Need some insight so confused (m/c ment)
I am so completely confused. A little over a week ago I discovered that my baby's heart had stopped beating at 9 weeks and that I had a missed abortion. The doc said he didn't think I'd miscarry on my own and that if I did it would take a long time and he was concerned about me bleeding too much. So I had a d&c two days later. It was horrible to have to have something done but I was glad that at least things could be over with and I could begin to heal. Only after that I got an infection (or something) and ended up in the hospital for the weekend on IV antibiotics. The doc says he's still not sure it was an infection but I'm immune compromised and so it's highly likely it was an infection that they couldn't find due to stress on my body and all. Anyway, as if that's not confusing enough, I go back today for an ultrasound to see how things are going and it shows that I have retained tissue. Now they can't tell for sure if it's tissue or just blood. They think it's blood because it's less dense or something than tissue. It's all of the same consistency too. He said it's a lot of blood though and I've barely bled at all since the procedure. I've just had brown blood, more like spotting since Saturday now (Thursday today). The doc is saying I may need another d&c in a few weeks if I don't pass the tissue or clots on my own.
I just don't understand how this could happen. He said he was really surprised by it because he was really careful and felt so confident they got everything. He said it's a blind procedure so it can happen but that he felt all around and couldn't feel anything attached. He said he is really confident there's no placenta in there at all but that it could be blood. I guess no matter what it is they do a d&c if it doesn't pass on it's own. I thought I'd be able to heal and start thinking about TTC again but now it's like I'm facing the m/c all over again. Of course I'm still dealing with the horrible pain of losing the baby but knowing that my body isn't where it should be just makes it all so much harder. I feel like we'll never be able to try again and I'm really worried about scar tissue or another infection if I have to have another procedure. I'm even more worried about infection since I'm at very high risk and it already happened once.
Does anyone have any experience with this at all? Is there anything I can do other than moving around that might help me get rid of the tissue or blood? Doc said I can go back to normal activity and I'm going back to work next week but I'm so worried I'm just going to start gushing blood or passing clots in public somewhere. It's hard enough to go back to work and be in public again without worrying about this too.