The boys are sharing a room.
Generally M goes into his room at 7:30 after starting his night time routine in my room. (milk, snack with a few minutes of a favorite show, sometimes books) Then at 7:30 he brushes his teeth and gets into bed for book time. Usually he is behind closed doors by 7:50 or 8. Then I nurse M2 (and he still sometimes nurses between 9-10 somewhere) and he goes into the crib (M1 has fallen asleep by this point or if not I tend to hold him and wait til M1 has). When M2 wakes between 9-10 (which can be anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour after I've put him down) I grab him immediately and bring him in to nurse and then I bring him back after he has fallen asleep.
Now...the rest of the night....
For those who have had two share a room - what did you do when the younger one woke up? M2 is waking A LOT. Rock him in their room? Leave the room when he is crying just too loud? Any tips or suggestions? (other than seperating their rooms ) Michael was STTN at this age (this is when he started STTN regularly) so I am almost feeling like I have no idea! I've been averaging 3-4 hrs of sleep each night and not at once.
Sorry, Julie. I don't have any advice. Maybe you could work out a routine where both of them go to sleep at the same time in their room, instead of making the transfer for M2 when he's already asleep? I don't know. I hope your sleep improves soon!
This is just a toughy. I was lucky since my girls were the same age, but we had some similar issues. Keira often woke up screaming for her pacifier and would wake Sarafina. We found that we often rushed in to get K what she wanted to avoid waking S. Sometimes, I even took K into our room to get her back to sleep because I didn't want her waking S. Eventually, we got to the point where K had to learn to soothe herself back to sleep, so we had to let her cry for a little bit and sometimes we had to live with S waking. Now, the girls sleep through each other and both sleep through the night. K can find her own pacifier and will put herself to sleep without it if she must. We can thank her attachment to two blankets for that!
I guess what I am saying is that you will figure out what works for all of you. It will get easier. I can promise that!
I don't have any advice either. But I would think I would leave the room with M2 when he woke to feed, so not to wake M1. Expecially since he won't wake to eat forever.
Sleep is so sacred when you don't get enough of it. I do whatever I can to preserve it. My kids have their own rooms, but our house is small, so they can still wake eachother up. I make sure I grab one fussing kid, before the other can wake. But, I also don't do CIO. If you do CIO you may have to let M1 learn to adjust to M2 fussing.
But on the flip side, I don't try to keep a quiet house while my kids are napping. I want them to be use to the noise, so they don't wake up for everyday noises like their sibling playing or me vacuuming.
GL! I hope sleep gets more plentiful for you guys!
My kids share a room, but didn't start until after DJ was sleeping through the night. Our routine now is that they go down together...but sometimes that just doesn't happen. We have, on occasion, allowed Alicia to go to sleep in our bed and then transfered her. Are you thinking of doing sleep training with M2? If so, is it possible to move M1 into another room (like yours? or a guest room?) for a brief period while you work on that? Otherwise, I would take M2 out of the rooom to feed him so as not to disturb M1. I do that with my kids when one wakes, I bring them into another room, or our room, to calm, rock etc. Sometimes they end up co-sleeping...sometimes they end up back in their own bed. Depends on the reason they woke up. Broken sleep sucks...so at this point I'd do whatever necessary to get M2 to sleep through the night...
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Thanks for the responses everyone.
Ugh Julie, sorry that you're getting so little sleep. Our kids will be sharing a room in 4-5 months, so I'm interested to hear what ends up working for you. The only thing I can think of is maybe adding a white noise machine close to M1's bed so that he doesn't hear M2 as much.
Julie, I came to post what Joy said... The kids rooms are right next to each other so I use a white noise machine in T's room and end up keeping it on almost all night. It really does drown out the noise and help's T stay asleep. If your boys sleep ok with it on (I will turn it on pretty loud for the first part of the night and then turn it down for the rest of the evening, before I go to bed), I recommend trying one out!
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