been involved with different ones as well. I've never been drawn to a certain denomination as much as individual churches. I don't think we'll leave Foursquare, though because they are very supportive of their pastors. They provide us with so much assistance and give all their pastors free counselling (we do by Skype and it's been so great for us) and they even sent us a card when they heard about our miscarriage.
I do speak! I've done it since I was a little kid. I used to preach sermons into a tape recorder when I was 5 or 6 and hide them under my bed. Once my sister found them and made fun of me for YEARS! Not even kidding you, though- our denomination when I was a kid had talent contests, and they had preaching contests! I actually had preaching trophies. Now that, my friend, is legit.
I guess you could say that. I grew up as a pastor's kid, so I've always been around it. I think I was more "religious" when I was younger. I grew up in fear of this God that I learned about in church who was very stern and unloving and judgmental. I mean, my birthday is on Halloween, and I was never allowed to go trick or treating. We would sit in a dark house so no one would knock on our door. My mom told everyone my birthday was on November 1st because she was so embarrassed.
For example, this is my mom's Facebook status right now: (Not even making this up)
"Hoorray!!! halloween is OVER so glad, sick and tired of nothing but witchcraft, demons and vampires on the TV and everywhere you go. What a horrible holiday, using the word holiday very loosely! Wish you folks would spend as much, time, energy, preparing your dress and money on the Lord. His benefits last ALL year and are also out of this world! Try it you WILL like it!"
Now I believe what I believe out of my decision and not based on fear. And I've learned to respect and love others who may not believe the same as me. And I focus on championing for social justice like Jesus did and separate myself from the people who claim to be Christian but hoard their wealth while people are suffering (because THEY earned it, goshdarnit!), fling insults and accusations when they should be mending relationships, and judge people when they should just be loving people.
Oops... went off in left field. I think because of what I've grown up around and still see everyday, the term "religious" has a whole another connotation to me.
What are 5 things that you want to do/accomplish in your life?1. Write a book- I have a blog now, but I'd like to eventually turn it into a whole book.
2. Write and record an album- I already write music, play piano, and sing- but never followed through.
3. Get my master's degree in Counseling.
4. Become healthy again.
5. Learn photography.
What is your favorite book?Oh, I love to read so much! I love historical fiction (especially anything by Shaara) and classic literature (Austen, Hardy, etc.). I also quite enjoy reading non-fiction by C.S. Lewis and biographies. I just finished on on Mary, Queen of Scots. So intriguing.
A book that changed my way of thinking is You Can't Be Neutral on a Moving Train by Howard Zinn. Fantastic.
Favorite movie?Hmmmm... I can never pick. I remember watching A Time To Kill when I was younger and being deeply moved by it. I also love sports movies, especially Blindside. The latest movies I've fallen in love with is The Help and Crazy, Stupid, Love.
Favorite thing to cook?I love cooking! But my favorite thing to cook is homemade pizza, because our whole family helps, even Ainsley. We're all covered in flour when we're done, and it's usually past bedtime because it takes so long. But it's frustratingly wonderful.
Favorite thing to eat?On a regular basis- chicken tacos on corn tortillas with homemade guacamole salsa and pico de gallo.
What I never get- good, southern fried chicken, or country fried steak with gravy. Canadians just don't get it!
Elizabeth, I loved reading your answers. I hope I didn't offend you by asking if you have always been "religious" - I just love knowing what people believe and why and hearing about their "journey" to get where they are. I love that you embrace your religion out of love and joy and not out of fear. I am not really a very spiritual person myself (although sometimes I feel myself moving more in that direction) but the thing that I do believe is that our purpose as living, thinking, caring human beings is to be the living embodiment of God's love for each other. If there is a God. And even if there isn't. LOL After my first miscarriage, I was rocking my son to sleep in his room, and I was praying which I almost never do, just trying to come to some sort of understanding or peace. And in the middle of this big conversation I was having with God, my son, who I thought was asleep, says out of the blue "I love you Mommy." And it just kind of clicked in my head that he is living proof that if there is a God, he loves me very very much or else he wouldn't have given me such an amazing gift as my perfect beautiful funny little boy and his love for me. And if T can prove that God loves me, then maybe I can prove that God loves you, and you can prove that God loves the next guy, and maybe that's the point of this whole merry go round is to just be kind to each other and show each other the love that God has for us. And sometimes that is a hard job LOL. Somedays I literally mutter "God's love" under my breath to remind myself that I need to be kinder to someone who is totally testing my patience, and too many times I forget it all together. But it's something to aspire to, right?
