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Let's Chat! (m/c ment., child(ren) ment., siggy allowed)

Hey ladies, who's out there?
I know there is a CTC thread but it seems to have gone dormant. Unfortunately, it seems there are a lot of newbies lately. So I thought since we're here we might as well get to know each other. So, how is everyone? Where are you at in your cycle? TTC already or still waiting to TTC? Anything else going on?

~Lynn

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Sounds great. I'm on CD12, TTC, but my body hasn't gotten the message yet. I have no CM at all and am still spotting sometimes. I'll be 6 weeks out from the D&C tomorrow, my HCG should be down (or just about) based on my last test... I'm ready to stop waiting!

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We aren't very chatty, are we? Wink

Sorry your body doesn't seem to be cooperating. The waiting is hard, I know. Sometimes that last bit of hcg seems to take forever to go down. I bet it won't be long though, especially if you had AF...maybe o will just be a little late. Are you charting or doing opk's?

AFM, I don't really know what my body is doing. I may have o'd already or maybe not, haha, makes sense right? I got mixed signals today...cp is still high but firm and had a bit of ewcm early but then went more to creamy. Maybe O was today? :shrug:

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I just checked your chart. It looks pretty good! I think you're probably Oing around now.

I'm charting (mostly on paper, but I put some stuff on FF when I remember) and I use OPKs. I usually get a week or so of O pain and fertile CM so the OPKs really help me know which days are critical. My ovaries are getting a little sore and I might have a tiny bit of EWCM. So hopefully I'll O in a week or so.

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That's a good sign that you are starting to feel something. I wasn't including my siggy at first but it seems to be just you and me here so now I see your link and can chart stalk you. Wink

I'm curious to see what my body does...if I O today then I'm pretty sure I'm out until next cycle since the last day we BD'd was Sunday. We might tonight, IDK for sure cause I'm really trying to JLIH and be laid back for once for DH's sake but it's hard at times. I do want to JLIH for my sake too but I also find I can't just let it go and not know what my body is doing. My O time can be so all over the place that if I don't have a chart I won't really know when I got pregnant if it happens and I really would be irritated by not knowing how far along I am. It wouldn't be a big deal if it were within a day or 2 but I can have a swing of a week or more in my O day.

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well, I figured you put "siggy allowed" at the top, so i might as well. My O day swings all over the place, too. But, except for my first cycle ever TTC (which resulted in DS1) all my charting and TTC has been while BFing, so that makes it unpredictable.

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Just popping in to say Hi Smile I'm not ttc anymore so I'm mainly just lurking now, but I'll still contribute a post from time to time.

:goodluck: to both of you, I'll be watching Wink

~Mary

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good to hear from you, Mary!
Hoe are you doing, Lynn? I'm getting frustrated. for 3 days now my ovaries have felt like they usually do 2-3 days before O, but my OPK is still super light which means I'm still at least 3 days out. I'm tired of being sore.

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I'm still waiting for AF I think, first time in my life that I can't wait for AF to show! We still haven't BD'ed since the d&c, I was a little afraid to, but DH seems more afraid to. The doctor said to wait 2 weeks, and now it's almost 3... sheesh.. that means it's been close to a month since we BD'ed! So much for the 'honeymoon'!

Still trying to figure out what to do with my chart, going to ask the OB when I see him Thursday, I still don't know his stance on charting.

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After my d&c I used the procedure as CD1of a new chart, I bled some that day anyway so it was like starting a period to FF. That way I could easily see how many days post procedure.

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I used the procedure as CD1, too. I figure getting everything cleaned out is pretty much like AF.
Your temp drop looks lovely, Jessica! GL at your appointment.

So... I think my OPK is fading in. I had weird light, red bleeding last night, but it only lasted an hour or so. And now the OPK is a little darker. I doubt I'll get pregnant, this cycle is just too weird, but we'll still try.

