Early Morning Epiphany

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Kayla1981's picture
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Early Morning Epiphany

I finally get it. God put my in laws in my life to test my level of tolerance and patience. This morning, I don't feel as though I'm passing. I will type more when I'm not trying to nurse a toddler. Vent in store.

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Oh, no! Can't wait to hear this!

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Oh man, sorry Kayla. I can certainly relate to the inlaw vent. Hope it's nothing too bad.

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Uh oh. Please do share!

Nicole

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I always enjoy reading a good in law vent - I'll be checking back for details.

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Does this have to do with the stain? Wink

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Does this have to do with the stain? Wink

I was wondering that too!

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You can't just leave us hanging like that! I can't wait to hear!

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Ditto, Ashley! Jordan must be one hungry girl! Wink I'm going to actually have to get up here soon and do something with my day. Make with the story, Missy!

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

I always enjoy reading a good in law vent - I'll be checking back for details.

Ditto, love a good in law rant! They make me feel like I'm not alone Smile

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Does this have to do with the stain? Wink

Yes. :censored:

I'm sorry I didn't come back sooner. This morning ended up being a little busy but Jordan is finally down for a nap so I have a moment to sit and fill you in.

I realize this story may sound petty but I think the reason I have such a short temper with my in laws is because it's a cumulative thing. They can be very inconsiderate and I believe it comes down to their lack of social skills. So, each time I am around them and something happens, my fuse is short to begin with and it doesn't take long for me to go to the bad place. Sad

Yesterday Jason's step dad, Ray, called and said he was coming through town today and he wanted to stop by to say hi. Well, that's nice, but Jason has been very busy at work and is already taking part of today off for a dental appointment and we are leaving town tomorrow so he is only working a half day. Ray kept changing his plans of when he would come by but we finally settled on him coming over at 9 since Jordan usually sleeps until 8:30 or so. Jason felt bad taking off work at the last minute since they have been so busy but felt like he should. This morning we were all asleep when Jason's phone rang a little after 7 and it was Ray letting us know he was down the road at a car wash. Way to stick to the plan. (Once my in laws were planning a visit and they were supposed to come down on a Sunday. They woke us up early with a phone call on Saturday to let us know they were in the car and on their way. They are notorious for this sort of thing.)

So Jason let Ray in and they were visiting in the kitchen when Jason realized there was something all over the floor. Ray saw it and told Jason it was grease from the car wash. (Apparently he had done this before at home. FYI, he's a retired truck driver.) Awesome. He tracked grease, literally, from the front of our house to the back. The wood in the entry way, then on to the carpet and the whole length of the living room, and all the way to the back door in the kitchen. Apology? Nope.

I privately had a fit and then came out to visit. No mention of it came up until I saw it was on Jordan b/c she had sat in it and walked through it. I was cleaning it off of her and he asked me if I had "that floor cleaner that comes in a can." I told him I had already scheduled a professional carpet cleaner to come out because I would likely just make the grease spots worse. Offer to pay for it? Nope. Another chance for an apology also passed by. He just started talking about something else.

Jason just wants to let it go. I feel like it's his decision since it's his family and he is the one who brings home the bacon, so to speak. I am still absolutely appalled that they continue to disrespect my home. (Remember the toe nail clippings my MIL left on my floor?)

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Kayla - I haven't been passing in the inlaw department lately either. I completely get the cumulative thing and having a shorter fuse from the start.

How awful that he didn't apologize or offer to pay for it. It's the whole principle. Grr! :banghead:

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Oh my! I admire your restraint. It is so hard to keep your mouth shut about such a thing. I cannot believe that it didn't even bother him that he did such a thing. I would have been mortified if I had done something like that to anyone's home. How can you not offer to pay to clean something like that up?

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"Readyforbaby1" wrote:

Kayla - I haven't been passing in the inlaw department lately either. I completely get the cumulative thing and having a shorter fuse from the start.

How awful that he didn't apologize or offer to pay for it. It's the whole principle. Grr! :banghead:

AGREED

I'd be more mad that he didn't apologize or even act like he felt bad. Geez!

