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    Quote Originally Posted by KryssyD View Post
    It is really hard. I have that very same fear right now...what if I get pregnant again and I have another m/c??? I really don't think I could go through it again. I'm strong...but not strong enough for that...or this.


    Yes!! I'm scared to death it will happen again!! I can't do this again!! My heart is already
    Half gone... Another one it'd be totally gone. Sigh... I do have one daughter who keeps me going thank god for her bless her heart. And my friends and family gave been great. But I still fear.... What if

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    (hugs) I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Last year I had a m/c on Easter. It was hard because my husband had also just deployed and couldn't be there with me for us to mourn the loss of our baby. I was only 6 weeks, but it hurt just as much.

    There is no amount of time to take to work through this, I still mourn the loss of my baby from a year ago. All the ladies here are understanding and are willing to lend an ear.

    Feel better. (hugs)

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    I am so very sorry for your loss.

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    Mama_Bear, thanks so much for your suggestion on naming the baby we lost. DH and I thought about and decided on the name Quinn. So now when I think of my little bean that we lost, he/she is not a nameless entity, and when we pray, we have a name.

    Yesterday was a rough day for me. I had to go to the lab again and do another blood hcg test (so they can make sure the levels are falling as they should). The technician that was taking the blood sample was rushing to send it to the head office with the other tests that needed to be done, and was not gentle. She literally shoved the needle into my arm (this is the same arm that the labs and doctors have been using over the past 2 and a half weeks). She did it so roughly that it hurt for an hour after.
    Then I came home and I tried to sleep cause I'm just tired all the time, but couldn't sleep so well. DH's boss sent him home to be with me when he found out (they were out of the country), and DH tried to get me to come outside with him but I didn't want to.

    Then it was time to pick up the results and go to the hospital. We get to the hospital and there's a doctor there joking around with one of the nurses. The nurse asks the doctor (I'm standing right in front of them) if she would like to take a look at me. The doctor literally said Not Really. Anyway, after a few minutes she comes over and says: Uhm, we can't find your file, so tell me about you.
    Seriously guys??
    I look confused and she tells me to wait again, and some time later comes over with my file. Gives me the most half-hearted checkup EVER and then has me wait while they prepare another form for me to do another blood test on Friday to go back to the hospital.

    I am just so SICK AND TIRED of this now. I want all this to end so I can mourn our baby in peace.
    My neighbors have been really supportive, and were all outside with DH and I last night talking to us and telling us stories of friends who this happened to and that they have kids now, etc.

    I'm trying to be strong, but I have my moments when I just feel like it's a bad dream and I want out. Last night I smiled at something on tv and felt guilty for smiling
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    So sorry for your rough day. I hope today is better.

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    Hi ladies, I just wanted to post an update on how things are going.

    I've been slowly getting stronger emotionally...I still can't physically talk about my loss with people, and actually haven't been getting that much support from my friends...quite a few of them knew I was in the hospital and knew I lost my baby...but I haven't received a phone call or so much as a text message from them...

    I had friends telling me 2 and 3 days after I was discharged that 'at some point I'm going to need to stop', and 'I need to keep things in perspective', and 'I can't afford to have this stance'. All those really upset me and I made it very clear that since they have not gone through anything like this they cannot possibly know what I am going through and found a way to end the conversation.

    I did two more blood hcg tests after being discharged. The second was 8.3 or something like that and they determined that I won't need to do any more. Thankfully, because DH and I are now broke from all the medical bills, and we haven't received the hospital bill yet.

    I have been working from home, so that limits the number of people I need to see or interact with.

    I know at some point the 6 week wait period will end and we will be able to try again, and I am terrified of when that time comes, but I'm praying for the strength I'll need to get through each day.
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, and for all the rough time you've had since then. Adds insult to injury, huh?

    My theory on comments from friends/coworkers/family is that they just don't know what to say and are afraid of saying something wrong, so they don't say anything. In my experience, no one said anything, because they didn't want to bring up a sensitive subject. I think they were waiting for me to bring it up. And what I wanted more than anything was for people to acknowledge that I had been pregnant and that I had lost a baby.

    Hugs to you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by indianajones View Post
    I'm so sorry for your loss, and for all the rough time you've had since then. Adds insult to injury, huh?

    My theory on comments from friends/coworkers/family is that they just don't know what to say and are afraid of saying something wrong, so they don't say anything. In my experience, no one said anything, because they didn't want to bring up a sensitive subject. I think they were waiting for me to bring it up. And what I wanted more than anything was for people to acknowledge that I had been pregnant and that I had lost a baby.

    Hugs to you!
    Thanks indianajones...you're right. I guess people just don't know what to say or do. I had a friend tell me that's how she feels...she says she couldn't imagine what I'm going through or how I'm feeling and she feels like she can't do anything to help me.
    I can still only really talk with the people who already know about it. And while to some degree I'm starting to feel a little normal again, it's forever in my mind.
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