How many of you would classify your child this way? What parenting techiniques do you find helpful? Have any of your ever read the book, "The New Strong-Willed Child" by Dr. James Dobson? What were your thoughts? I am reading it now and I have mixed feelings. I agree with some of it, except that he endorses corporal punishment (although I have not read that chapter yet to know his full view), and I am very against it.
Keira is my strong-willed one. She tries my patience and she will test me to my limits. I find myself exhausted just asserting myself to make sure she understands that she is not the boss in our house. She stands her ground and will not budge when she is determined. I often find that giving her choices does not even work. She will just refuse the choices and continue along her way. It is super frustrating. She also refuses to sit in time outs. I am that mom who is sitting on her kid to keep her there (almost literally, it is more like a very firm hold), and by the end she is in tears..and I feel like I want to breakdown with her (I don't). I was never much of a yeller with Isaiah, but she has pushed me there and I have had to really focus to keep myself from losing control. There are nights where she will get in her crib, but refuse to let me tuck her in. I have left her standing there on several nights just screaming and crying. And...when she screams, she will take it to the point where she vomits or she bites herself. I refuse to go back in until she calms down and then I will tuck her in. I often have to remind her that we use "nice" words when she wants something because her favorite phrase is "You do it!" She throws her food on the floor on occasion. Also, when I had a new "nanny" this summer, she refused to let her do anything if I was there. She was not allowed to give Keira any food, help her with her bib, get her dressed, do her hair, etc... I chose not to fight it because it was such a fight that resulted in meltdowns, but I feel like I should have stood my ground. I just did not want to expose the high school girl to such behavior. I just feel like it is always a battle of wills....ALWAYS.