From oct 2012....loss men

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From oct 2012....loss men

Hello,
I'm from the oct 2012 boards... I was suppose to be due oct 30th.
I went in for a ultrasound Monday the 2nd and the tech wouldnt explain anything and we never got a photo or got to hear the heartbeat. I was surprised that we didn't get to... Then my dr wanted to see me the next day. I did then she told me the baby had no heart beat at ten weeks. Sad I could not believe it. I waited a little bit to see if it would naturally happen... I've had no bleeding at all so far. I've decsided to have a d&c done Monday. Although I won't be abłe to get pregnant for awhile.. I do hope to again... Sorry if all this is too much info. I really don't know where else to go.

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:bigarmhug: I am so very sorry for your loss. This is the perfect place to go even if you are not TTC. We all understand the unbelievable heart ache.

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Thank u so much... I never thought lossing a child I've never seen would be this hard.

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So so sorry for your loss. :bigarmhug:

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Thank u.

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I'm so sorry Sad It is hard, because he/she was still your child and you had a connection. :bigarmhug:

If you haven't had any bleeding or cramps yet, I would highly recommend insisting on one more ultrasound and see the evidence of no heartbeat yourself before proceeding with the d&c. Just in case.

~Mary

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I've had a lot of bad cramping but no bleeding yet... I think I'm going to ask for another ultrasound and maybe at least a picture

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:bigarmhug: I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a similar experience in that I went in at 11.5 weeks for a regular check, not expecting anything wrong, and baby had passed. The baby measured about 9.5 weeks. I waited a week for my body to naturally end it but never had so much as a spot. So, a week later I had a D&C. I hope you are able to have an u/s before the procedure. I know I needed to just for peace of mind that there had not been a mistake. Seeing the u/s combined with my physical symptoms or rather lack thereof helped me to have peace that the pregnancy was over before I went through with the d&c.

Please KUP on how you are doing when you feel up to it.

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Hello girls the d&c went well I'm home now recovering.

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((((HUGS))))

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I know there is really nothing I can say that will take away any of the pain you are feeling but please know that we are all here for you.

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Just knowing I can talk
To women who know what I'm feeling means so
Much. I can't sleep I'm all worked up. Been crying again.

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Its hard to sleep with so much emotion. Let the tears flow they are healing.
:openarms:

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Thank u I needed to just hear it was ok to cry.

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StarShine, I am so sorry this has happened to you.
I know that talking on this board has helped me a lot in the days leading up to and following my m/c (it's been really hard), and I hope you know we are all here for you and send lots of love and prayers your way :bigarmhug:

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I haven't been by the board in a little while but wanted to add my support.

Losing a baby straight up sucks. It's hard. Allow yourself to grieve in whatever way makes sense for you, and embrace the feelings/emotions as part of the healing process.

Love and healing to you.

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Hello All! Just wanted to add that I recently had a similar experience as described in pp. Our little one had a heartbeat around 6 weeks. I had cramping about every two weeks but nothing else. We went for our 12 week appt on 6/4/12 and the baby had died shortly after our first appt. I had a d&c on 6/6/12. I'm having a very difficult time. This was our second m/c and it took us 5 years to get pregnant. I didn't even think I would ever get pregnant again because it had been so many years so this pregnancy was a surprise.

I took 3 weeks off work to try to pull myself back together but I don't even know how to begin:-(. I've pretty much lost the desire to do anything and it seems like everyone close to me wants to talk about what has happened. I'm sick of talking about it and hearing their advice on everything pregnancy-related because they don't understand. I've also isolated myself from everyone except my hubby.

I pray this hurt goes away. I've never experienced a loss this great. Our first baby never had a heartbeat and the pregnancy ended early. This one was so different because I saw the heartbeat and I looked very pregnant because my uterus kept expanding but filled with fluid only.

Sorry to keep rambling...just want to talk to people who understand.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

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"Blessing4us" wrote:

Hello All! Just wanted to add that I recently had a similar experience as described in pp. Our little one had a heartbeat around 6 weeks. I had cramping about every two weeks but nothing else. We went for our 12 week appt on 6/4/12 and the baby had died shortly after our first appt. I had a d&c on 6/6/12. I'm having a very difficult time. This was our second m/c and it took us 5 years to get pregnant. I didn't even think I would ever get pregnant again because it had been so many years so this pregnancy was a surprise.

I took 3 weeks off work to try to pull myself back together but I don't even know how to begin:-(. I've pretty much lost the desire to do anything and it seems like everyone close to me wants to talk about what has happened. I'm sick of talking about it and hearing their advice on everything pregnancy-related because they don't understand. I've also isolated myself from everyone except my hubby.

I pray this hurt goes away. I've never experienced a loss this great. Our first baby never had a heartbeat and the pregnancy ended early. This one was so different because I saw the heartbeat and I looked very pregnant because my uterus kept expanding but filled with fluid only.

Sorry to keep rambling...just want to talk to people who understand.

I'm so sorry. :bighug:

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"FLSunshineMom" wrote:

I'm so sorry. :bighug:

Thanks.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

I am so sorry for your loss.

Thank you

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im sorry for your loss

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"kat83" wrote:

im sorry for your loss

TY