Teacher...again

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Teacher...again

So, we are done. We will be asking for the other teacher for next year. The second and third grade classes loop with their teachers. It is not a positive environment for my son. The straw that broke the camels back? The teacher essentially called Isaiah a liar. We received a report from the teacher last Thursday that Isaiah got in trouble at gym. We asked him about it. He said he did not get into trouble. He has never lied about getting in trouble before. So, we asked the teacher if she was certain it was Isaiah that got into trouble. She e-mailed us back and said Isaiah was lying. Isaiah also said she pulled him into the hall and told him he was lying to his parents about gym. He told her he was not lying and that he told us the truth. She did not believe him. I felt like I was interrogating my son to get to the "truth."

So, I e-mailed the gym teacher. Isaiah is a pretty honest kid. He has never lied to us before. Sure, he can always start, but my gut said he was telling the truth. Guess what? The gym teacher told us exactly what Isaiah told us. He was not in trouble in gym. Another kid was pulling on his sweatshirt while he was trying to put it on and she was addressing it with both kids when Isaiah's classroom teacher walked in. I am livid.

We have done our best to be supportive of his teacher, to the detriment of our relationship with our child. At least, that is how I feel. I even told my husband earlier last week that I thought Isaiah was being bullied. He was giving off classic symptoms. We have had to start counseling because he is so stressed and anxious. Now, I know my instincts were right. It is the teacher. It is so hard for me to even say that. Working in the schools, I try to treat all teachers with respect and I try to be professional. I never want to believe anything bad. I want to believe that all teachers do what they can to treat all of their students with respect. However, it is obvious that this teacher does not like my child. Consciously or not, she is not treating him with respect. Sad I am so pissed and sad.

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I'm so sorry. That is awful and should never happen. If anything, I hope that Isaiah learns by watching how you and DH handle this situation as opposed to him losing trust in his teachers. Sad

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Oh no! :grouphug:

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"Cali26" wrote:

I'm so sorry. That is awful and should never happen. If anything, I hope that Isaiah learns by watching how you and DH handle this situation as opposed to him losing trust in his teachers. Sad

I really hope so too. He hates school right now. He does not sleep some nights because he gets so stressed. He has even told us that he does not want to go to college. Now, I know he is 8, so I am sure his decision related to college will change back and forth over the years.

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That sounds incredibly frustrating! I can understand why you are so upset about all of this. Do you plan to address this with the principal?

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That is so difficult. And sad. I hope the rest of the school year flies by. :bighug:

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How terribly sad. I'm so sorry. :bighug:

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"Kayla1981" wrote:

That sounds incredibly frustrating! I can understand why you are so upset about all of this. Do you plan to address this with the principal?

Yes, we are planning to meet with the teacher and the principal. I am going to have to print off all the e-mails from the teacher as well.

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That is a good idea taking all the emails when you meet with the principal. Completely unacceptable on the teacher's part in my opinion.

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:lurk: Have you considered pulling him how, especially since they loop. There is no reason he can't start with the other teacher now.

We pulled my son in January because of a bad teacher. He's like a different kid. What a difference. (He's 7)

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"CrescentMoonMama" wrote:

:lurk: Have you considered pulling him how, especially since they loop. There is no reason he can't start with the other teacher now.

We pulled my son in January because of a bad teacher. He's like a different kid. What a difference. (He's 7)

Yes, we are in the process of meeting with school personnel. We stuck it out with this teacher because we really hoped that things would turn around. I purposley asked her to start checking in with me everyday and to provide me with a list of positives. I was hoping that thinking about positives would help change her mindset some. Unfortunately, her check-ins became sporadic over the past few weeks. The positives were helpful, but I don't think they helped her. When he had a good day, we would get short sentences on negatives. If he did something that seemed to really annoy her, we got paragraphs of negatives.

Also, there are some issues with the other second grade class that we are concerned about, which is why we hesitated to move him in January. I hope we can discuss all of our concerns and the school will have some ideas for us. I also hope they are willing to look at a change in teacher. Isaiah's counselor will be involved in my meeting with the teacher in the hope that she can help as well.

One of the main areas I plan to address about the school environment is that the school does not have a positive behavior support system in place. I am unclear about what they do to encourage the behaviors they really wish to see in their students.