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The last couple of weeks have looked like this...

I rock her for about 10 to 15 minutes at most. Some days she gets very sleepy and other days she fidgets more and doesn't seem as tired. I don't read books b/c she tends to want to make it a game and run around her room so sometimes I tell her a short story when we first start rocking. That seems to help get her attention and keeps her from wanting to play. I lay her down with her lovies and walk out of the room. Some days she fusses/whines for anywhere from a few seconds to five minutes. After that she starts babbling. One day this week she talked for an hour and ten minutes before falling asleep. Today? She has been in there babbling off and on for an hour and a half. She was quite for about ten minutes and I really thought she was asleep. I guess not.

I do my best to put her down at the right time. Not too early, not too late. You can tell when she is overtired and that can backfire.

I really don't think she is done with naps. She is not even two! She has done pretty well the days we have skipped naps but those days we are usually around a bunch of people, so she is distracted. I think if it were just her and I at home then she would be a mess. A few of those times I know she was in full meltdown as we were just about to put her in bed.

It's just that having her awake for an hour and a half seems strange. I'm glad she isn't crying and I don't want to run back in there after too short of a time because I don't want her to think this is just time to play in her crib. I'm afraid she will start staying awake because she will be expecting me to come back in to get her. I want her to know it's time to sleep. Of course, I realize I cannot force her to sleep, but I'd like to encourage it. There have been days that I've finally gone back in a gotten her because it had been so long since I laid her down. My limit is usually an hour and a half.

What do you all think?

ETA: As I was typing this she finally seems to be asleep. It took about an hour and forty minutes. Am I not wearing her out enough because we are at home so much these days?

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Sorry...I am not going to be much help. Alison has never really cared much for naps even when she was newborn. She is still not a big fan. She will cat nap for about 45 minutes and then is ready to go. Bedtime is our problem time now.

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I don't have the answers but will share my experience.

One thing - what kind of monitor do you have? (Just curious to know if it's necessary that you go back in the room while she is playing) Or is the crib in a location where you could just crack the door to look without her seeing? I tend to just listen to him on the monitor during naptime and not go in the room. Once he hasn't made a peep for at least 10 minutes I'll check on him. Make sure his head isn't on a book or something and that he is in a comfy spot. At the age you are taking about M was moved into a twin bed (because I was getting ready for M2 to arrive and I wanted him to be adjusted before baby came) I always (and this is true for today when he sometimes naps and sometimes doesn't) put him in at the same time for nap. He has books, stuffed animals and a couple other things there. He generally plays/"reads" for anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour before he falls asleep and once in a while never does fall asleep.

If this is what Jordan is doing I would continue with this. Even if she starts to question the time in her crib I personally would just tell her it is naptime and that if she doesn't fall asleep she can look at her books (or whatever) but that it is quiet rest time. She is happy and content - so keep it that way - because...when this baby arrives YOU ARE GOING TO NEED THIS! Wink (Also - as your pregnancy nears the end you may need this time to lay down yourself)

(Michael is also the same way - if he misses a nap because we are at Sunday dinner or something (we go early to spend time w family) he acts fine there but if we were home and I just kept him awake and played, etc, then sometime around 4 or after he'd be grumpy!

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Kayla, I hope that naptime has improved since you've posted this!

I totally agree -- 1.5 hours does seem like a long time to be in there awake, but if she's happy, I would just leave her as well. Otherwise like you said, she'll probably give up naps altogether if she knows you're coming in there for her.

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Our girls do this sometimes, but eventually fall asleep. Sometimes, it has been about 90 minutes or so. They do it more often when they are about to hit a developmental milestone of some kind. Sarafina also does it when she has an ear infection.

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Julie - I really wish I had a video monitor but I don't. The only reason I've gone back in there is because it's been over an hour and a half. On days where she went down a little late then it just gets to be too late to even try for a nap because it will mess with her bedtime.

I completely agree that the quiet time is needed for both of us. I am going to continue to put her down for naps and just hope for the best I guess. I'm most afraid that she will try to climb out of her crib. I hope and pray that does not happen for a while!!!

Yesterday it took her an hour and a half to go to sleep. I had just about given up and then she got quiet. Today it was probably only 20 minutes? I was shocked because lately it has taken her much longer and that's been a pretty consistent thing. I thought this would last a week at most but it's been going on for a lot longer than I would have expected if it was just a developmental thing. She also had a few days where she slept late in the mornings, like she was consolidating her sleep? But then two days in a row she has been up at a normal time so who knows!!

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I am not the person to take nap advice from... I get so frustrated when I can't get my kids to sleep.

I wanted to share that Jake went through what Jordan is going through. With Jake, it was a phase that passed after awhile. I was convinced he was done with naps... he would sit in his room, play, read books, etc... i'd get frustrated as he still needed his nap. Without a nap, this little boy was super grumpy come dinner time. And then he was ultra tired for bed, but would fight going to sleep. Thankfully, he started to nap again. Jake is now 3.5 and has some days where he won't nap, but most days, he will nap for 60-90 minutes.

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Maybe it really is just a phase. In the past we would have snags like this but they usually passed after a week. It seems like we have had quite a few weeks lately where it has been like this off and on and then every day more recently. However, yesterday and today have been much improved. She was asleep after probably 20 minutes or so. I hate to make any assumptions too soon but hopefully we are getting back on track.