I am new here and have only started TTC. I am a 32 year old mother of a 12 year old son from a previous marriage and after 2 years of being married to my high school sweetheart (after a long time apart from each other) we have decided to try and have our own child together.
When he told me that he was thinking about it I was thrilled, but I did not want to get my hopes up in case he decided not to. But on Christmas morning he gave me a copy of What to Expect When You are Expecting - which was his way of telling me he had decided to go ahead and try to have a baby. We are both 32 and have an active lifestyle so we have a lot of changes coming to us, but I know it will be worth it.
We were so excited with our decision that we are wanting to tell the world, but we are not telling some of our family members as we know they will hound us about it. We have already told many of our friends who have celebrated with us and are thrilled. However I told my mom and one of my brothers last night and I did not get the reaction I expected. I have not told my DH how upset I was, but they have let me down many times that I will be over it shortly. My other brother was happy for me when I told him and tonight I will be telling my dad. If he doesn't seem happy for us I will have lost my excitement of telling anyone.
I am going to go now and enjoy the new year. My house is still fairly clean after our party last night so I don't have to worry about cleaning today!!
Well, we told my dad tonight - and let me just say that I no longer feel the excitement of telling anyone else about our plans. I understand that it is not as exciting as being able to say "Hey, we are going to have a baby, the due date is XX/XX", but they have to be able to see the excitement in my eyes when I tell them - can't they be happy for me???
I don't think that I will O this month I knew it was a lot to ask for since I just got off of BCP, but I had that hope. I will keep my fingers crossed for next month. I guess it is better to wait a month since I am still trying to finish my degree - I will be done in September this year.
I am dealing with the lack of enthusiasm from my family, it still hurts but I can't change their attitude. Considering they really weren't there for me when I had my knee surgery last year and my mom didn't come to see me test for my black belt - I guess I can't expect too much.
So, in the next month or so I will be repainting what will be the nursery. Right now it is a dark blue and we are going to paint it light blue because one of our friends is going to paint a Pooh mural on the wall for us.
I was afraid that my DH would not want to DTD with me much since he was still a little worried about having a baby, but he is accepting it better than I thought. He has been insatiable for a few days now! We are taking the next few days off since I came down with a cold yesterday.
Still no signs of O this month. I have the munchies as I usually do around this time of the month, but that is all. I am enjoying the BDing that has been happening lately though.
I am starting a new job next week, it is a temp to hire position. I have mixed feelings about it, I need the insurance and the income, but I feel guilty taking a job when I know that I am TTC. I feel bad knowing that I am taking the job with the hopes of leaving in the next year. They obviously don't know my thoughts or intentions... It is a moral dilimma.
My DH found out about the reactions my family had - he was not pleased at all. He now does not want to tell them when we are pregnant until about 5-6 months into it. He is fed up with their attitude towards me and not being there for me in the past year...
I woke up with a headache this morning and I have been so crabby it is not funny. My DH asked today if he could go on another ski trip in Feb - the weekend of his b-day when I was thinking about planning a getaway for us. He asked his friend if I could go to, but he did not like that idea too much. So, now instead of spending the weekend with him just the two of us - I will be here alone.
Still no sign of O - so I am pretty sure my chances are gone this month. But I won't count it completely out until AF visits in a few weeks...
Having another family live with you is quite stressful, especially when they have two young children with them. It is hard to keep your comments to yourself when you feel they should be doing something differently. There is a 2yo who isn't talking much - maybe 3-5 words at the most - and all he does is make noises or cry. It has sometimes made me question if I want to have another child, but I also remind myself that I would raise my child differently.
I a still cranky today which doesn't help matters any. I have had a cold for over a week and a cough for nearly a month now. I a so worn down that I cannot workout, which makes me feel yucky and unattractive. Not a good combination when you are TTC!!! I hope I get out of this funk by Friday since I am starting a new job then.
I am in the 2WW, AF is due next week...
I am sure it is all from getting off of BCP, but I have had mild cramps everyday for over a week now. They aren't strong, just a mild discomfort. Unfortunately I have had more heartburn too, which can make it hard to sleep at night.
The waiting is unbelieveable, I am a few days from AF and I am considering taking an HPT just to get the worry off of my mind. I am new to this and I truly feel for everyone who has been trying for a long time. At least I am working now which makes the days go by a little faster, but I am still worried about a permanent job - right now I am just a temp with has limited insurance. I definitely need a full time job so I can have full insurance!!!
Best wishes to everyone!!!