I guess we are here (CHILD MENT)

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batbird's picture
Joined: 08/29/06
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I guess we are here (CHILD MENT)

I have two boys, first was a preemie and the second a high risk preg. We were waiting to try for a third until after we talked with MFM and got some things straightened out. I was on medicine for a sinus infection, not trying, and we got pg with number 3. I'm not sure how far along I was when I mc (first apt was the next Thurs), but I am assuming about 6 weeks. Everything passed normally. Turned out I didn't need sinus surgery.
That was Aug, and dh and I talked today, and are ready to try for another pg. What happens at this point? We had to use fertility meds to get DS1. DS 2 came after our first month of trying with no aids. The pg I lost was a complete surprise. Is it hard to ttc after a mc? Are you super fertile or does it take several tries? The mc itself was surprisingly easy for me to deal with. I guess after having a preemie and almost loosing our second with the added stress of the meds for the sinus infection possibly causing major birth defects for the baby we lost it wasn't something unexpected. Plus, it was just begining to sink it that we were pg. What is this rollar coaster like? Any hints/suggestions?

FLSunshineMom's picture
Joined: 06/07/06
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I'm so sorry for your loss :bigarmhug:

The hardest thing for me about ttc after my loss in 2009 was the nervousness I felt about getting pg again, not knowing whether or not I would mc again. As for how fertile you are after a mc, I've "heard" that you are more fertile after a mc, but I've never actually researched to find out if that's actually true. As for whether or not to use fertility drugs, I say trust your instincts.

Best wishes to you for smooth sailing as you ttc again. Smile You are welcome to join us on the CTC thread (chat thread), when you are ready. We give each other a lot of support there.


Alissa_Sal's picture
Joined: 06/29/06
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:bighug: I'm sorry for your loss.

I've also heard that you are more fertile after a m/c, but I have waited several months to try again after both of mine, so I haven't really tested the theory. I know that it didn't seem like it was any harder to get pregnant after my m/cs.

To me, the harrdest part is the uncertainty - I think that after you have a m/c, you can never really get back that innocence where you just assume that everything is going to be okay.

Anyway, I'm sorry that you have a reason to be here, but welcome, and I look forward to chatting with you.

AlyssaEimers's picture
Joined: 08/22/06
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Oh no, I am so very sorry to hear this. :bigarmhug:

yellow.rose.of.canada's picture
Joined: 01/13/10
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I'm sorry about your loss. As for my personal experience, I had a m/c in May and waited one cycle to try again. So, no luck for me. But I have heard that it can increase your fertility.

Joined: 12/07/10
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I'm really sorry for your loss but glad you're over here to receive some support. :bigarmhug:

angelover02740's picture
Joined: 07/10/07
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no sure about being fertile i waited the 3 recommended months and then started again and now im on my 3rd cycle so i dont think it made me more fertile