Well, she has a first name set in stone, but no middle name. Pretty sure I've driving DS's BB crazy with names, so now to do the same with y'all.
First name will be Zoe.
Aiden's middle name is Alexander which is my dad's middle name (and my sister is Alexandria).
This time we were thinking we'd have the kid's middle name come from DH's side of the family. Only problem? Lack of girls!!!
My MIL is Rebecca Monica. My SIL is Cheryle Deloris. That's it. DH does not know any aunts, grandmothers, etc. The rest of the family is boys. This is their first granddaughter after 6 grandsons!
DH and I hate Monica and Deloris. And don't really care for Cheryle. That leaves Rebecca. Zoe Rebecca sounds fine and I'm considering it .....BUT my BFF's name is Rebecca. My close friend from high school is Rebecca. We know like 500 of them. Even my good friend from college is named Rebekkah! It was THE name for so long and we don't want people thinking we named her after them. MIL honestly would be flattered but wouldn't care if we named her after her or not. Any thoughts?
So then we've considered tons of other names.
DH likes Christiana. It's okay. I honestly don't know what else he likes because he won't tell me anymore saying who cares (I think he's tired of this convo lol).
I like Adara (following the greek meaning of beauty). DH doesn't care for it because it's weird after Aiden. Would people think we've lost our minds going from an Aiden Alexander to a Zoe Adara?!
Meanwhile my mom keeps telling me that we *have* (ha ha) to have her middle name be Lee. It's tradition on that side to make the middle name of girls be Lee. My grandmother is Laura Lee, my mom is Donna Lee, and I'm Jackie Lee. DH hates Lee. Can't blame him. Can one really get much more southern?! OMG the drama we're going to get because her middle name won't be Lee!!! Seriously can't imagine a Zoe Lee.
I'm probably over thinking this, but to me it's important for it to feel right!
Appreciate any thoughts - please be honest! And any suggestions.
~Jackie, mommy to Aiden (11/2/10) and Zoe (VBAC 11/27/12)
Have you considered last names from the family, especially good as a middle name, it's a great way to honor grandmothers or great grandmothers whose last names are lost.
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Ooooooh! I like Janel's idea!
I don't see anything wrong with using Rebecca...let them all think she's named after them!
I don't know. I had a really hard time w/Vivian's middle name kind of for the same reasons. I would have liked to use a family name, but none of them sounded right with the name Vivian. So I just went with a name that I loved for no other special reason other than I liked the name and how they sounded together.
I like Janel's idea too and I totally agree with Ashley. I think you have to pick a name you like and just go with it. If that means it is some random name, then so be it! We were fortunate in that we liked middle names that were in the family (Mae from my side and Alice from Jason's side). I was surprised we had two that fit so well because there are plenty of middle names I wouldn't have used. My sister who just had a baby used her middle name which is also our mom's middle name and my mom told me that she wished my sister would have gone with a Chinese name like my sister had talked about! (My sister's husband's mother is Chinese.)
So, find a name you like and that fits. No matter where it comes from. That's my two cents.
I like Zoe Rebecca! I feel like (at least around here) after people ask about the name and newborn stage wears off that middle names are rarely used or discussed. Also - if you wanted to somehow use Lee - what about a different yet similar version - like Leah? I don't know. I think you should just use whatever seems best to both of you. Whatever you pick will be perfect! (I also like Janel's idea of last names depending on what they are - does that seem like an option?)
I seriously gave y'all all the girl names that is known by DH and my SIL for their side! My ILs refuse to talk about their parents and siblings. My MILs maiden name was Mason.
The only non crazy person on my side other than my immediate family is my grandmother Laura Lee and my aunt (although nuts) is named after her and passed it along to my cousin. I really would never want to use any of the girl names from my side because these people are not normal. DH suggested Leann for a middle which I do like, but I can't help but always think of my druggy cousin. Maybe Leanna?
Talked to DH last night and he said that he doesn't mind Rebecca and his mom would be flattered, but she wasn't exactly a great mom (she once told DH that she wasn't meant to be a mom and doesn't get why God gave her 4 kids *sigh*). But she's a fantastic grandmother other than admitted to me multiple times that she doesn't know what to do with girls and boys are easier. lol She's special. Still on the table though....
DH said I can name her Zoe Adara last night, but that it doesn't flow at all. It flows great when I say it. What about for y'all? Is my accent making it sound better than it is? lol.
Zoe Adara flows well to me. Expecially with your last name. It is my favorite of your contenders. I like Zoe Rebecca as well, but I would be hesitant to use it in your case too.
LOVE the name Zoe!
Okay, late weighing in as I've been on vacation. I like Zoe Rebecca. I like Adara too. Given your last name, are you okay with the initials? Would you consider hypenating? Like Rebecca-Lee as a middle name? Or give her three names? Zoe Rebecca Lee? My DS has three names, to get everyone in. Go with what feels right to you. One of them probably is something you are secretly hoping for, or one is something you are just drawn to more. Go with that - to hell with what people think!
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