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PMS :(

So, I am pretty sure that I am coming close to a PMDD diagnosis. I have been really struggling with PMS since the girls were born. I am not sure if it is just the stress of adding more kids to our family or if it is a hormone issue. I am guessing hormones since all of our fertility issues were hormone related.

I was really, really feeling emotional this morning and just all out of sorts. I just find that I seem to have a short fuse from right after O until about 1 week before AF hits. I am not sure why it isn't closer to AF. It is really like some demon possesses my brain. I yell at my DH, I yell at the kids, and I yell at the cats. Sometimes, things come out (nothing horrible thank goodness--I am not swearing or demoralizing anyone) that I would rather not say. Things that should stay in your head just fly out. It is like I lose that filter, kwim? I am testy at work, I tend to be on the verge of tears all the time, and I just feel a tad out of control. It is miserable. The bad part is that I feel happy most of the time, even when this is going on. I am not depressed. I enjoy my life.

I keep debating what I want to do. I have wondered about starting PMS vitamin supplements again. However, most of those will also increase fertility, and I really don't want that side effect since we are done with having kids. I know I can talk to my doctor about taking an anti-depressant about two weeks after AF until AF starts again, but I want that to be the last resort.

Has anyone else dealt with anything like this? If so, what have you tried?

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I'm sorry you have to deal with this. :bigarmhug: It sucks feeling that short fused.

What kind of Birth Control are you on now? I know some BCP's can help. If you are for sure done, maybe you or DH can do some more permenate forms of BC so you can take the vitamins that helped you before? Maybe you do have too much on your plate too and it all boils over with normal PMS stuff. Have you tried taking a day to yourself before? I know that helps me a lot. I've never gotten a full day, but when I'm feeling short tempered, I have someone come wactch the kiddos for a few hours and slip away. It really helps a ton.

I would make an appoinment with your doctor. You don't have to feel this way and they can help. GL!

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I would go and see your doctor. They could probably give you some alternative ideas other than a anti-depressant. There are other herbal supplements as well.

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I dealt with something similar while TTC. I think it was a combination of a hormone or chemical imbalance with the added stress of infertility issues. I found that a week before my period I would just come unhinged. I felt angry about the tiniest things and my emotions seemed to control me. I completely understand where you are coming from. If I had to guess then I would say the root of it is probably an imbalance of some kind but the environmental factors can just compound the issue. I think talking to your doctor could be very helpful.

ETA: I meant to say that I have taken Zoloft in the past but that was more for depression. It really helped me and I've never stayed on it longer than 6 months. Sometimes my body just seems to get out of whack and the Zoloft helps get it back on track. So if you do end up taking some sort of prescription, hopefully it could just be for a short time and then you would be okay going off of it.

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BCPs helped me for a long time, I've recently started on citalopram, which is an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety. Its more related to chronic illness than menstrual issues, but it is helping with the PMS crazy lady stuff. Do talk to your doctor, there are lots of options out there.

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I'm sorry, Melanie. Not fun. :bighug:

How much sleep are you getting on average each night? I know it's so hard to be in line with continuous lack of sleep. I've been through this too but honestly never took the time to notice if it had anything to do with my current lifestyle at the time. There is always stress so... :shrug:

For me I think it's try to take some sort of supplement first. Boost any vitamins I might be lacking. Get away for even a 5 minute walk each day - from everyone. Keep us posted.

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I have no advice to offer, but do want to offer you a hug! I have horrible hormone issues and know how hard it can be to not be able to control your feelings or behavior. So glad you are considering all options! I hope you find something that works for you soon!

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"Readyforbaby1" wrote:

I'm sorry, Melanie. Not fun. :bighug:

How much sleep are you getting on average each night? I know it's so hard to be in line with continuous lack of sleep. I've been through this too but honestly never took the time to notice if it had anything to do with my current lifestyle at the time. There is always stress so... :shrug:

For me I think it's try to take some sort of supplement first. Boost any vitamins I might be lacking. Get away for even a 5 minute walk each day - from everyone. Keep us posted.

I definitely do not get enough sleep. It has nothing to do with the kids though. I just cannot wind down at night and I need some "me" time. So, I am often up later than I should be because I am reading a book. I only get to do that before bed, so I cherish that time. I really should go to bed earlier. I just find it hard to sacrifice what little time I get to myself. Sigh!

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I had that same issue, Melanie. I need my "me time", so I would stay up late after the kids go to bed. I ended up waking tired and crabby in the mornings. Now I'm forcing myself to be in bed earlier. I read in bed for 30 minutes or so then force a lights out. Even though that quiet time is not too much, it really seems to help. My thoughts are if I go to bed earlier, I can wake up earlier and have my "me time" in the morning before the kids wake up. When it comes down to it, I've never gotten up before them. I'd rather sleep. Which really, is the best "me time" I can think of! Smile

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"melnzai" wrote:

I just cannot wind down at night and I need some "me" time. So, I am often up later than I should be because I am reading a book. I only get to do that before bed, so I cherish that time. I really should go to bed earlier. I just find it hard to sacrifice what little time I get to myself.

I so understand that.

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I read in bed for 30 minutes or so then force a lights out. Even though that quiet time is not too much, it really seems to help. My thoughts are if I go to bed earlier, I can wake up earlier and have my "me time" in the morning before the kids wake up. When it comes down to it, I've never gotten up before them. I'd rather sleep. Which really, is the best "me time" I can think of! Smile

I started doing this too. I'm often having coffee or tea and spending time catching up online or getting something done that I find to be a fun or relaxing thing. I could've been doing laundry or dishes or something but well, I haven't touched them yet today. Biggrin

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"Readyforbaby1" wrote:

I started doing this too. I'm often having coffee or tea and spending time catching up online or getting something done that I find to be a fun or relaxing thing. I could've been doing laundry or dishes or something but well, I haven't touched them yet today. Biggrin

I wish that going to bed earlier meant I would get more "me" time in the morning, but since I work, all it means is that I will be more rested in the morning. Biggrin Maybe I could actually get up when my alarm goes off at 5:45. Lol Somehow, being more rested is not as reinforcing as it should be. Biggrin