Jessica, I've been reading your posts but looks like we've been having the same issues logging in (same error message). I've managed to get logged in from my phone and just wanted to say I'm sending you tonnes of positive thoughts. You are amazingly strong and brave. Thinking of you and sending lots of
crappy news sucks. Are you ladies signed up through a hotmail account??? If so send a message to missy. I got locked out. I guess they had a ton of spam from hotmail accts so they locked them for now. missy can get yours fixed for you. If you need her email let me know
Jessica, in case you still can't log in I thought I would let you know I got locked out. I sent a PM to the preg.org facebook page (as I couldn't get in here to send a message). Missy replied to say they had been getting spammed and as a result the techs put a (temporary??) lock on hotmail accounts. She can write a rule to get you back in if you contact her.
DH is about to start week 3 of chemo on Monday, but to be honest, things have been going pretty well! Week 1, he was pretty tired, but that seems to be from the one drug that he gets every Monday. The two other drugs that he gets through weeks 1, 4, and 7 are the ones that cause nausea, fatigue and hair loss, but they gave him a bunch of different medications to prevent the nausea and they seem to work well. He takes Zofran 2 x every day during that first week, and he hasn't needed anything else. After week 1, 4 and 7, he gets a special shot to boost his immune system. That shot causes the bone marrow to produce more quickly which in turn produces more white blood cells (to prevent infection). The only negative thing about that shot is that it causes bone pain, like extreme growing pains, and he definitely suffered from that this week.
Basically, week 2 was just him dealing with the bone pain since he only had the one treatment on Monday.
Have I mentioned that he's off work until September? He would probably be fine to work through weeks 3, 6 and 9, but his job isn't the kind of job where you can be popping in and out like that, it'd take a week to get settled back in and then he'd be off again. He's going CRAZY in the house. I've tried to give him one small task each day outside the house, but nothing that would take more than 30-45 minutes. Small stuff like grabbing just a few things at the store, or coming to have lunch with me at work, and that stuff seems to help.
I, on the other hand, have started yoga. I need to get out of the house for non-work related things too. The class I joined is actually yoga for fertility, and I had registered for that before we knew the cancer was back. So all in all, this class isn't going to benefit me the way I had hoped, but it is relaxing. I'm about to register for a 4 week yoga boot camp, and it's super early in the morning. I'm going to have to try to get into that routine before it starts, because the class begins at 5:45 AM and I'm not usually up until 6!
I hope you're all doing well. I've been lurking, but that's mostly because I'm locked out on every device except for my computer now. I emailed Missy to see if she can fix it!
I think I'm going to make my way over to the ivf board soon... I went to a support group at the fertility clinic and I"m not sure it's for me, so I need to find some place else to talk it all out.
I haven't logged in for a while now, we've kind of changed our train of thought when it comes to TTC. DH is doing well, chemo is done and he's starting to get his energy back. We've had a lot of time to process that IVF with ICSI will be our only option for the next 2-2.5 years. With that said, we've decided to take that time as a 'break' and do some of the things that would be difficult to do once we do have kids. We've booked a couple of trips, planned to splurge a little on things/events that we normally would pass over to save for treatments etc.. I'm sure that the next couple of years will pass quickly.
DH was in the "whatever you want" camp, and I was so set on starting treatments this fall. Then.. I got to thinking a bit. Since DH and I started dating, we've been through a lot. DH's dad passed away the first year we were dating, and he became a huge source of support for his mom and didn't want to leave her alone too long. DH was a student for 6 of the almost 8 years we've been together (aka. broke), we got in a car accident, bought a house, got married, and experienced our first loss all within 6-7 months. I feel like we kind of need to be a little selfish for a while, and I think that DH reeeeallly needs it.
When I brought up waiting until we're allowed to TTC naturally again, you should have SEEN the look of relief on his face. He said that he never would have brought it up himself, but was so happy that I did.