Chemical ...what now?

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Joined: 10/02/11
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Chemical ...what now?

This is going to make me cry, all over again, but here we go. I found out I was pregnant on Sept 23rd. That was a Friday, I took many many pregnancy tests over the weekend, they all came back positive. On Monday, the 26th, I started bleeding. I flipped out and went to Urgent Care. They said I was pregnant, but didn't know why I was bleeding and it was probably normal. Next morning, I made an appt with an ob/gyn (and I will NEVER go back to her, she had completely horrible bedside manner) and they said that either I was having a miscarriage or it was too early to see anything and she seemed unconcerned with the bleeding. She sent me out for an HCG test. Said to come back Friday and have it done again. Well, my levels fell. I cried and cried (doc told me to get myself together and go to the front desk). I think I didn't completely fall apart only because I wanted to smack her. I passed some tissue on the 29th of Sept and stopped bleeding on the 31st. My flow did get heavier towards the end, more like a period.
This month, my breasts started getting sore. I got excited, thinking I was one of those women who got pregnant right after a m/c. I'm not sure when my cycle should be back, but if it was "normal", it should have been back last week. I was unsure of taking an HPT because of the thought of another CP. But, in the end, I took one... just a few hours ago actually and got a BFN. I took it way harder than I thought. Yes, this means my HCG levels are back to normal and we can try again, but where the heck is AF? I remember wanting to STOP bleeding from the chemical and now I want to start bleeding to get back on track as soon as possible. My emotions are so messed up right now - I just knew I was pregnant again. :bigsad:

Joined: 03/02/07
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Sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I've just been through a chemical too. I don't think it's unusual to have long cycles after a miscarriage (at any gestation). Probably your cycles will return to usual soon. Or, maybe you are pregnant and it is just too early to show up on an HPT. Do you track ovulation at all? At any rate, hormones are just cruel when you really want to be pregnant. The symptoms can really fool you.

I am sorry, but not surprised at the way your doctor's office acted toward you. The first miscarriage I had, which was also very early on, the nurse was quite rude, in my opinion. She said, "it was just a bad pregnancy". The next time, my recent chemical pregnancy, she was much nicer to my surprise and actually said she was sorry I was going through this and it would be okay. Not sure why she was so much better the second time, but it did make me feel a bit better.

I hope you are feeling a bit more hopeful by now. Keep us posted on how you are.

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I am sorry you are going through this. :bigarmhug:

I agree with the pp....hang in there....I'm sure your cycle will get back to normal soon. Good luck and I hope you get a sticky BFP soon!

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Joined: 04/27/07
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I dont have any experience w a chemical. But I know with hormones it can take a while to get those back on track and they can make your bbs fuller/sore while trying to get your cycles back. I hope they return to normal soon for you. I had a d/c and am waiting for normal as well. I wouldnt go back to your OB either. With mine I had such compassion and it even got to the point of skipping the third person/switchboard and call her directly at home. I couldnt stand having someone w no compassion while you are going thorugh this. Go to and track your bleeding/symptoms.

Joined: 10/02/11
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No, I don't track ovulation - I'm kind of scared too because I don't want to get too stressed out about tracking everything because I've heard that thinking about conceiving too much can hinder it.

I have an appt with another ob/gyn on Tuesday. I know from all the reading I've done on the internet lately about chemical pregnancies that she probably won't have any answers for me, but hopefully we can at least have a better "relationship" than I did with my previous doctor.

Thanks for all your advice, I'll keep you updated.

Sticky baby dust to us all!:babydustblue: