Introducing myself (long mc story)
Hello ladies. I'm not sure if I belong here yet but I've been lurking some and thought I would share my story and maybe get some feedback from you. I have two healthy children and unfortunately recently lost our third. I was 16w5d along when my husband, children and I went for an elective ultra-sound to find out if our little one was a he or she. The lady was having a hard time getting a good view and after awhile I started to get a little worried because I wasnt seeing any movement. I mentioned that I had not noticed the heartbeat and at that time she informed me that she was having a hard time finding it. So my husband and I took the kids home and went to L&D which is where they confirmed that our baby passed. I had a d&e done the next day. Our baby measured about 2 weeks behind and my ob thinks that his growth started to slow down (we had the first tri screening which was normal) and he then eventually passed. I've had some testing done to see if maybe I have a clotting issue but I just got my results today and they were normal. I'm so confused as to what to do. I feel this need to have another child but of course I'm scared. In a way I was hoping that I had a clotting problem that way I would have an answer and would hopefully be able to prevent another miscarriage (which I know isn't possible). My dr suggested waiting 2 cycles before trying again but also said to do what I feel is best for me, I love my dr by the way. My other 2 children were born via c-section so it would be best for us to wait until July to try (we have been fortunate to not have trouble conceiving) because I'm the one that has to take my son to school and it would be difficult to load and unload the children twice a day, 3 times a week while recovering from surgery. One of the other mothers at the preschool who has had 2 miscarriages said that she would help me but she has 3 living children so I don't want to put that on her. On one hand I think that we should wait until this summer to try but on the other (my more emotional one) I want to start now. I had the d&e done on 2-1-12 and just finally got my period last week. Some part of me thinks that I should wait until I'm done grieving before trying but I don't feel like that will ever happen. I miss being pregnant and my dear Taylor, I should be feeling him kicking and moving. Ladies, if you made it this far, thank you. From your experience, what would you do?