TTC After Tubal Reversal

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TTC After Tubal Reversal

Okay let me start out by saying my name is Danielle and I am 30 my DH is 25. We have been married for 5 years and together for 7. I have two wonderful DS 11&7 from a previous marriage. My DH has none. I had my tubes tied in 1997 after my 2nd DS was born. I was in a bad marraige and I thought that was the right thing to do. Well when my little one was 6 months old I got divorced from my ex. I never thought I would ever get married again let alone want another child. Then I met my DH. He is the most wonderful man I have ever met. He is also the most wonderful step-dad. My DH knew I had a tubal, but he loved me how I was. He accepted it. About 2 years ago I found out info on-line about reversals, but they were expensive. ($6200). We saved the money and I had my operation on March 14th. I was so nervous wondering if I would even have enough tube left to do anything. I came out of the surgery to find out my Rt side was 4cm and the left was 3cm. I was devestated! But my doctor reassured me that with at least 4cm, there was a good possibility. But it would take longer. After 4 months of nothing I wanted to be reassured that the surgery worked and that the tubes were working like they were supposed to so I scheduled an HSG. I was scared, but the HSG showed the were attached and working %100. I was so happy. I also had an ultrasound that showed my ovaries and uterus were all in good shape and working. So the last 6 cycles have been tough! Every month when AF shows I get so discouraged. I want so badly to give my DH his child. I WAS doing OPK's, temping, preseed, & SMEP. I am going to try to temp this month and we are trying Damania (sp) and progesterone. I was told that sometimes with short tubes you may need extra prgesterone for implanting purposes. I guess we'll see. Today is CD7 of a 25-27 day cycle. I usually O around cd12. My normal LP has been 13 days. This month has been weird because I had a shorter AF and then on CD5 I had EWCM and CD6 sticky and then today I had (TMI) really long stretchy EWCM. I almost feel like I am going to ovulate. Does that seem early?? Oh well we BD on CD5 and we are BDing tonite. We are going to do everyother night. (my doctor told me my DH and I BD too much) Do you beleive that? So that is why we are doing every other. If I am not preggo this cycle my husband said he will go and get tested. I just get too stressed out sometimes. I want this too badly. Oh well that is why I am starting this journal so that I can get all this frustration out, and not put it all on my DH. Well I wrote a book today so we'll see what happen over the weekend.

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GRRRR! Sometimes it is just so hard to be happy about other people's BFP's. Don't get me wrong, I AM HAPPY! I guess I am more jealous because it is not me Sad . I know it will happen but WHEN???? I still have alot of EWCM, but I guess we'll see. I'ts hard to beleive I am going to ovulate on CD7. I have been charting on and off for 7 cycles and the earliest I ever ovulated was cd10 the latest was cd15. Oh sometimes this crap drives me mad. :banghead:

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Okay well I made it through the weekend. No ovulation detected yet. I still have alot of EWCM. Maybe its the Damania doing that. This is our first month using it. My DH and I are both taking it. Sometimes I tell myself to just relax and quit temping and timing, then maybe it'll happen, but then I think I stress myself out more when I don't do those things because then I get scared that I missed my ovulation. Oh can't it just be easier?? This weekend was a looong weekend. We are installing a sink and toilet in the basement and it took forever. Today we still have a few things to get to be a 100% finished. So my stress level was a little high. Sometimes I don't get my DH. He wants a baby badly, yet sometimes he doesn't want to try like we should. He has it in his mind that it will happen so why worry so much about it. He didn't get the fact that we are only fertile one time a month and there is only a 15% chance of getting pregnant per month. GRRRR!!! If only men could experience being a women for only one day. Biggrin

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Boy my buddy group is getting huge!!! There are so many people who have tubal ligation reversals. I so totally recommend that you are 100% sure that when you get your tubes tied that you will NEVER want more children. The thing is you don't know what the future will bring. One thing after my TR is that I have way less cramps with my AF and I only have my AF for 2 heavy days and 1 day of spotting. Before I had about 4 heavy days and 1 day of spotting and I was taking 800mg of IBprofrin for my cramps. All I am saying is make sure. I never thought I would want more children, and now it is all I think about. Oh and my (.)(.) are much bigger now. Maybe it has something to do with my body being complete again. Anyways, so no ovulation detected yet! :? I have been having tons of EWCM since CD7. Today is CD11. We'll DH and I didn't BD last night so that is good that I didn't O yet. Hopefully it will happen tomorrow. I am doing pretty good taking my temps.

