I have been talking about the potty a lot with Jordan. A while back she kept wanting to sit on the potty so I would let her, even though she didn't do anything. Then the fun of it wore off and I didn't push it. Lately I've been asking her if she wants to sit on the potty and she says no. I even took her to Target and let her pick out some panties so that she might be more excited about the whole idea. The first day we got home, she really wanted to put them on and ended up wearing a pair of panties for the whole evening over her diaper. Then yesterday she wanted to wear some so I explained that we had to take off her diaper and she could tell me when she needed to pee. I didn't even get a chance to put her on the potty (which I would have tried within the hour) b/c she peed in her underwear. I told her it was okay, we could try again but she wanted her diaper.
I keep feeling like she is not ready. Am I just being lazy? Try again in a week? Longer? Bribery? What?
I also have no idea how people PT for overnight.
I've learned that PT is different for each kid! J did not want to go in the potty.... I remember the first weekend we PT'd him... we filled him up with water, milk, juice, (and we gave him his first Slurpee) and then we camped out in the bathroom without a diaper. We gave him magazines, books, and toys he could hold while sitting on the potty. After he eventually went, we did reward him with M&M's. It took some time before he eventually went regularly in the potty. The one thing J did learn was how to hold it. He would go HOURS of holding it when we were out in public. Trevor on the other hand has been peeing in the potty since May. I swear the experience with this kid is completely different only because he is doing the training by watching his brother (he wants to do everything his brother does....including going in the potty). I have done much to train him and I have not put him in underwear yet.
If you're looking for advice, I would follow your instinct. If you feel she is not ready, maybe just offer opportunities... have a potty available, allow her to watch you go, offer an incentive for going in the potty, set up books/ magazines that she can look at only while sitting on the potty, etc.... eventually she will go! GL!!!
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PTing overnight is completely up to biology. They'll do it when they're physically able to do it. They either need to be able to hold it in their sleep or be able to wake themselves up to go potty. Definitely not something to worry about.
Aiden likes the Signing Time Potty Time video. He signs potty to me. We started light PTing because he likes to take his diaper off. We started off with a "bootcamp weekend" where we stayed home and put him in underwear (this was back in July). He got unlimited drinks that day. We started off taking him to the potty every 20 minutes. After nap we did every 30 minutes. He got 1 M&M that weekend as his treat. Made a huge deal of it. Then after that we did nothing other than asking him if he needed to potty on occasion. After that weekend he knew what was up with the potty, he knew how to sign potty, and he knew the routine. Some days he refuses to wear a diaper and he wears underwear and signs potty or goes when I ask because I realize it's been awhile. Other days he happily wears a diaper all day. If I wasn't so pregnant I'd probably bite the bullet and go with underwear whenever we're at home. We've had like 5 accidents ever (including the one I posted on FB where he peed on me ha ha). Everyone is different on how they approach it though and this is just what we decided to do for Aiden and it seems to work well for him and for us.
I agree to go with whatever makes sense to YOU because you know your kid best.
I agree with all that has been posted. Go with your gut. If you do not think she is ready, don't push it. Try to make it fun. We use books and such as well. Although, my girls were slowly getting there, and books and rewards stopped being reinforcing. So, we are struggling with this with our girls. Keira seems almost ready, so we have been really asking her about the potty. We try to sit her on it every morning, and we give her m&ms if she does succeed. However, she is not ready for underwear. It is frustrating because I want her to be ready for underwear. I want her to potty trained before she turns 3. I am just not sure she wants to be trained yet. Of course, she is really going to dictate it. Because in all reality, kids have all the control when it comes to 3 things in their lives: using the potty, sleep, and how much/what they eat. Our job is to make them think that using the potty is something they really want to do. With some kids, I think it takes more convincing than it does with others.
To post a slight vent...some chatty lady at Bob Evans acted like it was horrible that my girls were almost 3 and were still in diapers. GRRRR! Every kid is so different. Isaiah trained himself and was in underwear before 2 1/2. My girls just don't seem to want it. It isn't like this is my first time potty training. People drive me nuts with their judgements/opinions.
Slightly before the kiddos turned 2 I started working on the PTing. I would offer an M&M as a reward for sitting on it. Then moved to offering the M&M if they did something in there- 1 M&M for a pee and 2 for a poop. Then once they had sitting on it without any distress down, I went diaper free at home. It was easier for me because I have hardwood, so I could let them run around without anything on their bottoms. I kept the potty in the living room where it was always insight. After we had PTing down while at home, we did short diaperless trips. I would have the kids use the potty right when we got to the stores and ask again before we left if they needed to go.
I made the potty the new expectation. When we had accidents, which will happen, I would say, "We do not pee in our undies. Where does pee go? It goes in the potty." And I would have them repeat that back to me that pee goes in the potty. I think it makes things much more difficult if you potty train passively. If you're not sure she's ready, just wait. But once you find it's time do it and don't look back.
I also thing training pants are a waste of time and money, go straight to undies and use a diaper at night. I had some cloth trainers, thinking that would help and the days they wore those were our biggest accident days.
Last edited by Lavender444; 10-22-2012 at 10:20 AM.
I agree with everyone, which sound funny. I don't think most girls train before 3...we started Alicia around 3 but she wasn't ready and got really upset and stressed over it, so we backed off until 3.5 and then she got it really quickly. I don't agree with pull-ups or training pants, just go to undies and be prepared for accidents. you also need to be able to respond quickly. We used a potty, but I wouldn't again, just go right to the big potty. We also used rewards...for a pee you got a treat (smartie) or a toy car. For a poo, you got to watch an episode of TV. They both got it pretty quickly when they were ready. Part of it with Alicia was definitely an inability to communicate when she was 3, by 3.5 she had the words to tell us she needed to go. I say go slow, try to talk it up and give it a try once and a while. When she is ready, she'll take to it quickly and you'll know. Once she is ready, don't go back to diapers during the day, I agree with Amber, it leads to more accidents. As for night training, Alicia night trained before she day trained. I haven't gotten DJ there yet, he's just not ready. He also sweats a TON while sleeping, so is thirsty at night and drinks a full sippy cup of water over night...I don't think night training is going to happen here anytime soon. Can she tell you when she is wet? Dirty? That might be a good first step.
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You've received a ton of great advice!!
And the night thing, I agree w/Jackie! Miles is still sleeping in a pull-up and wakes up wet most mornings. I hear dh and his brothers wet the bed until they were like 8, and I've read that it's genetic. ?!?! So I'm not too concerned. I just want my sleep...and to not have to wash bedding every day.
Yes, don't even worry about night training. My Ped confirmed that comes with development not age. They don't night train until they're bodies are ready. I make the kids go potty right before bed but Andrew wears a diaper at night. Ava is dry 98% of the time, but has accidents every now and then too. With Jordan moving into a big girl bed, make sure you invest in a mattress protector. She will have accidents.
I wish we were able to do this. We are rarely home for any length of time in the evenings between Isaiah's activities, counseling, and my workout schedule. We are home more on the weekends and have tried it, but we have been inconsistent. I will probably have to breakdown and just go to underwear all the time and put plastic on their carseats. Not looking forward to it at all. I did buy the girls some new Cinderella underwear yesterday. I am hoping that it is motivating.