It's so good to be home where it's quiet! We left Friday morning to bring DH's son home to Arizona. It was a crazy, whirlwind trip (2 days there and 2 days back) but I am home and home is good! Now the bad news:
We got back the results of DH's 2nd SA and he still has no sperm. We've done a lot of talking in the last few days but have yet to come up with a decision. We will either:
1) Go back to the urologist who performed DH's VR and see if there is a blockage that he can repair.
2) Try to have the doctor extract the sperm from him to use for IVF/ICSI.
3) Use donor sperm.
4) Just not have a baby.
The only option that I cannot live with is #4. Although I really want a baby that was made from both myself and DH, I'm at the point in my life where donor sperm does not sound like such a bad option. DH even said that being the biological father is not what counts, it is being the child's dad while he/she is growing up that really matters.
I think that we will get a couple of consulations to see what the costs involved will be for our different options. It's seems terrible to say that cost will be the deciding factor, but we just can't afford tens of thousands of dollars worth of treatments right now.
I have an appointment scheduled w/my ob/gyn for this coming Monday (8/7) so hopefully I'll have more information then and will be that much closer to making a decision.
I had my appointment with my ob/gyn yesterday and I am feeling very postive and hopeful. DH and I have decided to proceed w/TTC by using donor sperm. It was a difficult decision to reach but we did a lot of talking and decided that it really is the best option for us. DH says that it doesn't matter who the biological father is, that he will always be his/her daddy.
Now I just need AF to hurry up and show! I have picked a donor and had the spermbank fax the application forms to my doctor. As soon as she fills them out and gets them faxed back then we are good to go. I'm supposed to track my LH surge using OPKs (at around 4pm each day) then call her office when I get a positive OPK and she will do the IUI the next morning. Luckily, my doctor's office can store the vials of sperm for up to 6 months so I can order it ahead of time so it will be there waiting when my body is ready.
The doctor said that most women who have regular cycles and ovulate on a regular schedule like I do, usually get pregnant within the first few IUI attempts. I'm so excited, this may be it for us!
AF arrived today and for the first time in 3 years, I'm actually happy about it. It brings me that much closer to my first IUI w/donor sperm. I ordered 3 units from the donor that I chose. It should arrive at my doctor's office by this Friday, 8/18. As soon as I get my LH surge on OPKs I'm supposed to call and arrange for the IUI to happen the next morning. I usually O between CD 11-13, so technically I'm less than 2 weeks away from the "big day."