So last night DH and I were sitting outside and my DS who is 7 came out side and was playing with the dog, then my DH and I go back inside to hear my DS screaming bloody murder. I run out side to see he was bleeding on his big toe. He had dropped a 5lb dumbell on his toes, so I had to take him to the ER. He scared the crap out of me. I thought he was going to go into shock. We got there and they xrayed his toes and he broke the one next to the big toe. The big toe had a pretty good sized cut so the super glued it. He has to be off his feet for a week! I swear my little one is killing me. He is always doing things like this. 2 years ago he was playing with the neighbors and decides he wants to be spiderman and jumps 2 stories to try to land on some cushions and missed the cushions. He ended up sprainging his ankle. Anyways so we had a long night in the ER and that is why DH and I were unable to BD. But maybe it'll work out since my doc thinks we BD too much. :shock: We'll if I can just O I will be happy! Like I said hopefully tonight! Biggrin

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Hi Danielle

I too have had a tubal reversal and would like to share my story with you. Thanks Pam

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TTCTRBABY#1
I would love for you to share your story. Feel free to post it to me.

As for today CD12, still no ovulation! GRRRR I was so hopeing that I would ovulate today. But NOOOO! Anyways I got my coverline, so hopefully it will happen tomorrow. My poor DH is sick and I don't know if I will be able to get him to BD again. Oh well. Sad I guess we'll just see what happens. Yesterday I used preseed. My DH liked it. But I didn't tell him it was preseed. TMI warning! He was like, Wow you are so wet! all I said was really? Probably because I am fertile. Also DH and I are taking the Damania and I think DH likes it. Last night he was falling asleep and I said Oh are you going to take your pill? And he said no I am too tired. Then it is like he thought about it and said Okay give me one. I think what happened is last night when we BD'ed he said it felt soo strong. TMI again. That he never felt his orgasm that strong before. I think it is the pills because the are an afrodesiac (sp). It also is supposed to supply more oxygen to the sexual organs. Oh well. I am temping until I confirm O then I am going to start progesterone. After 3 days of high temps I am not going to temp anymore.

Oh yesterday when I said my buddy group was getting huge, that is no lie. Now there are many people leaving because they are not getting their posts responded to. Oh I feel bad. But it is just too hard to try to keep up on personals. Anyways I just feel bad.

That's it for today.

I look forward to hearing your story TTCTRBABY#1

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Okay so I am not sure what is going on. I usually O by now. Sad I haven't had EWCM like I had the days before. So I went out and bought ovulation strips. I am going to test at 9:30. So hopefully I will ovulate today. It just gets so frustrating. And with DH sick I am probably going to have a hard time getting him to BD tonight. Oh well I will try. Maybe its the Damania causing me to ovulate later. I have been know to ovulate anywhere from CD10-CD15. So if I pass CD15 without ovulation I guess then I will worry. It's just crazy because last month I only had a 25 day cycle. And this month I can't seem to ovulate. What is going on. It just pisses me off!! I just want to ovulate because I am going to take progesterone this month. :blowup: My DH gets pissed when I temp because he just doesn't seem to get that I have to temp to know when to take the progesterone. I love my DH to death, and he wants a baby as bad as I do, but he just feels if it is going to happen it will. All in God's time! Sometimes I try to believe that and other times I get so upset when I think about it. All these women who have children and they neglect them or abuse them, it sometimes doesn't seem fair. Here we are wanting a child so badly and we will love them with all our heart and we can't seem to have one. :cry: Oh well just a vent. I will post how my ovulation test comes out later.

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Well I got a very dark positive OPK! :bouncey: Yea! So I also had (TMI) so much EWCM. I am so excited I guess there is hope for me after all. :shock: Now the biggest problem: Getting DH to BD tonight. I called him and told him about the positive OPK so I said it is important we BD tonight, and he said okay Today or Tomorrow! :shock: HELLO! I am going to ovulate. Any one home :paddle: Anyways, I guess we'll see what happens. My DH and I had a conversation about not letting BD only be about making a baby. We both agree we don't want that to happen. But what am I supposed to do? Just let this positive OPK be ignored. I DON'T THINK SO! :arguing: So I am only asking for one day of planned Sex. I don't think I am asking so much. I know plenty of women who don't even give their DH's 1 day a week. Here I am wanting to give my DH 6 or 7 times a week, but I will settle with 4. Am I crazy. I love BD with my DH. After 7 years together he is still the only man for me. (I know TMI) Wink

