Feeding a toddler is impossible

13 posts / 0 new
Last post
Kayla1981's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 11 months ago
Joined: 01/04/07
Posts: 1529
Feeding a toddler is impossible

There were days a few months back that I would just have to stop feeding Jordan because she seemed to be a bottomless pit. Now the only thing I can consistently rely on her to eat is cheese and I only give it to her at lunch. Sometimes she touches something and is immediately turned off b/c of the way it feels. She will sling it off her hand while making a face. Sometimes she puts something to her lips but makes a face the second it grazes her lips. Sometimes, by some miracle, she will actually put the food in her mouth but then she just spits it back out. Other times the food goes from her tray straight to the floor which really frustrates me. She doesn't have to eat it but I would appreciate her not throwing all of her food on the floor. Her diet consists of cheese and yogurt most days and yogurt is the only way I get her to eat most fruits or veggies b/c I buy the plain and add my own purees.

Seriously, what gives? Amber, I know you've talked about Ava not eating much. I think it's hard to imagine that she doesn't need more food to survive. Where do they get all their energy?? At least she is still nursing but we've even cut back on that a little.

Her Pedi did warn me about this. I guess I should just chill out a little.

Jenn0113's picture
Offline
Last seen: 4 years 7 months ago
Joined: 03/09/07
Posts: 5335

Kayla - bad news - it gets worse. Ha Seriously, Deacon was a great eater until he was 12-18 months....then he just stopped. He survives on chocolate milk (ovaltine actually) and spaghetti-o's. Some days I just don't understand how he is able to poop every day without eating much at all.

a's girl's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 8 months ago
Joined: 06/10/07
Posts: 1008

Sorry but I am not much help. Alison loves food and so far the only thing that she is not a huge fan of are blueberries.

Lavender444's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 11 months ago
Joined: 03/27/03
Posts: 1944

Amazing how they can survive on so little isn't it? I consider cheese a power food. it meets a lot of needs- protein, calcium, fat...all wins when it comes to a picky toodler. Expecially since most toddlers are all about the breads.

Will she let you spoon feed her still? Andrew has days where he doesn't want to eat much- but I can get him to eat baby food so I resort to that. Expecially for fruits and veggies.

As for the food throwing- thank Goodness for my dogs! They are really earning their keep! Wink And I have a rule. Throw once I pick it uo (read- the dogs eat it) and tell them not to throw food. Throw twice- Meal time is over and their plate gets taken away for a few minutes. Now Ava never throws anything and Andrew only does it at the end of a meal when he's full.

My Ped warned us about the drastic decrease in food volume. She says to makes sure they are filling up on good stuff. Offer a choice (Pears with cheese and crackers for a snack.) and serve new foods at the time of day they eat best and favorite foods when they eat the least. So in our house breakfast time is not always breakfast foods. And we do breakfast foods for dinner often (Pancakes are always a win in this house)

Even the warnings don't prepare you though. They truly live off crumbs!

AshnBill's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 8 months ago
Joined: 11/06/06
Posts: 5333

I will also say it gets worse. And it sucks. Miles, somehow, is surviving. I'm honestly not sure how, he eats so little. Chicken nuggets are a daily thing around here. That and pizza. And he hasn't had a veggie in well over a year...unless french fries and ketchup count.

I find the more I stress about it, the worse it is, so I've just sort of given up. Some day, he will eat. Our problem is he won't even TRY things. I know if he would try the foods we give him he would love them. We can't get a single spoonful into his mouth because he's crying, screaming, gagging, etc. and we can't force him to eat. That just makes mealtimes more frustrating which we don't need.

I keep telling dh I hope our next baby is a better eater than Miles. It shouldn't be too hard to beat though. ROFL

Kayla1981's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 11 months ago
Joined: 01/04/07
Posts: 1529

I had such high hopes of her eating healthy! I still put healthy things on her tray but she doesn't touch it most of the time. Today, once again, she only ate veggies and fruit b/c it was in her yogurt. It's sort of exhausting just trying to come up with what to try and feed her.

It's not encouraging to hear it won't get better but at least I know I'm not the only one whose child's diet is less than stellar. My 3 year old niece is such a great eater and always has been. She loves just about anything my sister puts in front of her. Must be nice! (Kristi, you are lucky!)

joysiloo's picture
Offline
Last seen: 4 years 1 month ago
Joined: 09/04/06
Posts: 1054

For us it was just a phase...one that pops up every now and again. The only real trick that I have is dips. Daphne loves to dip things, so I make healthy dips and she never knows. Smile I puree broccoli and add it to hummus, or I add fruit purees to yogurt and then give her fruit/veggie sticks to dip in them. I also bought some fun sandwich presses (really, just big cookie cutters), and I cut sandwiches and toast into shapes with them. That helps sometimes. And then some days she eats two or three bites and that's it.