Anyway, sorry, I'm totally rambling, I just really connected to what you said about your beliefs, about being a champion for social justice and what not.
Okay, now I have to think of some more questions!
What irritates you more than anything?
What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Where did you grow up?
What is the one thing you miss about living in the States?
What is the one thing you don't miss about living in the States?
Elizabeth, I loved reading your answers. I hope I didn't offend you by asking if you have always been "religious" - I just love knowing what people believe and why and hearing about their "journey" to get where they are.
You didn't offend at all! On the contrary, I quite like getting the chance to share my journey. I know how much the church has messed things up and how they've hurt so many people, it's nice to explain how my faith may look a little different than what people would automatically assume.
What is one thing that you like to do to unwind?
If you could live anywhere in the world for one year, where would you live?
If you could have one food be calorie and fat free, what would you choose? (stole that one from Jina!)
Who is one person IRL that inspires you?
What irritates you more than anything?Selfishness. That, and obvious grammatical errors (especially your/you're, there/their/they're... especially on Facebook statuses. lol)
What is your favorite ice cream flavor?Blue Bell Homemade Vanilla. Man, I miss that ice cream. We used to get my sister who is still in Texas to send it to us packed in dry ice.
Where did you grow up?Houston, Texas
What is the one thing you miss about living in the States?The shopping. Canada has paltry deals. And Target. But that's coming to Canada. I just have to make it one more year!
What is the one thing you don't miss about living in the States?The health insurance. I had DS in Washington, and I'm still paying his bill. Thank you, Aetna.
I love The Blind Side too! Did you ever watch Friday Night Lights? I'm watching it now on Netflix and I am HOOKED!:D
Sweet or Savory?
What scares you?
Do you have any can’t live without beauty products?
What style is your hair?
What is the one thing you are insecure about?
What is the one thing you are very confident about?
Who is your best friend? How long have you known him/her?
If you could meet one famous person (living or dead), who would you choose? What would you ask?
What is your favorite holiday?
Where do you want to retire? How do you picture yourself then (golfing, covered in grandkids, et cetera)?
What is one thing that you like to do to unwind?I like to sew. The reason I do that to unwind is that it's so tedious that I actually have to really focus. I don't think about anything else but the sewing. Everything else I do to unwind, my mind is still working in high gear going through everything I need to do and worrying about all my problems.
If you could live anywhere in the world for one year, where would you live?One of those gorgeous islands in Greece. Mama Mia style. I would eat figs and consume my body weight of Feta. I took Greek in college (Koine Greek, though, so it would be like learning Old English) so I would probably be able to survive.
If you could have one food be calorie and fat free, what would you choose? (stole that one from Jina!)Ooh... good question. Not really a food, and it doesn't have fat, but I would say pop/soda/coke. It is my downfall. I give it up regularly for a week or two but always give in again.
Who is one person IRL that inspires you?In our denomination we have a supervisor who checks in on us and supports us and makes sure everything is going well. Most supervisors are old white men with comb overs. We have an awesome woman. She is Native American and has her doctorate, and is an incredible musician. She breaks every stereotype for someone in her position. She's hilarious, and we make politically incorrect jokes all the time.
In Canada during most of the 20th century, the government would round up all the Native children and send them to residence schools run by either the Catholic or Anglican church. They were taught that there cultures and customs were evil and that they needed to be like white people. It really scared and destroyed a whole culture.
So, Cheryl works with the Native American (called First Nations in Canada) culture reinstating their culture, and showing that you can be Christian and be Native. It's pretty cool.
And the reason she inspires me is because she is a strong, beautiful, talented, funny woman that is changing people's lives.
I love The Blind Side too! Did you ever watch Friday Night Lights? I'm watching it now on Netflix and I am HOOKED!:D
I watched the movie and loved it but haven't watched the show. I need to! I'm Texan and LOVE football... lol I don't know if our Netflix has it. Canadian netflix sucks. I'll have to check!
Sweet or Savory?Hmm... probably savory. Now I'm thinking about a bunch of savory foods and my mouth is watering...
What scares you?Dying and not being here for my kids when they need me.
Do you have any can’t live without beauty products?I used to, now I'm just happy to get a shower! lol
What style is your hair?I just got it cut for the first time since before Ainsley was born (I'm telling you... I'm a REAL slacker on my appearance right now!) I got over 14 inches cut off. Here's what it looks like kind of- http://pinterest.com/pin/158157730/
What is the one thing you are insecure about?I'm insecure about my weight more than anything.