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Okay I am completely and utterly frustrated. :evil: I had that positive OPK yesterday and felt for sure I was going to O. But this mornings temp was lower than yesterdays. :-? I just don't get it. So I took another OPK and it was totally negative. :roll: ???? Anyways I asked the girls in my BG and they seem to think the temp will go up tomorrow. So I guess we'll see. DH got mad at me today. He felt sick yesterday, but we still BD because I told him I was sure I was going to O. Then this morning when I didn't I told him my temp didn't go up. So he gets pissed and said I need to stop doing that shit! I tried to explain to him that it was important that I know when I O because of the meds I am taking. He told me I was stressing too much. GRRRR!!! :twisted: I just don't get men sometimes. I told him that this month I really wanted to try hard. I really want to be pregnant this month because September 11th is my DH's birthday. I want to try hard so it will be a surprise for him. But I can't do it alone. I figured we would try with all our might and if we are not pregnant he can get tested next month. Maybe he is right and I am stressing and that is the reason I haven't O'd yet. If my temp doesn't go up tomorrow I am going to consider this month a bust. I will stop taking the Damania and I won't take progesterone. Maybe I'll have a better month next month. It just sucks! Sad

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Okay, so my stupid computer at home has a virus so I can only post when I am working. :evil: So everyone on my BG said that I would probably O on Saturday. So I tried to convince my DH to BD with me on Friday when I got home, but he is still sick, so it didn't work out. I set the alarm for 4am so I could temp. I of course took my temp and went back to sleep! So my DH wakes me up because he of course is caliente', so we DTD and after; I checked my temp and it was 98.05! :thewave: YEA! So we BD the day of. This is the first time we have ever done that. Anyways I was totally excited! I took my temps all weekend and they were good. Today is CD3 and I started the progesterone. I am so hoping this is our month. It is time for it to be our time. I am always worried that sex is going to turn into baby making sex only. God I hope not. Me and my DH have never really had problems wanting it. But sometimes I think I put pressure on him to BD more during the fertile time and I don't let it be spontaneous. I know he hates that. Oh well if its not our month, maybe I just need to let it be! :?

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Well I am DPO4. Biggrin That is a good thing. Temp is staying up, I am taking the progesterone, so I guess in 9 more days I will know something. :? This 2WW is killing me. I am the most impatient person. But what can I do? Anyways my DH is still pissed that I am continuing to take my temps. Once again I tried to explain it to him. but I swear it is like I am talking to the wall. Men!!! (not all, but most) :x GRRRR! Anyways I printed out all my previous charts, because I want to see if there is a difference now that I am taking progesterone. It should be interesting. I read some where that if your temps fluctuate after you O than there could be a possibility that you don't have enough progesterone. :-? HMMMM Like I said I am taking natural progesterone, so it shouldn't hurt anything. But because my tubes are shorter I am hoping it will help my lining to be ready earlier for implantation to happen. I will keep you all posted. See ya! Biggrin

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So I am 5DPO and my temp went down a bit. Sad Why can't my temp go sky high? Good thing is, is that for the last couple of days I have had EWCM. That is a sign. I keep telling myself not to read into any symptoms this month because everytime I do BAM :blowup: AF shows up with a vengeance. I have been taking the progesterone like I said I would, I keep wondering if maybe that'll do the trick. Something has to give sometime. I posted my question to my BG about progesterone because I heard if you get a BFN then you need to stop the progesterone in order for AF to start, but no one even answered my. :evil: GRRRR! Sometimes having a BG is good and other times it is annoying. Anyways 8 more days. Can the wait get any worse??? :?

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Okay today I am 6DPO. Temp came back up today, so 7 more days till I know something. Last night I was thinking about all this TTC crap. Why is it that as woman we are the ones who have to chart, keep temps, do opk's and figure out the best time to BD. If we aren't pregnant within a year we are the ones who have to go through ultrasounds, HSG's, blood samples, biopsies, and all the stress. The only things the men have to do is have sex with his women and sometimes they have to come in a cup to do an SA. HELLO :!: why do we have to go through all this and then men go and say we are the ones who need to relax??? How is that fucking possible. On top of TTC we still have lives to live. We are mothers and wifes. I work 9 hrs a day then I come home cook dinner, do laundry, bathe the kids, do homework, play with the kids, clean up after the dog, clean the house, and I still need to find quality time with my husband? Hello that is only in 1 day. So when you add the TTC stuff, that is where you get the reason so many women are on antidepressents. Why can't they understand this crap? Sorry I just need to vent. :evil: Now I feel Biggrin better.

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Hi,
I thought I would drop by and tell you that my tube lenghts are 4cm and 3cm tubes and having just as hard time as you. I wish you lots of luck and I hope you get a BFP soon. I had my tr in March as well and no BFP here either.

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Hi hoping for a miracle. When did you have your TR and with whom? Are ya trying anything different? Can take all the suggestions. Good luck to ya and if you ever need anything feel free to ask.

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Sorry I saw you had yours in March also. We should keep in touch!

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Hi,
I used a Dr. Perez in Mexico and he is a very good doctor but my Tubal ligation doctor was a butcher and so I only got 4cm and 3cm . Well, we are thinking of trying IUI and maybe that will work. What have you tried?

