So I'm having a hard time making a decision. My RE said we can be back to TTC after the m/c as soon as my cycle returns. It's already been almost 3 weeks since my d&c and the RE said that my cycle could return in 2-4 weeks and he wants me back on fertility drugs as soon as AF shows. I'm all for that since the drugs he gave me worked first time around last time. What I can't decide is if I should take the pill in the meantime or not. I had some problems with retained tissue after the d&c. I took cytotec Thursday to help get rid of it and passed quite a few clots and maybe some tissue. So I'm hoping my hcg is down to zero so that we can talk about next time more. The doc originally talked about me taking the pill to allow my body to have AF which would expel any clots. We found out after that it wasn't just clots but tissue as well which is why I took the cytotec. So now that I've taken it I'm not sure I need the pill. At the same time I don't see how it would hurt either. More than likely it'll take 4 weeks from when my hcg is down to zero anyway right? If I take the pill at least it's more predictable. He said that it could help reset my body and get it ready to TTC again.
Part of me though doesn't want to take it because I hope that AF will return before 4 weeks and we can try again sooner. However, my body NEVER does things by the book and I have PCOS. I have no idea if PCOS will affect how I respond after the m/c or not. I'll ask the nurse Monday when I get my test results what they think I should do but when I asked before they just say it's up to me. I kind of just want them to tell me what's best and then I'll do it. Has anyone ever had experience with this before? I'm curious to see if anyone else did the pill after a m/c before TTC again. Thanks in advance ladies!
So sorry it's so much to think about. I don't think anyone can ever tell you what is best for your body in these situations and unfortunately I don't have any experience with the pill right after a loss. I hope you are able to look in side and find your decision.
I can't really answer your question either, I wish I could. I know that with my first loss, AF came at 35 days instead of my normal 30 and I ovulated in that cycle. To be honest, my DR wanted us to wait 2-3 cycles to try again. We didn't, but I believe that our bodies will respond when they are ready. It was our fourth month after the loss trying again that we got pg. This time around (confirmed ectopic) I am just waiting for my body to cooperate. I have until Tuesday morning and then we talk surgery.
I hope someone is able to help you.
I'm still thinking about what to do next. Today I got some better results though. My level was 170 on Wednesday and after the cytotec it's down to 69 today. I'm still passing some small clot and tissue and having a little blood...mostly spotting and it's changed in color...gray actually which is weird I thought but my mom said when she was almost done bleeding after both of her pregnancies the blood turned a grayish color so maybe not so weird after all. They're going to check my blood again in a week and see if I'm down to 0 yet and then we can talk options. I can't take the pill anyway until the number is down to 0. I'm still debating on that...on the one hand I like knowing that AF would be predictable and I would have a good idea of when to start. I also have had great results with this pill in the past and had no side effects coming off of it when we were TTC after I'd been on it for a year or so. So I'd probably be okay but I still worry about reacting to it differently now or what if I don't take it and AF shows earlier...I guess I still have some thinking do to and definitely some questions for my doc. At least we know my body is getting back to normal so we can at least discuss these options.
Thanks for the support ladies. I'm not sure I'd be able to get through all of this if it weren't for all of the support I've found here.
My honest opinion... Take a month off with NOTHING! Sometimes, your body wants to ovulate so bad after a mc or delivery that you ovulate quickly and doubly. Let your body balance with no outside hormones. Then, after that first af visit, go back on fertility meds. Let the two of you spend your month getting to STD without ttc and regroup as a couple. Go get a massage and a pedicure. Get your hair done, do something wild. If no af 45 days after you stop bleeding POAS. Your body, your mind, your spirit, your relationship needs a break to be, for lack of a better term--primal.
Lol I was confused about that STD comment for a sec and was like "Wait what does that mean?" HAHA! Don't worry I don't have any intentions of gettig and STD. DTD will be good though once I'm able. I know that physically I'd be okay but emotionally I'm kind of terrified it'll open up my emotions again and I'll cry until I can't stop. I hope that's not how it works though. Today has been a rough day but it's gotten a little better. I went and got my hair done...I'm blonde again. Lol. That's technically my natural color but I change all the time for fun. DH and I plan to go get a massage next week. I got him a couples massage for his birthday and we hadn't had a chance to use it yet. I was thinking about calling up a girlfriend to go get a pedicure or something. My toenails are still a disaster from our last long hiking trip in OCTOBER! Lol. I'm getting there though...one day at a time I guess. How are you doing Susan?
I also think that I'm going to just chill and not take the pill unless they think it's necessary for some reason. I might as well give my body a break from one medication after another and let it be natural even if it's hard to do that. At least my hormones are going down and I passed more clots today so I don't think it'll be too long before things will start to get back on track.
I agree w the pp, and have your body try to regulate w out any outside help.pills/hormones whatever. After my d&c I had a terrible time ovulating. I had my d&c Oct 4 and only had 1 regular period on 12/9, i had bled-and passed clots for a full month afterwards and then thought i had a very very light period but really dont think it was, we were told to wait 3 regular cycles before TTC again, and my body just wasnt having it, in dec we DTD and our protection broke, first time ever in my life that happened and I took it as a sign to TTC. Never looked back. I think only you know your body well enough to decide, but it will throw you for a loop...i doubted my body quite a bit and trusting it was hard...good luck girl