What is the one thing you are very confident about?I'm starting to get old enough to realize that I have a lot of experience in certain areas... you know when you change from being younger and feeling like a sort of novice with everything? Especially with music. I've been singing in choirs, solo, and band settings for years and years. Yesterday I started directing a high school choir. And I went in there like, "I can totally do this. There aren't very many people who know more about Choir than I do!"
Coffee or tea?
Are you a girly girl, or more of a tomboy?
Where do you want to go for your next vacation?
What is one "current topic" that you are passionate about?
I just caught up a little and will read more later, but wanted to say... I am so glad we are doing this, because we learn so much about each other. It made me realize that our beliefs seem to be very similar. While I'm sure your mother "means well," attacking people just isn't the answer! Jesus Himself didn't attack the unbelievers, he attacked the "religious" and "pious" people who were "supposed" to be believers that were judgmental and looked down their noses at people.
I agree that it is so sad how people who call themselves Christian do some of the things that they do. It pains me so much when I see it happening. Like you said, we're supposed to be helping people and loving them, not attacking them.
Can't wait to read more... maybe I'll try to do it now, even though its late
Ooooo, a Blue Bell ice cream lover AND a soda fanatic? I like you even more now
Oh and I think that is so cool about the Native American woman supervisor!
EEK! SO behind!
Who is your best friend? How long have you known him/her?My best friend is actually a school friend of DH. They went to school together from First grade to graduation. After DH and I got married we moved to his hometown and Jenn and I hit it off right away. I've never had a friend as close as her. She's been there for the kids' births and would be their guardian if anything happened to me and Trevor. My biggest regret is that we weren't close friends until after my wedding, so she wasn't in the wedding party.
If you could meet one famous person (living or dead), who would you choose? What would you ask?Hard question! I love history, so there are a lot of historical figures on my list. I think I would like to meet Paul, from the Bible. He seems like such a dichotomy to me. He was kind of a hard a## sometimes, but he talked a lot about loving others and not being selfish- I think he would be interesting to have a conversation with. Although he would probably scare me.
What is your favorite holiday?I have to go with Christmas! Love it! But I also really love Thanksgiving. Especially American Thanksgiving. Canadian Thanksgiving is really laid back and not as important as it is in America. I remember those holidays feeling almost sacred when I was a kid... I loved it.
Where do you want to retire? How do you picture yourself then (golfing, covered in grandkids, et cetera)?I haven't though about retirement at all! I would love to be somewhere warm and have something I believe in to be involved in. I think if I had to sit around with no purpose I'd probably just keel over... lol
Coffee or tea?Probably coffee. I love tea if it's iced sweet tea (my Texan roots... lol). I'm KIND of a wuss when it comes to coffee (my parents both drink it strong and black!) so I put all kinds of cream and sugar in it.
Are you a girly girl, or more of a tomboy?I'm a mix.. I love fashion and jewelry and hair and makeup, but I LOVE football and other sports and stuff like that.
Where do you want to go for your next vacation?Not Montana or Surrey, BC. lol That's pretty much the two places we go to visit family. I wouldn't mind a trip to Mexico.
What is one "current topic" that you are passionate about?Haha.... I'm passionate about a lot of topics! I think the biggest thing for me right now I've touched on kind of falls in line with the Occupy Wall Street story. I can't honestly say that I know all the details about everything that is going on, but while I know there is selfishness on each side, I have a huge issue with people hoarding their wealth when other people are starving, suffering, or have no homes.
I'm tired of seeing people in their fifties and sixties accusing my generation of being selfish, lazy, and entitled while they sit back and benefit from the inflated housing markets and hold on to all the high paying jobs making it impossible for college graduates to find work. That's a real issue here in BC, I'm not sure if that translates to the rest of our continent. I just know that my DH and I work long hours, we are very frugal and never spend money frivolously, and barely make ends meet. And I have a feeling that we represent a larger portion of our society than those people want to admit.
Jesus Himself didn't attack the unbelievers, he attacked the "religious" and "pious" people who were "supposed" to be believers that were judgmental and looked down their noses at people.
Thanks, Mary. I so wholeheartedly agree with this statement! How have we (the church) gotten it so wrong? It breaks my heart.
Elizabeth - sounds like you are the 99%. Us too.
Elizabeth, I really enjoyed reading about you. I'm so glad we are doing this!
PS - I meant to tell you earlier that I grew up in Houston too.