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What books do you have for your little ones on manners?!? Any suggestions?

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We don't have any. But my kids are super poliet. They say "may I?" "PLease" "Thank you", "bless you", and "excuse me" and almost never miss an oppurtunity to say it.

I've worked on it from the start, so I think it's pretty automatic now. I don't try to look at it as good manners, but instead of the right way to act. The hard part is explaining why the rest of the world is so rude. Sometimes Ava will do something nice, like hold a door open for someone and she (loudly) will say, "Mom, they didn't say thank you." I tell her some form of, even if people do not reciprocate, we are still poliet, because it's the kind thing to do. Then I always hope that person rememebers being called out by a toddler, and says Thank you next time.

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I do not have any books...but Alison is a pretty polite little girl. She says please and thank you. although instead of saying your welcome she will just say thank you again! HA! she will get it in time.

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That's how Michael is, too. Quite polite. After he eats he says "May I please be excused?" and carries his plate to the counter. I had a SIL that seemed shocked by that the first time she saw it. :shrug: Like you I've worked on it from the beginning. We don't have any books either but I thought they might be cute to have. Some books of course have a story that shows the right thing, etc but we don't have anything specific to manners. They might be cute to have for Matthew as he is getting bigger and starts to learn to talk. Could be a good idea for an Easter basket item! Biggrin

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No books here, its just something we have been teaching from the beginning. We are getting much better with please and thank you, but excuse me is still hard for Alicia to say...she will say "beep beep" instead...cute, but not so polite. What's funny is that we never taught her a word for farting...she decided one day to say that her bum went pop...now when she farts she will say, oh Mom, my bum went pop...scquesse me. Ha!

Nicole

Lavender444's picture
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I've seen a bunch of manner books at the library. But I get vitoed on my book selections for them. Maybe someday I can talk the kids into a book that does not have to do with princesses, ballet, cars, trains or dinosaurs. Wink

That is a great idea for Easter baskets! Smile

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"mommyvolc" wrote:

No books here, its just something we have been teaching from the beginning. We are getting much better with please and thank you, but excuse me is still hard for Alicia to say...she will say "beep beep" instead...cute, but not so polite. What's funny is that we never taught her a word for farting...she decided one day to say that her bum went pop...now when she farts she will say, oh Mom, my bum went pop...scquesse me. Ha!

Nicole

That is hilarious!! Her bum went pop! It would be hard not to laugh hearing a little one say that.

As far as saying beep beep...I forgot to add that there is one part of the being polite area that Alison is not grasping and yes...it is all our fault. Instead of saying excuse me, she will just say "move". And we figured out where she got it from. We will say that to the dogs. When we come in from outside or something and the dogs are all up in our business we will say move. So......we have to work on that....since she obviously learned it from our own rudeness. HA!

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I have a few books that were in the $1 section at Target, but I don't feel that they had any impact on my boys learning their manners... Having good manners is something we practice 24-7. We model showing good manners, practice having good manners, and teach in the moment...

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We have modeled and practiced good manners from the beginning. Isaiah was always pretty polite as a preschooler. I think as kids get into school, their peers model other behaviors. He is still polite, but not as good as he was when he was little. The girls are really learning better manners now. Although, I have been bad about saying things like "move" to them when they both crowd me while I am trying to exit a room. I never, ever did that with Isaiah, but when you have two latching onto your legs and screaming at you, you lose your cool sometimes. I am trying really hard to stop that behavior because it is really not my personality and I hate it. I have caught the girls saying that to each other and it is because I started it. Sad

As for books, I just try to find things at the library that seem interesting. Most books have some lesson as their theme, so I figure you cannot go wrong with most preschool/picture books. It is the books for school age kids that you have to keep an eye on sometimes. They aren't inappropriate necessarily, but the message they send is sometimes not the best. We did just read a chapter book about a boy who was having a hard time with his teacher and a bully at school. That really hit home with Isaiah. We had several discussions about it. Biggrin

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Woo hoo....Alison has finally learned "your welcome"...she was having a hard time saying that one. She would just say thank you or please again! HAHA!