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My DH and I are probably not going to go that route until it has been a year. He believes it will happen in God's time. If I had my choice I would have probably done IUI. My tubes ended up short because I had a lot of scar tissue. I did have an HSG done and they are open and flowing good. So I guess the only thing I can do for a while is wait it out. How much is IUI going to cost you? Good luck to you!

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Okay so today is DPO7. My temp went up. This is good because this chart looks different. Blum 3 I am trying not to get my hopes up, but I always do. Today I have no symptoms of anything. Okay maybe a little crampy, but I think that is normal. Anyways last night I prayed that when I woke up I would see my temp go up and it did. Thank you God! Biggrin Now I am scared to take my temp this weekend because when I see my temp start to go down I get all upset. But I also want to watch because what if they go up? I just don't know what to do. :-? I will probably temp tomorrow but if it goes down, I probably won't temp anymore. I am going to go crazy. Anyways this is my last post till Monday, cuz I still have a virus on my computer at home. We should have the new computer on Wednesday.

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Triphasic Temp

Well today is 10dpo. I got a pop up on my chart that say it is triphasic. Yea!!! I know it is not a definate, but it got my hopes up. My temps are higher than ever. So tomorrow will be the sign. Usually by 11dpo my temps start to fall. So if my temp goes up tomorrow, I might test, if not I will probably have a pitty party for myself. So I don't have any symptoms of anything except I am extremley itchy on my legs. It is the weirdest thing! I am positive this isn't a sign of pregnancy, but something is going on. Please pray for me and my DH that this is our month. Thank you god for giving me this chance. Amen!

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Okay. I broke down and tested! I tested at 12:30 with 4MU and I tested with FRE and I saw the faintest of faint lines. I have NEVER ever seen a line on FRE. So while I sit here shaking, I will probably not test till FMU tomorrow. I will updated tomorrow. Please pray for me and my DH.

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I couldn't hold out. I tested with AE 2hrs later and there was a line. Faint but a line! I don't beleive it.:woohoo: OMG I am going to have a baby. Okay I called the doc and they are going to do a blood test today so hopefully I will know my beta # tomorrow. I don't want to get too excited till I have 2 beta #'s. Thank You GOD! You are wonderful. Thank you for answering my prayers. If you beleive it will happen.

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Well blood test came back negative! :cry: :cry: I just don't get how I could have 5 false positives from 5 different tests. My temp is still high and I am due for AF tomorrow. So I guess I got my hopes up for nothing. So it is on to another freaking cycle. I was so sure this was it. :cry:

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Okay WTF is going on?? I am 13dpo I am due today. Usually I start before the afternoon. My temp went down yesterday to 98.2 then it went back up to almost 98.5. When I woke up this morning I totally expected to see my temp around 97.8. When I saw it high, I about freaked. I so don't want to get my hopes up, but they already are. I wish I could just move on either way ya know. I'll post tomorrow to let ya'll know what is going on.

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Well I went to 15dpo, the longest cycle I ever had. I finally started on Saturday. Sad I guess I should be happy to know I can get pregnant,even if it was a chemical pregnancy. So I am going to move on and try to get a sticky baby. Like DH said we have a million more chances if we need them. It is just hard sometimes, because I wanted it so badly. Today is CD3.

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Today is CD6. Still hanging out. Can't wait to O. I just so wish to be pregnant. Anyways me and DH started the Damania on CD3 and I will do it again till O. I am going to the store to buy baby asprin. Someone said it help with the lining. I am also thinking about getting instead cups to hold the spermies in. Oh well trying not to get too obsessed here, but what else can I do?

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Okay today is CD9. DH and I are still taking damania. I swear it is making me have tons of EWCM, but that is okay. Yesterday September 11th was DH's birthday. On Saturday we had a party for him and for the first time in 3 years I got trashed. I didn't plan on it, but hey I guess I deserved one day to just relax and chill. Anyways yesterday I had very wet CM, so this weekend DH and I BD Saturday and Sunday. We were going to try the everyother day again but we got carried away. Anyways temps are still low, so no O yet. Hopeing it happens by CD12. I guess we'll see. Still praying really hard that this is my month. Only time will tell.

Edited: Because I was getting ahead of myself.

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Today is CD11. Temp is still low, but I have EWCM. Me and DH will BD tonight and CD13 and CD15. I am trying two new things. Baby asprin the entire cycle and instead cups after BD. One of the girls on my BG got pregnant about 3 months ago and another got a faint positive today using them. I actually bought them yesterday thinking it couldn't hurt. So we are continuing the damania and hopeing and praying it will work! Maybe tomorrow I will have good news about my temp. We'll see. One thing is I feel more relaxed about everything this month.