Poor Sarafina. She is just such a gentle little girl and so sensitive. It snowed for the first time this season and Sarafina was just beside herself when she had to walk in it. Well....she basically refused to walk in it. She took 2 steps in her new boots and it was over. She stopped, started crying, and refused to go any further. She would not even hold my hand. She had to be held and carried to the car and the house. Oh, and she loves the boots, so I don't think that was it. If I had not hidden them in the bathroom, she would have taken them to bed with her. As it is, both girls sleep with their dress shoes.
I try really hard to be patient with her, but she is scared of everything. We try our best to prep her when we can. I even talked about how much fun the snow was yesterday before we stepped outside. I guess it just wasn't fun in her view. So, our list gets bigger. She is scared of birthday cake, snow, restaurant cups with straws, walking up or down the stairs or any step with assistance, and I am sure there are more. We have gotten over stranger anxiety for now, but that was big until recently. She would erupt in restaurants if we went out without her daddy.
Anyway, I just had to get that off my chest. I love that girl to pieces, but I worry about her. For a toddler, it sure is a scary world.
Ok, I lol'ed about them sleeping with their dress shoes.
I'm sorry Sarafina has such a hard time. It's interesting how kids can present challenges that we wouldn't even know to anticipate. I know I put my parents through a lot as a child b/c I had horrible separation anxiety so getting me to go to school and having me sleep in my room were daily battles for a long time. I even came home from camp one year b/c I was so homesick I didn't eat for two days and I finally got sick. The good news is that I eventually grew out of it and they love me just the same. She may always be sensitive about certain things but I bet she will outgrow many of these things sooner rather than later. In the meantime, I hope you are able to find ways to help her cope.
I know I put my parents through a lot as a child b/c I had horrible separation anxiety so getting me to go to school and having me sleep in my room were daily battles for a long time. I even came home from camp one year b/c I was so homesick I didn't eat for two days and I finally got sick. The good news is that I eventually grew out of it and they love me just the same. QUOTE]
Kayla - were we sisters in a past life? Seriously this sounds just like me when I was a kid!!!
As far as being afraid, Alison is scared to death of her rocking horse. So scared in fact we had to take it to Grandma's house and put it in their attic. I think that in time they will grow out of their fears. In the mean time just lots of reassurance and hugs, which I do not mind one bit! There will come a time when they will be embarrassed by our hugs!
Andrew is a bit of a risk taker, but he is also terrified of the snow. He just hates it and refuses to move and screams if he's placed in it.
And just because I'm a mean mom. I put him in it and took pictures. lol! Poor dude!
It was hard to balance the 2 kiddos, because Ava LOVED it and refused to come back inside, so Andrew and I had to sit just inside the sliding glass door a few feet away, and watch Ava play. I hate having to stop one kiddo's fun because the other is being a party pooper. This was a day I was really wishing DH was around. Ava would have sat there and played with that monkey forever, if I didn't eventually bribe her to come it.
Awww! Snow can be scary though. Hopefully she'll get used to it.
It rains so rarely here that Aiden got very upset by watching it storm at my parents house a couple of weeks ago!
It is amazing to see how the minds of our little ones work. I hope she warms up to the idea of snow soon.
Sarafina still will not walk on sidewalks or driveways because you can still see the snow in the grass! It is crazy. So, I have been having to decide if I carry her or make her walk. This morning I carried her out of the house, but made her walk to the door at daycare. She sobbed the entire way yelling, "Mommy, Mommy!" Broke my heart!
Anxiety in young children is not all that abnormal. I just have no experience with it. It is really hard. Isaiah and Keira are pretty adventurous, or at least relatively flexible with experiencing new things. Sarafina just doesn't go for new things. Our ped said that if I don't see improvement after she turns 4, he will start getting worried. As a parent, it is hard to be the one in the restaurant with the screaming child who is frightened, or out at Target, etc... People stare at you. Sometimes, I can see the judgement on their faces. As if I am doing something to make her that way or I am not doing enough to make her "mind." It is really frustrating. She will eventually pull herself together. I just don't want to give in on some things because I know it will make it worse. When I reinforce her by leaving the restaurant, how will I ever teach her to learn that restaurants are safe, kwim? When you take her out, she refuses to go back in. Fun times, fun times!