Either necklace would be a wonderful gift. I love the name necklace I have with Aiden's name, but the nest is just so elegant looking!
I can only imagine all the memories this is bringing up for you.
I can't imagine how you are feeling right now... all of your personal emotions and all of the emotions for your family.... My heart has been aching for your family since I initally read your post. I have tears in my eyes reading about the autopsy. I can't imagine the pain they must be feeling hearing that sort of news about their precious baby B I'm glad they are so strong now and I'm sure they understand if you break down. They have got to be so overwhelmed with so many different emotions....
I like the idea of separate cards for each baby. I also like the ornament idea (I have one for each of my m/c and I appreciate looking at them on my tree every year). I do like the cut/fresh flower idea, too. The necklaces are beautiful. I do like the idea of the more subtle one; however, the name one is beautiful too. Sorry, I'm not much help in the suggestion department! I'm thankful that baby A is doing well and I will continue to keep your family in my prayers.
Mommy to 2 amazing little boys!
Angel babies 6/9/07 & 11/16/07
I just wanted to give a little update.
Baby B's memorial was on Saturday. One Saturday, they also got back some pictures from Now I lay Me Down To sleep. Which is a group that has professional photographers come in and take high quality pictures of a baby in their last moments with their family. The pictures are so inredibley moving. In one picture, they put Baby B in with Baby A for the fist time since they were born. Baby A immediately grabbed Baby B's hand and held on tight. The photographer captured that moment. That single picture made me cry for hours. It's just amazing to see how much love and comfort these tiny babies had for each other.
It was a very tough weekend on the family. Not only was the memorial very emotionaly draining, but Baby A needed to have heart surgery the following day. She has been sedated since the surgery and they are starting to have her wake up today.
Her poor parents are just drained. I'm hoping that this surgery is a turning point for Baby A. I'm not sure how much more the parents can take.
Oh my goodness. Your description of that pictures is sweet but incredibly heartbreaking. My emotions have been running high lately with being pregnant and my friend's preterm baby so this hits all the closer to home right now. I just don't even know how parents endure this sort of thing. I hope they have a lot of support from family and friends.
Wow. The picture you described, Amber. I can't even imagine. Some people have to be so darn strong in this life. Keep us posted on how baby A is doing as they wake her up. T&P's are with everyone.
Thank you for updating! Hopefully Baby A will recover well from her surgery! The picture you described is so sad...almost like Baby A will always have a part of her missing since her twin is gone. It is amazing at how strong people can truly be when faced with something like what they are going through! Your whole family is in my thoughts!
That is so sad. I can't even imagine what they are going through. I hope that Baby A is doing well after her surgery. Give us an update when you get a chance.
I think either necklace is perfect.
Another little update.
They're having trouble getting Baby A off the oscillating vent. It was expected that after surgery her O2 needs would improve, but her lungs are really gunky and they are having to suction off some thick crud. They are worried that she may have an infection, so they're running some cultures. She also has some weight loss today. This far out from surgery, there should have been more improvements but we're still waiting. Poor little girl cannot catch a break. I hope tomorrow brings her a better day.
Their strength is just amazing. I have been falling apart frequently. But they have always been composed when around other people. They are hurting, you can see that. But the fact that they are functioning is amazing to me. I think they are getting a fair amount of support. I've been trying to do what I can by making meals and taking their older daughter so they can go to NICU. It sounds like people are already getting burned out a bit, which is really unfortunate since this is just the beginning of their long NICU stay. I think it's difficult to know how much help a NICU family needs unless you've had personal experience in that area. Thankfully I'm very close to them and I'm able and willing to help. I just want things to be stress free for them else where, since all they're seeing is the ugly side of NICU right now.
I did end up ordering them little gifts too. I found and Etsy seller with really nice handstamped keychains. I had all 3 girls put on there and got one for each parent. I wanted to make sure that the husband was included. I feel like everyone is focusing on the Mother, but not really making sure the Father is okay too. I hope they like it.
Ava is being amazing. I wasn't sure what to tell her about this all, so I decided to tell her the truth. We've been talking about why Baby B died, where she went and what is happening with Baby A. She asks a lot of questions and I answer them as honestly and age approperate as I can. Ava has been drawing pictures for the parents. After the first time we talked about it, she drew them a picture of all 3 girls. Right before the memorial she wrote their older daughter a letter. Her letters and books, which she likes to write often, are adorable. She draws those little squiggley lines to represent her words then reads you her story. She told me her letter said how special it is to have a sister on Earth and one in Heaven. And she said how much she loves Baby B, how special she is, and how much we miss her. It made me cry all over again.
Please keep them in your prayers.
Last edited by Lavender444; 05-04-2012 at 01:30 AM.
I love the necklace you described and how the father is included, too. They are all in my prayers. How completely sweet of Ava. What a nurturing little girl she is. Hugs for all of you. Please continue to keep us posted on baby A. Can I ask how much she weighs?