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My first cycle after the d&c cycle I spotted every day from the end of my period until I O'd. It was very weird, we decided not to TTC that cycle...which was mostly b/c doc said wait three cycles and DH wasnt comfortable not following orders. But the next cycle was normal so I was able to convince DH to go for it and we got DS2 Smile

So if you're starting the fade in you might O by CD20, that's about what my body decided to do this cycle too. I'm so happy to finally be in the 2WW, hope you join me soon.

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Hope its ok to join in here. No one in "real life" here that seems to understand. I lost my baby to Heaven Feb 14, of this year. I should have delivered end of August but I didn't. My heart still feels incomplete. I have been unable to become pregnant and keep watching as friends become pregnant so easily with no cares in the world and friends having babies everyday. I am beyond happy for them but its hard to face them. I complained on facebook today, won't do that again. Friends said, do something nice for someone else that will make you feel better. Well, in my real life I do nice things all the time just becauseI like to do nice things for others. That comment didn't help me feel better. Someone else said cry and get over it once you are done crying. No one seems to understand how I feel. I just had a breakdown and could use a hug...... sorry to blubber......

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Right now I'm still waiting for the m/c to be over. It's been over a week and I'm at a point where it's like a light AF. I really just want it to be over, but it looks like any day now. DH is freaked out and doesn't want to TTC anymore...our DS is 7 and really wants to be a big brother and I really do want another little one around the house. We'll see as time goes by.

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Mary, you got it hun. ((((huge hugs)))) I'd give you a real life hug if I could.

Wouldn't that be nice if you could just have big cry and then decide to be over it? ~insert eye roll here~. I'm sorry no one IRL gets it. But, You are always welcome here as far as I'm concerned. Smile I hope this isn't the only time you'll pop in, it makes it hard for me to keep up with you when you never post. Wink

Akapufa, I'm sorry it has dragged on for you. Sad I really hope things get more back to normal soon and that your son is able to be a big brother in the near future. :bigarmhug:

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Mary - :bighug: I'm sorry nobody seems to understand. We'll listen to your complaining whenever you want.

Acalleros - sorry it's dragging out. I hope DH changes his mind. Maybe he just needs some time to recover.

AFM: after almost 2 months I think my body is finally getting things under control. I haven't spotted in over 24 hours and have a positive OPK. I really hope things are normal after this.

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Mary, I'm so sorry no one understands. I know how you feel. Having a m/c at 7 wks, even if no heart beat was detected in my case, was like having a death in the family. You have to be able to mourn the loss. Not only the loss of the child but of the hope, joy, planning and all the things you talk about and hope for when you're pg. That takes time. I don't think many people see it that way.

I don't think my DH see's it that way, I'm not sure if it's his way of helping him not deal with the emotions. Not to sound like a total 'B' but I'm sure there are women out there, who may even be mothers, who don't understand the emotional loss of a m/c. Maybe because they have never had one or because they lack the emotional attachment.

My sister-in-law lost her little girl during her third trimester several years ago, they had to do an emergency C and the baby passed two weeks later. She was told she had a 1% percent chance of ever getting pg again. For a long time she was very depressed and sad. The anniversary of the loss would come and she would become very sad. Last year she and my brother started the process to foster a child so they could adopt. They completed the process and had a nursery set up, all they were waiting for was a call saying they had a baby on the way. Well guess what? She got pg shortly after and on Oct 26 she is scheduled for delivery, we and the Drs are very optimistic.

Hang in there, I hope your feel better soon.

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Hi ladies, I'm waiting to o but we are not actually ttc at the moment. I'm still waiting to get the go ahead from my doctor. I keep tracking just because I like knowing where I am in my cycle.

Mary, I don't think anyone really understands it unless they have been through a loss. I had a close friend send me a text announcing they were pregnant with a copy of the u/s photo just after my last loss. She then had the nerve to say she was surprised and upset I didn't act more excited about the news. Considering it was an ultrasound from same gestation as my loss as the loss was / is still quite raw, it could have been construed as a bit insensitive. I just think they can't understand though.

