Thoughts on sprinkles?

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Kayla1981's picture
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Thoughts on sprinkles?

My friend wants to throw me one, which is so sweet. I would love to get some new things for this baby and a sprinkle would be a fun way to celebrate this pregnancy. There are a few smaller things I could register for. We had a hand-me-down infant bath last time but I would like one that cradles the baby instead of the hard plastic. Some of the tops we had for Jordan have stains on them. You know, the kind that show up after being stored even though they were put away clean? **Is a sprinkle really more about getting clothes anyway?**

Of course there are some big things that we will be buying on our own again. We need another crib, another car seat and I would love to have a second rocker. (On a side note, it's too bad we sold Jordan's car seat! I knew it was going to expire in 2013 and I really didn't know when we were going to need it again.) Too bad it would be totally inappropriate to ask for cash!

So... How do you feel about sprinkles? What if the second child is the same sex as the first?

alwayssmile's picture
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That's so nice of your friend!
I'm personally not too fond of baby shower type events for #2 (or 3 or 4) when kids are fairly close together, at least in the traditional sense of a baby shower. I have been invited to one sprinkle for a 2nd child and the invites said, "your presence is present enough" but most people still brought something small (like an outfit). It was definitely more of a celebration of a new baby more than a giant gift giving, which was really nice. I really like the idea of having a book party where everyone just brings their favorite kid's book to the shower.
I'm sure closest friends and family members would want to get you stuff, but it always rubs me the wrong way to do things like you would for a baby shower for #1. I wouldn't register or at least I wouldn't tell anyone you've registered outside of those really close people who would already give you stuff whether you have a sprinkle or not (and of course these people tend to ask what you need and want).
I don't mind a celebration for the new baby at all, I just don't like it turning into a regular baby shower which always feels to me like it's nothing but a reason to get gifts rather than celebrate.
Of course it really bugged me how much gifts Aiden got for his birthday, so I'm going to ask for no presents in the future for that. lol.

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I have double standards when it comes to sprinkles/showers for 2nd+ pregnancies. For myself, I refused one even though my kids were not the same gender. My kids were just too close together for me to feel comfortable with one. But I have no problem attending them for other people. I think that it's a regional thing with how people respond to sencond showers. My group of friends does not do them, I really offended some family and people from work who wanted to host one for Andrew. But I have attended 2nd and even 3rd showers for people and had a great time.

I would never register for a 2nd baby though. I think that is a bit too much. If there was something you needed/wanted more than something else I would have that spread through word of mouth. The host could say, "Kayla is set on baby girl clothes, but I know that she could use ______. "

If someone offered to host one for you, it's totally up to you if you feel comfortable enough to have one. And, if you do. please share lots of pictures! Smile

Cali26's picture
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I refused a second shower/ sprinkle. My sister didn't care and threw me one anyways. She threw me a surprise shower and invited our family and close friends. It was a lot of fun and I'm so glad she did it. I was so excited to have had the opportunity to celebrate my second pregnancy. I didn't register. She requested that the guests bring diapers and wipes (which were MUCH appreciated). We also got a few cute outfits. It was a great time.

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"Cali26" wrote:

I refused a second shower/ sprinkle. My sister didn't care and threw me one anyways. She threw me a surprise shower and invited our family and close friends. It was a lot of fun and I'm so glad she did it. I was so excited to have had the opportunity to celebrate my second pregnancy. I didn't register. She requested that the guests bring diapers and wipes (which were MUCH appreciated). We also got a few cute outfits. It was a great time.

That made me LOL! Speaking of your sister....where are pictures of her baby shower?!

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Around here showers are only for the first. People are generous about giving gifts when the new little one arrives anyway (and also many include gifts for the big sister or brother) so that tends to be how the new one is honored. Other than hearing people on p.org have them I've really never heard of it before. If you have one be sure to share pictures!

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I have never even heard of a sprinkle. I guess I am out of touch. I had two showers. Of course, there were almost 6 years between my kids, they were different genders, and we were having twins. So, my friends wanted to celebrate it. I did not say no because they would have been very offended. I know people have different opinions about showers for second or more babies. Personally, I think every baby is a miracle to be celebrated. I don't think that means people have to buy gifts. I threw a baby shower for a good friend for her second baby. Her kids were 5 years apart and different genders.

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"Lavender444" wrote:

That made me LOL! Speaking of your sister....where are pictures of her baby shower?!

Oops! I'll find some to share...

Kayla1981's picture
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I've been so concerned about looking greedy, so I've been asking around to see how people feel about sprinkles. So far it seems like most are okay with them. I am fine if people want to attend and not bring a gift or just bring something small, like a book.

I am unfamiliar with how they work. I've never been to one, so I really did not know if people register or if people skip gifts all together. I was talking to the friend who wants to throw it for me and she said "If the first is worth celebrating then why isn't the second?". I have to say, I agree! I think we will just put something on the invitations saying that gifts are not necessary. If people really want to buy something then I'm sure they will ask around or just pick up something small.

Thanks for the opinions!

alwayssmile's picture
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I think that's a great way to do it. Smile

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We don't have those here either. I've never been to one anyways! I wouldn't register for a second baby, but agree that word of mouth is good. I'm always hinting at what we need to my parents or sister because they LOVE to shop for my kids, LOL.