let me try this again, i had written my intro here, then erased it when i found out my father had cancer and I wasn't sure what path that was going to take us down. Now that we're still on the preparing to ttc, I'm ready to post my intro here.
Right now, I am 30 and my SO/future DH is 39. He had a vasectomy which we plan to get reversed. Our tentative timeline is to get it reversed in May, we'll get married in September, and we'll begin actively trying once we're married. We'll use birth control between May and September.
I've got to get to work now, I'll write more later.
Well, we're still moving forward with our plans of trying to conceive. We had a consultation regarding getting SO's vas reversed. Looks like it should be within our reach financially so that's great. In the mean time, my cycle, which has always been REGULAR, has suddenly started changing. It's all over the place. I was extremely regular with a 25 day cycle, now it's sometimes 21 days, sometimes 23, and i often times start spotting before i actually start my period.
Our plan is that I will go in after this cycle to have a check up and make sure there's not some problem with me. Then in late May we'll have the vas reversed and use birth control until after we're married. Marriage is scheduled for September. We plan to go to Greece and get married over there. It should be awesome. I'll probably quit using birth control shortly before the wedding. The timing should work out well, because we've heard that best chances of conceiving start at 6 months post operation, so we'll both be ready at that time. By November, I'll have had a few months off of birth control and he'll be 6 months post-op.
We had a bit of a scare yesterday. We were trying to get our finances figured out more accurately regarding the reversal and wedding, so we called the doc's office to get the exact figures for our reversal. They had given us some estimates, but nothing exact. Well the lady figures it all up and proceeds to tell us a figure that's nearly $3000 more than what we'd already been told. This put the reversal just out of our reach. We started to try to figure ways to shave costs on the wedding and finally started discussing just canning the idea of having a child together. Then we started talking and it just seemed to odd that we got 2 estimates that were so much lower (one from a lady in the office and one from the doc himself). So we called back and it was an error on their part! We don't have to change our plans for the reversal.
On the wedding front, we have taken a very close look at our schedules and October actually works better than September for us to get away for a week to get married. So we've settled on an October date. Probably the 9th or right around that date! Things are really starting to come together.
As far as my cycle goes, this month i made it to day 24 before i started spotting. That is today. I should actually see AF full force tomorrow. So I'm going to try to get an appointment this month to see if there's a reason i've started spotting prior to AF. I hope it's nothing.
Well that's all for today. Best of luck to all the ladies here who are actively ttc. I read your journals and feel like I take that monthly ride with you. I find myself hoping that you'll get BFP's, and i wait with you through the 2ww and anxiously return to the boards to see if you've tested. I guess I'm already addicted to the boards...i'm going to be terrible when I start actively trying.
AF arrived today on schedule. That's way better than the 21 day cycle i had last month. I only had 1 day of spotting prior to starting this month so that 's good too. Last month was terrible. I started spotting on CD 19. That's not much of a break and definitely wouldn't be conducive to conceiving. I'd sure like to see my cycles go back to normal. I'm worried that there is something wrong with me that will interfere with ttc. We're already going to have less than desireable odds for conceiving due to the vasectomy reversal, but if there's something wrong with me then that's really going to suck.
There's not much else to report. The weather is beautiful and i wish i wasn't at work. NO MORE WORK
Well, I think we've settled on a date for the reversal surgery. May 20th. It's kinda scary because we actually don't want to get pregnant until after October, but it's going to be so hard to not just start ttc, since it'll finally be possible. We'll be strong though since I want to be able to fully enjoy our trip to greece.
I started AF on 4/3/05. She was preceded by 2 days of spotting. That made my cycle this past month 24 days, w/spotting starting on the 22nd day. I O'd on day 11, which made my LP about 13 days, but I'm worried that spotting on day 11 of my LP will cause problems with having a baby stick once we start ttc. I'm going to try to get in to see my doc next week since I'll need to talk to her about birth control anyhow. I'm going to have her look into this issue of spottting and pain I'm having with intercourse during my LP.