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People who have never had a loss do not understand and even some that have had a loss don't get it. Everybody grieves and deals with things differently. That's why I like this board. You are bound to meet some one who is cose to feeling how you do. Hang in there.

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Levels went from 11,000+ on Sept 26th to 330 on Oct 5th! Yahoo

Can't WAIT for this to be over and get back to TTC!

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That's fantastic! How is your chart doing? I saw my temp clearly drop and when it got down to a normal pre-O temp AF showed.

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Yay! That's great news Jess! After my D&C my temps bounced around for a while and when they go to where they were in the pre O range for a while I started to show fertile signs. I even got a positive OPK but didn't O then CM dried up again for a few days and then started back up again and I O'd at about 6 weeks after the D&C had my normal 12 day LP with post O temps and AF showed at 13 DPO right on schedule. That's a nice drop you had...hope it keeps dropping quickly for you. When do you have your next draw?

~Lynn

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Thanks! If you click on my name in my signature, that'll take you to my chart. Temps have been flat for the past couple of days, but the overall drop is noticeable now. I hope AF comes soon, yesterday was the 4 week mark, so I suppose it'll happen soon enough.

I'm actually just getting ready to leave for another draw right now, I'll call them on Tuesday if I don't hear from them. The OB office doesn't seem to call with results.

What's everyone up to this weekend?

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good luck! That drop is lovely. My OBs office never called with the results either, but they had an online office where I could check them.
I think we might have a lazy weekend (with some POAS) because last weekend was crazy.

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LOL! You can bet that I'll be stalking your posts over you POAS-weekend! Think I might go pick up a bunch of cheapie tests to follow the hcg drop, and test on blood-draw days. Might be a waste of time now though at 330, I might not even get another week to compare.

We don't have much planned this weekend either, a housewarming party on Saturday night, but that's it. I want to clean both of our cars inside and out this weekend too, but I'm out running errands right now and there were snow flurries! :eek: I don't think there's a smilie to convey how I feel about this, I am not a fan of snow. I'll take cold, but snow is miserable, and the driveway at our new house is really long. It probably won't snow enough to stick to the ground until mid-November, but seeing it just makes it feel like impending doom.

I started Christmas shopping this week, am I nuts?

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I'll be watching for your results next week. Sorry about the snow, I'm not a big fan either... I live in the south for a reason Wink

I always start Christmas shopping way too late, I think is great you started already. Smile

**pregnancy mentioned**

I've been POASing lately with some nice results. I've posted some on DYSAL board if anyone would like to see. Biggrin

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"Clarkton" wrote:

I've been POASing lately with some nice results. I've posted some on DYSAL board if anyone would like to see. Biggrin

Ahhhhh! Lynn! That's awesome! I bookmarked the TTCAL thread directly, so I haven't been poking around the rest of the site much! Wishing you the stickiest of sticky vibes and crossing everything on my body that I'm not far behind you!! Gonna be stalking the June board from now on too!

ETA: Just looked at the POAS party and HOLY CRAP! What a great line today! If I were in Tennessee right now, I'd come give you a hug.

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Aww, thank you! I too am hoping you are not far behind me. I would love it if we were able to hang out on the PAL board together. Wink

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Congrats again, Lynn!

My results haven't been as good, even though my chart looks amazing, I feel like crud, and I'd usually have a line by now if I were going to get one.

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Took an HPT this afternoon after work, and the line is sooooo light, but still there.. it'll probably be white after this weekend Biggrin On top of that, I think I'm starting to spot again, much like what usually happens pre-AF. Have never been so happy for everything that comes along with PMS before in my life.

DH is gone this weekend for his brother's bachelor party, perfect timing!

I'm not sure if it's just me, but FF keeps logging me out? I always check the 'remember me' box, and for some reason I always get logged out.

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:ayhoo: that's how AF started for me. I usually don't spot, but about a months after the d&c I spotted for 3-4 days before AF really started. How exciting. And you get to TTC right away, right?

