Secrets of a working mom

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Secrets of a working mom
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Thanks for sharing!

I've been struggling with this lately. As a result, I'm finding it more difficult to finish tasks at work and my home is suffering... I mean, I get all that she is suggesting, but how do you manage to clean house/do daily chores without sacrificing your sleep? Maybe it's just because I have a teething one year old who is attached to me? Smile The one thing I do know is that things always work out as things eventually get done...

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I am totally there with you. I think really it is just important to be realistic as a working mom. You cannot clone yourself, as much as we would all love that somedays. We can only do what is physically possible within the day. Taking time for yourself, finding ways to multi-task, and being realistic about your limitations will make life seem a little easier. Part of the article made me think it was more for working moms with older kids. I can see myself working on my computer while Isaiah is doing homework. However, I cannot work on my computer with two 22-month-old twins running around. Plus, I try to keep myself from taking work home unless I am so behind that I have to work at home.

My house is a mess and it is likely to remain that way. I don't know really know how to get all of it done without basically working from 5:30 in the morning until midnight every night. I think I am going to work on getting my house better organized and then talking to my DH (again!!) about hiring someone to do the deep cleaning for us. Bathrooms, vacuuming, scrubbing the kitchen, etc.

Our problem is that by the time I get home, I am totally in ADHD mode. I cannot think straight. Last night, I forgot to look in Isaiah's backpack and check his folder and assignment book. Sad The girls just get going and start screaming and fussing when I get home, and Isaiah puts his backpack in a different room instead of bringing it to me. Then, I forget all about it while trying to get dinner ready and stop the twinkles from causing me to pull all of my hair out! Whew!

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I agree that this was directed more to Moms with older kids. I don't bring work home, and when I do, I go in the office and close the door. There is no way I'd get anything done otherwise. I do most of the rest of it, who doesn't? I use my lunches for errands, and personal stuff. Use the crock pot, let the little stuff slide etc. As far as keeping my house clean, I've learned to let it slide. I'm usually pretty anal about it, but I just can't be right now, it drives me nuts. I do get the kids involved, after dinner they love clean up time with Mom. They help load the dishwasher, wipe the table and DJ loves to swiffer. In the evening after the kids are in bed, I break up the chores into a short list and alternate something pleasurable, like reading, with a chore. 10 pages, fold a load of laundry, kind of thing. That way be the end of the evening I've got stuff done, and some relaxation too. The other thing I do is make big tasks much smaller. The bathroom needs cleaning...I do the sink/vanity. When the kids are getting in the bath, they do the tub (I use baking soda) and then we have a bath. I do the shower walls while I'm in there showering. That kind of thing. Anyone else want to share their sanity savers?

Nicole

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I'm a mix of Melanie and Nicole. I don't think I have enough hours in my day to do all I need to do. When I get home I immediately get to the kitchen to make dinner. We quickly eat so I can clean up and make lunches and get the coffee pot ready for the next morning. Then I am looking for clothes to wear to work and daycare and setting them out - cleaning up all the toys and junk that DH and DS have left around the house - doing any laundry that I have the energy to do - etc. By the time I know it its 10 pm and I am dying of exhaustion and Deacon is still awake :eek: So then we start the bedtime routine...yikes!

I do run a lot of errands at work and so as much as possible (shopping, bills, etc) online - although DH does most all of the bills.

Its hard for me because my commute eats up 2+ hours a day, then I am at work for 8 hours. I wake up at 7 and go to bed by 10 ( at the latest) and so for those 15 hours a day that I am awake I am only at home for about 4 of them and an hour of that is getting ready for work and the other three is use to get ready for the next day. Its a killer!

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I have a 2 hour commute a day as well. I always think of what I could be doing instead of driving!

I wish I had sanity savers to share. Nicole, you have some great ideas. How cute that DJ likes to Swiffer! I know things will improve somewhat for me once Trevor gets a little older.

For me, it's all about planning and organization. My Sunday's are busy making a weekly menu, actually making a week's worth of lunches for all of us, pulling out a week's worth of clothes, and gathering anything else needed for preschool, daycare and work. I seem to use most of my time doing these essential things and find that I am out of time for the rest of the daily chores or daily work duties that I feel like I should be accomplishing.

Melanie, I've considered finding someone to help clean the house, but I find that my problem is picking up and putting everything away, which would need to be done before the housekeeper arrived!

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"Cali26" wrote:

For me, it's all about planning and organization. My Sunday's are busy making a weekly menu, actually making a week's worth of lunches for all of us, pulling out a week's worth of clothes, and gathering anything else needed for preschool, daycare and work. I seem to use most of my time doing these essential things and find that I am out of time for the rest of the daily chores or daily work duties that I feel like I should be accomplishing.

Melanie, I've considered finding someone to help clean the house, but I find that my problem is picking up and putting everything away, which would need to be done before the housekeeper arrived!

This! By the time I do all the stuff I need to do I haven't even started on the stuff that still needs to be done.

I will say this - Thank God my mom owns a cleaning service so I never have to clean my house. If I did we would either live in a pig sty or I would just never have time to sleep.

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"Cali26" wrote:

I seem to use most of my time doing these essential things and find that I am out of time for the rest of the daily chores or daily work duties that I feel like I should be accomplishing.

Melanie, I've considered finding someone to help clean the house, but I find that my problem is picking up and putting everything away, which would need to be done before the housekeeper arrived!

Nicole- Isaiah is my helper. I get him to wet swiffer the floors and vacuum for me. Biggrin

Isn't that the truth. I organize some, but honestly, I would rather spend time with my family than do a lot of that. We meal plan, but don't always stick to it. I just grab the kids clothes on the fly every day (mostly because the weather is too unpredictable most of the year-- today will be 75, but tomorrow is supposed to be 50). A chef and personal assistant would be nice too, I think. Biggrin

Yes, I would have to pick up as well. My hope is that I would be better about it if I had someone coming in to do all of the time consuming tasks. My DH gets frustrated because he feels the same. He wants to spend time with the kids and he doesn't want to mess with any of it either. So, we struggle to keep the house orderly. It is not dirty (as in food on the floor, dirty dishes all over the house dirty), but it needs some organization. Of course, DH gets spoiled in the summer and struggles with the return to working family reality in the fall. Lol

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