Offline
Last seen: 1 year 6 months ago
Joined: 06/10/07
Posts: 1692

M has become a picky eater. I am finding though that I can sometimes get him to eat things that he hasn't been eating if they are dipped in something. He is a fan of ketchup! If I let him I think M would eat mac and cheese daily for at least 2 meals. Wink But luckily he wants a banana every morning and he loves yogurt. If he doesn't eat a good dinner then his dessert or snack is yogurt or applesauce.

Kayla - does Jordan drink out of a straw yet? Have you tried making milkshakes? with fruit?

Lavender444's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 11 months ago
Joined: 03/27/03
Posts: 1944

The cookie cutter trick helps us with Ava too. She'll try new sandwiches if they're cut into bears. For Andrew, I think he's a little young to think that fun shapes are worth eating.

Will Jordan eat pancakes? Honestly, that is the one place I can sneak just about anything in. I have to be sure I puree the fruits and veggies smooth though. If Ava finds a chunk then it's all over! Blum 3 I also add in an extra egg or protein powder if I think Ava's been lacking protein. Pancakes are very versatile!

I agree with Julie too- try blending stuff into her milk. this works for Andrew, but I waited too long to try it with Ava and she won't drink it. This is a nice trick too because you can do fresh spinach with any fruit and you cannot even taste it. Extra good for kiddos with low irons. Carrot juice, yogurt and milk is super yummy too. (Tha'ts actually my favorite smoothie!)

alwayssmile's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 11 months ago
Joined: 08/26/07
Posts: 14483

Oh yay. Can't wait. :rolleyes:

Kayla1981's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 11 months ago
Joined: 01/04/07
Posts: 1529

"joysiloo" wrote:

For us it was just a phase...one that pops up every now and again. The only real trick that I have is dips. Daphne loves to dip things, so I make healthy dips and she never knows. Smile I puree broccoli and add it to hummus, or I add fruit purees to yogurt and then give her fruit/veggie sticks to dip in them. I also bought some fun sandwich presses (really, just big cookie cutters), and I cut sandwiches and toast into shapes with them. That helps sometimes. And then some days she eats two or three bites and that's it.

Great tips Joy! I'll have to remember these ideas when she is a little better at taking bites. I'm still giving her bite sized pieces since she has a tendency to shove way too much in her mouth otherwise. Of course that is only when she has decided not to throw her food on the floor instead. :rolleyes:

"Readyforbaby1" wrote:

M has become a picky eater. I am finding though that I can sometimes get him to eat things that he hasn't been eating if they are dipped in something. He is a fan of ketchup! If I let him I think M would eat mac and cheese daily for at least 2 meals. Wink But luckily he wants a banana every morning and he loves yogurt. If he doesn't eat a good dinner then his dessert or snack is yogurt or applesauce.

Kayla - does Jordan drink out of a straw yet? Have you tried making milkshakes? with fruit?

She can use a straw but only the sippy cup kind so far. I'm not sure if a shake would go through those straws?

"Lavender444" wrote:

The cookie cutter trick helps us with Ava too. She'll try new sandwiches if they're cut into bears. For Andrew, I think he's a little young to think that fun shapes are worth eating.

Will Jordan eat pancakes? Honestly, that is the one place I can sneak just about anything in. I have to be sure I puree the fruits and veggies smooth though. If Ava finds a chunk then it's all over! Blum 3 I also add in an extra egg or protein powder if I think Ava's been lacking protein. Pancakes are very versatile!

I agree with Julie too- try blending stuff into her milk. this works for Andrew, but I waited too long to try it with Ava and she won't drink it. This is a nice trick too because you can do fresh spinach with any fruit and you cannot even taste it. Extra good for kiddos with low irons. Carrot juice, yogurt and milk is super yummy too. (Tha'ts actually my favorite smoothie!)

She loved pancakes for about 2 weeks! Now she won't touch them. It was such an easy way to get her to eat all kinds of good things. *sigh* I really hope she doesn't decide to start refusing yogurt too!

I still haven't tried the spinach smoothies. I used to make those so maybe I should start making them for myself again and maybe she will like them too.

Cali26's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 9 months ago
Joined: 02/01/07
Posts: 1040

Ah, yes, the picky toddler stage!! We are still experiencing pickiness. I did the dips, cookie cutters, trying new foods presented in other fun ways, "peer pressure" (he ate broccoli when he saw his friends eating it), calling it a dessert or snack instead of dinner, etc., but I've learned that if the kid isn't interested, he isn't interested. The only advice I can give is to continue to offer her healthy choices throughout the day. I can't force feed my kids so all I can do is offer it to them.

mommyvolc's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 7 months ago
Joined: 03/22/07
Posts: 1296

You got some great advice already. My only other tip would be to offer up the veggies alone first. I do this with Alicia, as she much prefers breads or meat...but if she's hungry and I put out carrots and peas (the only veggies she really eats) she will eat them because she's hungry. I've also found that she eats much more at breakfast and lunch and will only pick at supper. Olives are a big hit around here to!

Nicole