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Crap, I wrote a reply and hit reply to thread again and lost it, lame.

I'm nervous about this AF, I heard the first one post m/c can be a little freaky... I hope I'm wrong. But yes, we're going to TTC right away!

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Yay for signs of AF! Hope she hurrys and goes easy on you. I can't wait to start stalking you in TTC mode. Wink
I have to log in to fertility friend every time on my computer but my phone is always still logged in. IDK what the deal is.

Pico, I still have my fingers crossed for you a BFP soon. :goodluck:

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Congrats! I'm really happy for you and hope you get a BFP soon Smile

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So I went to see my Dr. as a follow up to my trip to the ER two weeks ago. It was good that I had gone. I had been just spotting the last few days and I woke up feeling good thinking it was finally over...just having to wait for AF but by the time I got to work it started up again Sad She had me take a pg test and it was negative, she said it was a sign that the pregnancy was completely over and my hormones have gone down. She said I could wait it out (which could take 2-3 months) or start taking b/c for a few months. I have the prescription but will start taking them tomorrow. I just really want for this part to be over so we can move on. Besides, she said we should wait a few months before ttc again, the pill will definitely help with that.

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Jessica, my first AF after a m/c has always been 'different' but not necessarily bad. The first one after the last m/c was on and off for over a week but it wasn't painful or super heavy, though some days were a little heavier than my usual.

We have the ok from the specialist to start ttc but I can't bring myself to. I O'd yesterday but I've been making DH use protection for almost a week. I am still too scared of another m/c and if we should be ttc at all. I figured we could (and should) wait if my head was still having trouble adjusting. I've had severe PND before and don't ever want a repeat of that so I want to be mentally ready before we start again.

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:bigarmhug:

I think that's the big thing with any type of loss, take your time. The physical aspect is one thing, but if you aren't in the right headspace, everything is so much more stressful.

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With my first 2 losses (both d&c) my 1st periods were heavy. With this last on (natural) it was so light and a piece of cake.

I'm waiting a couple days if I can to poas again. I'm only 9 dpo and believe I had a very faint + this morning. Going to try to wait a couple days lol

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GL, Sandy. I hope the line is darker when you next test!

AF is on her way for me. I'm disappointed and a little worried about D&C side effects. I know it sounds ridiculous to worry already, but 3 of my 4 pregnancies have happened on the first try. The other was the 2nd try. Hopefully we'll have better luck this month.

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If it makes you feel any better I never had any "side effects" from my D&C procedures. Well besides the first period being heavy. I'm hoping af is here and gone before you know it

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I haven't had any d&c side effects either. I was worried this time as they have me extra warnings (due to the number of d&cs I have now had) but the other week u/s showed everything looking normal.

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good to know. AF showed as expected, and seems pretty normal so far. Smile Last cycle was weird, so I really shouldn't be too surprised I didn't get pregnant. Hopefully things are back to normal and I O on time, right around Halloween.

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Still waiting on AF over here! I know that 4-6 weeks is just a guideline for when to expect it, but it's been 6 weeks and I just wasn't expecting it to take so long!

Sounds like the receptionist at the OB's office is getting a little annoyed with my phone calls, but blood work results are:

Oct 5 - 330
Oct 12 - 78
Oct 19 - 25

I took a test on Saturday (20th), and it's still a faint positive, I'll save my last test for this coming Friday when I go for blood work again. I wish I had timed my testing for Fridays a long time ago so I could show you guys the decrease on the tests as well as the blood tests results Sad

Next appt with the OB is on the 31st, and I'm going for more blood work this Friday, and the day before my appt. Think it'll be back at 0 by then? I'm not going to hold my breath.

