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    So this is my 7th pregnancy. And I am 6 weeks pregnant, started to spot on tp last night. It always happens like this. The moment I hit my 6th week mark exactly I begin to spot and eventually bleed and m/c all together. I can never reach past 9 weeks. I try and be hopeful but after so many losses how can I? Especially if it seems that the pattern is always the same. It is so devastating. And the pain of the m/c is what I fear most. I wish I would have a normal pregnancy. And a baby would just stick.

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    I'm so sorry I can't imagine how heartbreaking it would be to go through that so many times. My heart just breaks for you. It's not over yet but I understand your fear.

    Have you received any diagnosis or are you taking any meds to help with why this keeps occuring the same way?

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    First of all, huge hugs and congrats on your pregnancy. Second of all, I am so sorry that you are spotting. That is always terrifying, but especially so after losses. Has your OB done any testing to try to figure out why you are having these losses? I seem to have had the same pattern (start spotting at 6 weeks and then lose the pregnancy by 8 weeks) with my two losses, so we did a whole panel of tests before we started TTC'ing again. I am now on extra folic acid, progesterone, and baby aspirin to address my issues and things definitely seem to be going better. I did have spotting on Sunday which scared the crap out of me, but I had an u/s on Monday and we found a subchorionic hemorrhage which explains the spotting, and I haven't had any spotting since Sunday morning which I am taking as a good sign. With the last two, once I started spotting I never really stopped which is what makes me think that things are going better this time. Anyway, point being, if you haven't talked to your doctor to try to figure out what is going on and come up with a treatment plan, I highly recommend that you do that. And again, huge hugs! We are always here to listen.


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    I had asked OB at m/c 3 to be referred to genetics. They had given tests to be ordered by OB. However, just have not gone through them. OB seemed really optimistic throughout all my pregnancies. She only has me on frolic acid, prenatals, and baby aspirin. I had asked about progesterone but she said that the studies are not strong enough to say it actually works to prevent future m/c. With this pregnancy I have not even seen my OB yet. Just taking prescriptions from last pregnancy in April 2012.

    I hope all goes well for you guys. And you have happy healthy pregnancies without worries. But I guess that's impossible even as a mother you will always worry. My son is 6 and I am still attached to him. Lol

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    I'm so sorry about your losses but congratulations on your pregnancy!

    It seems like your OB isn't really taking your concerns seriously. I would really recommend finding a Reproductive Endocrinologist or another OB. There are other tests besides genetic testing that should be done for recurrent miscarriages. Also, it wouldn't hurt to have your DH tested as well. Has your OB tested your progesterone at least? I'm sorry...I don't mean to come across as insensitive (I hope I'm not!) but with your history, I would really recommend finding a doctor who is willing to go above and beyond for you. You deserve it.

    I'm sending you lots of positive sticky vibes!!!

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    I would also recommend looking into a different OB. I have had 4 m/c. After my last m/c the doctor noticed my progesterone was low. Then as soon as I got pg with my youngest daughter the doctor checked my progesterone right away. It was only 6. He got me on a supplement right away and now she is almost 3 years old. After that many losses I would not go back to the same doctor if he would not do anything to help. Maybe progesterone is not proven to help, but it doesn't hurt and in some cases it really does help. Just another word of encouragement, my mother had 7 m/c then went on to have 3 healthy children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JKfmAustin View Post
    I'm so sorry about your losses but congratulations on your pregnancy!

    It seems like your OB isn't really taking your concerns seriously. I would really recommend finding a Reproductive Endocrinologist or another OB. There are other tests besides genetic testing that should be done for recurrent miscarriages. Also, it wouldn't hurt to have your DH tested as well. Has your OB tested your progesterone at least? I'm sorry...I don't mean to come across as insensitive (I hope I'm not!) but with your history, I would really recommend finding a doctor who is willing to go above and beyond for you. You deserve it.

    I'm sending you lots of positive sticky vibes!!!

    I love my OB she is young and most of all listens to my concerns that no other OB has done in my past. I just think she is new to the whole idea of going forth and finding the causes of my recurrent m/c. I will probably consider trying to find an RE as a last resort. UPDATE: I made an appt to see my OB for genetic testing in two weeks she wants to test both of us. What would other testings are you referring to? Will see & mention then about the current pregnancy. She has never checked progesterone levels in any of my previous pregnancies. Only betas.

    Do you think there is hope? Is there any other testings I should mention to her? Thank you for all your positiveness I just find it hard to feel that way after so many m/c. I have not even taken a hpt. I will just let it be and see how far things progress.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I would also recommend looking into a different OB. I have had 4 m/c. After my last m/c the doctor noticed my progesterone was low. Then as soon as I got pg with my youngest daughter the doctor checked my progesterone right away. It was only 6. He got me on a supplement right away and now she is almost 3 years old. After that many losses I would not go back to the same doctor if he would not do anything to help. Maybe progesterone is not proven to help, but it doesn't hurt and in some cases it really does help. Just another word of encouragement, my mother had 7 m/c then went on to have 3 healthy children.
    WOW really so maybe there is hope?! I just find it extremely hard to be optimistic especially once that 6 week mark comes around and the spotting being I just hang on for the emotional and physical ride it takes me on. I think maybe the next time around I may push harder for progesterone testing and supplementations. It does not hurt to try something new, especially if there is no harm. Just like my OB wanting to put my on baby aspirin for fear that I am clotting and its what is the cause of my m/c.

    Sometimes I feel like a failure, I cry to DH because I feel horrible that I can not give him the one thing that he wants most in this world. Yes we have our amazing and wonderful son. And because of him I still have some hope that maybe it is possible still to have another. Or even if I was never able to have anymore I would be satisfied with just him because above all he was such a gift and motherhood is a great experience. But sometimes I want to just give it.

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    So sorry you have to go through this

    ~Mary

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    Just wanted to let you know there is a Pregnant After A Loss board here too. It has been inactive for a while but there are a handful of us over there now. You can find it here if you would like to join us.

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