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    Hello. My name is Kathleen. I had the Mirena removed October 17th. I got a positive pregnancy test on November 25th. Then two days ago I started bleeding heavily. I had a loss of symptoms a couple days before that. I have not had any cramping and have not seen any clots which I wonder about. I wanted to see the doctor about this and to confirm the loss. It was a fight just to get in to get a blood draw. They would not set an appointment with the ob. I am waiting to hear something back tomorrow but I am sure that it ended. I have not been handling it very well. Then I feel silly that I shouldn't be felling this way, that it was really early. I can't help it though.

    So my questions for you are... Have you ever had a loss where you didn't see clots and didn't cramp? How long did the bleeding last? And how did you manage to get through it?

    For those of you that had the mirena removed, did you suffer more than one loss afterwards?

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    So sorry for your loss.

    I don't really have any input to share on your questions as my m/c didn't occur naturally, but I'm sure some of the other ladies will be able to share their experiences soon!

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    Hi. I'm sorry for your loss!

    It might not be over - either the pregnancy or the m/c. I'd definitely get it checked out to make sure you aren't retaining the placenta or something like that. No experience on the Mirena question.

    My experiences: I went to a 9 week dating u/s and there was no baby, just a sac. they told me I might just have dated myself wrong but I knew for sure I hadn't, so started mourning right away. 3 days later started bleeding, then over a week later had one day of really bad cramping and clots. Then I bled for another week or so. So almost 3 weeks of bleeding at different amounts.

    As far as your feelings - I was devastated with my loss. They dated the baby at 5w3d but I thought I was 9 weeks. An early loss, but still terrible. I'm still feeling sad and probably will my whole life. That baby was real to you and you should grieve for what you have lost. *hugs*

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't help with the mirena question, but I can tell you my experiences.

    #1 m/c - had only a few spots of blood in total. D&C performed for missed miscarriage (12 weeks)
    #2 m/c - natural. Bright red bleeding on and off for a couple of days then severe cramping and passing of clots (5weeks)
    #3 m/c - bleeding on and off for 4 weeks. No clots. D&c at 9 weeks for missed miscarriage. Lots of clots after (retained products)

    I'd push to get checked out. It's better to ease your mind then keep worrying about it. The emotional pain is enough without stress.

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    If you were to take a test now, is it showing positive still? With a very early loss, it can look like AF. Or there are other reasons to bleed during pregnancy besides a miscarriage.


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    I can't help with the Mirena question. I'm also not sure I can help with your bleeding / clots question. I had bleeding with my first pregnancy - reason undetermined, but I did deliver my daughter - healthy and happy. I just recently suffered a miscarriage. Went to a 9 weeks U/S to be told that the babies heart beat was low (50) and the baby was only measuring 8 weeks. I had to go back a week later and the heart beat was gone and baby was only measuring 8 weeks, 2 days. I was still experiencing all the symptoms and pregnancy -- they called it a missed miscarriage. I was given three options - wait and see what my body did on it's own, be given meds to make my uterus contract or schedule a D&C. I was borderline because of the babies gestation on whether the meds would work on their own and ran the risk of potentially needing an emergency D&C. So, I elected to just be done with it - and start the healing process -- so, I had a D&C on 11/27. Since then, I've had bleeding and cramping off/on but no clots really.

    The first 2-3 days were light bleeding/spotting, then I had 2 days of bright red blood - but not heavy (like I probably only needed 1-2 pads for the day), followed by a day of spotting. Then nothing for 1-1/2 days and then some bright red blood again (thought maybe it was my period; but it only lasted 1-1/2 days) and back to spotting.

    I'm tempted to call my doctor just to be sure, but apparently this is normal?! However, I was told at discharge that if I had bleeding, spotting followed by red blood again that I should check in. But, they made it sound like only if it was heavy bleeding and since it's not, I'm tempted to just chalk it up to hormones still adjusting. I go back for a 3 week post op check up on 12/20. So far, I haven't tested to see if I would still show a positive pregnancy test -- don't want to see that positive and know it's not real.

    As for how to cope -- you need time and to go through the grieving process. I've talked to some good friends who have had miscarriages and that has helped. One of them gave me a book to read -- I haven't started it yet, it's still too painful. But, I plan to try to read it over the Christmas break.

    Hugs to you!

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    It took me a lot just to get the Ob's office to allow me to come in for a blood draw. The called be back and said it was negative. I still never did cramp at all or clot. Intold the nurse this but she didn't seem concerned. If we decide to try again I am nervous and would like to get my blood draw to make sure the numbers are rising but I have a feeling the wont allow me to come in again. And this is why I plan to go to a midwife as soon as I have a viable pregnancy and get cleared by their consulting ob.


    Joshua- 04/08/08
    Sofia- 06/10/09
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    Quote Originally Posted by isisgoddess_1 View Post
    It took me a lot just to get the Ob's office to allow me to come in for a blood draw. The called be back and said it was negative. I still never did cramp at all or clot. Intold the nurse this but she didn't seem concerned. If we decide to try again I am nervous and would like to get my blood draw to make sure the numbers are rising but I have a feeling the wont allow me to come in again. And this is why I plan to go to a midwife as soon as I have a viable pregnancy and get cleared by their consulting ob.
    I'm surprised that they just shrugged you off like that! I find that sometimes the people in the medical profession seem to forget that this is new, scary and painful for us even though it's 'routine' for them. The only person I met at the hospital who said that they were sorry and told me to take care of myself in a considerate way was the woman who did my final blood draw before the D&C. She had asked some question along the lines of "are you pregnant, or could you be pregnant?", which was fine because she hadn't even looked at the requisition yet and couldn't have known, so whenI told her that I was there for the D&C she told me to take it easy, take good care of myself and that eventually today would be just a memory.

    Sorry that your OB office isn't taking better care of you
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    With my loss I had pregnancy symptoms until my m/c which was a week after I was told at my 12 week u/s that fetal demise occurred at 8 weeks. I had no bleeding or cramping until that point. I still needed a d&c later because of complications.

    my bleeding lasted 14 days and I had a normal cycle with day 1 starting with the d&c.

    Getting through it was hard. The only thing that made it better was time. I got pregnant again shortly after but that didn't seem real until the second trimester. I never expected the loss to affect me so much but I realized i was mourning the loss of a potential child. I also questioned my ability to have a successful future pregnancy. My DH was sad for the loss but it didn't affect him the same as me.

    With my next pregnancy my Dr offered an early u/s or blood draws. she didn't like blood draws because she felt they created more stress. I ended up having heavy spotting for the first trimester and u/s at 6, 8, and 12 weeks. I felt no relief until 12 weeks so I doubt blood draws would have made me feel better.

    Good luck.

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    Unfortunately, I can answer your question now. I'm in the process of having a m/c around 5w and I've had plenty of cramping and clots. Maybe your lining was still thin from the mirena and that's why you didn't have clots?
    sorry the OB is being such a pain. I hope you find an office which treats you better.

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