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This number are great, Jessica! I bet it'll be basically down. Maybe you'll end up Oing before AF. Any signs your body is trying to do anything?

in my news, AF is gone. I'm not sure what to think. It was weird. TMI I'm used to 5-6 days (occasionally 7-8 days) going H, M, M, L, L, then spotting. This time CD1 was super heavy. Almost absurdly heavy. CD2 was H/M and CD3 was M. The it stopped. Yesterday I only had a little spotting. I never went through the brown fading I usually get. WTF? I have never had such a short AF, although before DS1 I used to run 4-5 days. I think I built a good lining because I had tons of red/black bleeding with clots, but the sudden ending has me puzzled. Maybe my body is working towards Oing early or something? Has anyone had an AF like this?

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Mine was really short last month. I dont chart but I know I o'd early this month because we dtd way earlier then I should have o'd and none when I should have and lo and behold I'm preg again. So hopefully you do early and the short period is a sign.

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I have no idea what my body is doing. I can't see anything notable on my chart, but my temps were so high at the beginning of this 'cycle' that FF probably wouldn't lay down crosshairs anyways. I did have the tiniest amount of EWCM one day last week surrounded by a couple of days of wet/creamy, but I didn't really think anything of it. I generally don't have much CM to speak of on a normal cycle anyways. I also had some spotting, which led me to think that AF was around the corner, but nope... not yet. DH and I have been BDing with some sort of regularity, no protection, so I don't even know what would happen if I did O. Oops.

As for your AF, I have no idea! Anything shorter than my regular 7-8 days is A-OK in my books! I'm going to be stalking your chart now to see what's going on!!

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I hope you body starts to make sense soon, Jessica. It's frustrating to wait and sort of TTC while having no idea when/if you'll O.

I had a little random spotting last night after 24+ hours with nothing. I'll start temping again sometime in the next few days.

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Jess, I know I O'd before AF showed again and it wasn't until my HCG got to below 5. You might get there before the end of the week...fingers crossed! :goodluck: If you O at least you'll know AF (or a +HPT) is on the way.

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"sandy1007" wrote:

Mine was really short last month. I dont chart but I know I o'd early this month because we dtd way earlier then I should have o'd and none when I should have and lo and behold I'm preg again. So hopefully you do early and the short period is a sign.

I already said congrats on the June board but Congratulations! What a wonderful surprise! Biggrin

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"sandy1007" wrote:

Mine was really short last month. I dont chart but I know I o'd early this month because we dtd way earlier then I should have o'd and none when I should have and lo and behold I'm preg again. So hopefully you do early and the short period is a sign.

I missed this, sorry!! Congratulations, that's so exciting!

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Completely OT, about a car accident I saw:

I was driving home from work and just turned onto the street I take to get to my street and saw a horrible accident. It had just happened, people were getting out of their cars and rushing over. I had to slow down to get past some of the people in the road, but got an unfortunate very good look at the accident as I passed Sad

I went home, parked and walked back to ask some questions since I'm still kind of new to this neighbourhood. A man who lives on that street said he was sitting on his front porch and saw this man speed past his house several time back and forth 4-5 times. He said that the man had to have been going close to 90 km/h, and since this is a residential area, all of the speed limits are 40-50 km/h. Apparently he blew the stop sign several times as he passed by, almost hitting another car going through the intersection once. On the last rip down the street, he lost control around the intersection that had the stop sign and crashed straight into a tree. He had to have been going pretty fast, because I was in a head on collision back in Feb (not my fault), I was doing 30, the other car was doing 50, my car was totalled, but I walked away from it. They had to cut this man out of the car. I didn't stick around to watch because what I saw on my way home was disturbing enough. I'm not sure if I want to know what happened, but the firefighters on the scene said he was still breathing when I was there.

It's scary, because there are a lot of families with young children in this neighbourhood. Imagine he hit somebody? You'd be lucky to live being hit at those speeds!

A weird side note, the first police officer on the scene was the officer who gave me my first and only ticket. That might not be weird if you live in a small town, but I live in a city that probably has 1000+. He looked familiar, but as soon as he spoke I knew it was him, very distinctive Irish accent.

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