I got my doctor's appointment scheduled for the evening of 4/21/05. I'm a little nervous about going. It will be very disappointing if there is something wrong that could cause fertility issues. Since we both already have children, we've agreed that we're not going to go to drastic measures to conceive. We'll reverse the vasectomy and leave it to the powers that be. If we're meant to have this child it will happen. I suppose that if there's something wrong with me that may prevent conception then I'll have to accept that as being not meant to be.
I need to just quit worrying about it all, I guess. At least until after i see my doc.
maybe i'm jumping the gun here, but i ordered a bbt thermometer and a saliva microscope today. I have pretty much decided that i don't want to go on the pill for a short period of time and then have to wait to start o'ing again after going off the pill. Instead I'm going to try to use a more natural approach to bc during may through oct. I'm going to begin charting and tracking my fertility and just use condoms or abstain during the fertile times. The doctor explained that most likely for the first several months after the reversal that it would be highly unlikely that i would get pregnant anyhow, so i think a more natural method of bc will work well. Plus I'll have tons of information about my cycle by the time that we do actively begin ttc'ing.
I'm sure SO is going to just look at me with that smile that says, "You're a goofball and i love it" when i tell him that i've ordered this stuff. He knows how anal i can be about things when i set my mind to something. He's the same way! I love him so much.
I did go to a baby shower yesterday. It was so fun to sit there and look at all the baby things and imagine that next year i could be going through all of this myself. Then after the shower i went to my son's conference and his teacher just had a baby at the end of last week and she was there with the baby. OMG, i just wanted to grab it and bury my nose in it's sweet hair. I've got the baby bug so bad it's not funny. So does SO though. Last month we had a friend over who has a 5 month old baby and SO and I spent the whole night fighting over who gets to hold the baby.
I just got a call from my doc's office. I guess her father died last night so they had to reschedule my appointment to 4/25/05. I'm hoping i don't start AF or spotting by then. If my cycle goes the full 25 days I won't actually see AF until the 4/28, with spotting on the 4/26 and/or 4/27.
Hopefully i wont' have to cancel my appointment due to another short cycle. I'll update next week after my appointment or sooner if the appointment gets cancelled.
I should be getting my bbt thermometer and microscope soon! Possibly today even! I'm so excited to start learning my cycle better. One more step closer to holding my little baby in my arms as soon as next year!
I had my appointment last night. She seemed pretty much unconcerned with the spotting. Indicated it could just be part of getting older. When I stated my concerns about implantation issues in the near future she stated that I still have a decent length LP and that it shouldn't be a problem, but if i do get pregnant and miscarry, then we'll use progesterone suppositories on a subsequent pregnancy.
The painful intercourse during my LP she thinks is probably caused by a large corpus luteum cyst after ovulation. She said that the fallopian tubes can actually be pushed against it during intercourse and cause quite a bit of pain. SOOOO, she actually convinced me to go on birth control pills for a short while as a temporary fix for my issues. I won't ovulate, so no pain, I'm going to try the pills that you don't have a period for 3 months, so i won't have the monthly spotting and she said that going on then back off again could put my body back to a more normal cycle. We'll see. Now i feel like a dork for getting the bbt thermometer and the microscope, but i know i'll use them after i get off the pill.
As far as my cycle goes, I started spotting today. It's CD 23 so that's about par for my course! I'll probably not post for a while since there's not much going to be happening with my body for a while since i'll be on the pill. I guess I'll post in May after the reversal when we find out how successful that is. Good luck to all of you actively ttc, i'll be back in a few months to officially join you.
Well, it's been a LONG time since I posted, though I've been reading daily all this time. I keep all you ladies here in the TTC journals in my thoughts, especially Cazz.
Our plans for TTC and getting married got postponed due to DF's ex deciding to move their kids out of the state. That was devastating. We're finally recovering from that and ready to move forward with all of our plans. I was really hoping to be pregnant by now, but sadly we still haven't been able to do the reversal.
Anyhow, we've gotten back on our feet again and we're making plans for his vasectomy reversal to happen in early 2006 along with getting married. Probably in February. I'll update when I know more.