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OMG! That would drive me crazy! I cannot believe how he handeled that. Grease and oils are the worst! The attract so much more dirt and grime to stick to it. Not the thing you want on any carpet- but even more so one your toddler plays on. If it was my family or inlaws, next time they come over, I'd enforce a shoes off policy. I would say," That grease cost X $ to get cleaned off the carpets, so now we don't want people wearing shoes in the house." At the least it won't happen again, but maybe they'd offer to help with at least some of the expence.

My inlaws are not perfect, but thankfully they would take care of something like that. Probably because I am a b!tch about it. :biglaugh: Although, my MIL, the last time she was here watcing the kids, gave Andrew red gatorade. In a bottle. For a nap. It spilled and stained his sheets- that are no longer made, and his whole room is decroated around. :roll: This annoys me on so many levels. 1- She knew better. I explain how nap time goes down. 2-Andrew is off bottles. Where she found one to give him. I have no idea! 3- Gatorade? Really? I don't even give them juice during awake hours, let alone to go to bed with! 4- I want to call her out on it all but she is free babysitting and I don't want that to go away. NExt time I'll just be more proactive and remove all the juice like products and tell her again Drew can have water in a sippy cup to take to bed, but nothing else.

She likes to set back the kids. the time before that she found a pacifier in a random drawer in my kitchen that she didn't really need to be in. It was burried under a bunch of stuff way in the back of the drawer. So what does she do with this obviously not in use pacifier? Hands it to Ava. Dude, she is almost 3. She doesn not need a pacifier! And I didn't want to have to break her little heart again when I had to take it away. Sigh.

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Ugh, what a nightmare. I hope it comes out easier than we all think it will. I'd also enforce a "no shoe policy" for future visits. How rude. And calling so early? I'm not sure which is worse!

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Kayla, did you get the grease out? Dh tracked in a little bit on our carpet the other day. Dark grease from working on an engine. It came right out with some dawn dish soap!

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Amber, I'm sorry I didn't respond to your last comment. It's pretty unbelievable when people take such liberties when caring for another person's child! I cannot imagine overstepping boundaries like that.

The professional cleaned our whole living room and got it out. He had to go over it three times though. Just today Jason found one more spot. Sad They guy who cleaned them said to call if he didn't get it all so I guess I will either try to clean it myself or give him a call. It's the thickest grease I've ever seen. Almost tar like. I'm glad it came out of your carpet though! Dawn was a good idea.

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:grouphug:

Can't believe he didn't offer to pay for it.

Suddenly I'm more thankful for my ILs. They may not agree with my parenting choices, but they will follow them without (much) complaining. And when I broke a glass dish when my FIL accidentally bumped into me? Yeah, they bought me a new one and a nicer one at that!

UGH. I'm so annoyed for you!

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

:grouphug:

Can't believe he didn't offer to pay for it.

Suddenly I'm more thankful for my ILs. They may not agree with my parenting choices, but they will follow them without (much) complaining. And when I broke a glass dish when my FIL accidentally bumped into me? Yeah, they bought me a new one and a nicer one at that!

UGH. I'm so annoyed for you!

That was so thoughtful!

You know, one good thing about having ILs like this is you appreciate your own parents. DH can hardly stand to be around his parents for more than a few days. When I spend a weekend with my parents I am sad to leave. I guess I need to remember to be thankful for that.

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"Kayla1981" wrote:

That was so thoughtful!

You know, one good thing about having ILs like this is you appreciate your own parents. DH can hardly stand to be around his parents for more than a few days. When I spend a weekend with my parents I am sad to leave. I guess I need to remember to be thankful for that.

I'm sure that's how Justin feels after being with my family all the time. My family and his family are complete opposites. LOL

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

I'm sure that's how Justin feels after being with my family all the time. My family and his family are complete opposites. LOL

I think most of us have more tolerance for our own families. I know there are things about my family that get to Jason but he seems to be more relaxed when we are with my family.