I love my mom to pieces, but I often withhold information from her because she can never keep it to herself. She didn't find out I was pregnant until I called to tell her that I had to go in for the D&C. Part of that is because my parents had a lot of house guests around our wedding, and I thought that news like that would be hard for her to keep with a house full of family.
I asked her just to keep it quiet, DH and I had already told the people we wanted to tell and we didn't want it coming up in conversation unless we brought it up. Tonight though, I get a message from my Aunt saying that she heard about the m/c from my mom, and is very sorry, yadda yadda.
What do I say to my mom? That things like these are the reason I don't feel like I can tell her stuff? That I understand that in some way, she's experienced a loss too, but to leave it up to me who finds out? I feel a little... Betrayed. I almost want a list of who she has told so I can be prepared in case they bring it up with me.
I don't know what to do, or how to go about it without hurti my mom's feelings. I know it's not a malicious thing, but from my perspective, my mom considers everyone else's news her news as well.