Tough Day

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Tough Day

T just turned 16 months! He's been nursing non-stop for 16 months. He's nursed like a champ and I just love, love the bond we've developed during this time. Over the past month, T has been fighting a double ear infection, sinus infection, he's working on 4 molars and it looks like the area around his canines are becoming swollen.... because of this, T has turned more and more to nursing for comfort. We went from nursing before bed and one time early in the morning to nursing almost all night and again in the afternoon for nap. Needless to say, I am TIRED. I feel so guilty saying this. But I've realized that my little guy is focusing on nursing as his way of soothing himself. DH and I want to help him learn to self soothe and to learn that we can provide him comfort without nursing (make sense?). So as of last night, DH started to rock/bounce him to sleep and when T wakes up in the middle of the night, DH is going to be the one to help him get back to sleep and DH helped him fall asleep today for nap... T really wanted mommy, but fell asleep after a few minutes in daddy's arms. I was so sad. But when he woke up (this morning and after nap) he ran to me and gave me the biggest hug. It was awesome. But at the same time, I feel so guilty. J self weaned at 13 months. I thought T would do the same. Sad T is doing great at drinking cow's milk now and he is eating well (although he is SUPER tiny), so I know he doesn't need my milk... but I am proud that he's had it for 16 months! Anyways, thanks for reading if you've made it through my ramblings...

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I completely understand. I carry some guilt that I weaned Jordan at 19 months. I had it in my mind that we would go until she was two and she would have continued to nurse if I hadn't been the one to stop it. She did really well, which helped with my guilt, but it didn't get rid of it completely. Nursing is a wonderful, wonderful thing but it really does make you feel like you have sort of given your body to someone else and that can be frustrating. I miss nursing her, in a way, but I also really appreciate the freedom I have now. Having "my body back" as they say. I feel selfish saying it too but we are human and I think it's natural to feel that way. Guilt, unfortunately, seems to go hand in hand with parenting so much of the time though. Especially for moms I think.

Just remember what an awesome thing you have done. Smile

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16 months is awesome! Congrats! The guilt when this transition comes up can be tough. I also understand how tiring it can be when all of a sudden you are nursing more than normal even if it is a bond you treasure. I hope the night went okay. It's awesome that you could nurse both boys for so long! :bighug:

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Wow! great job T and Cali! 16 months is great!

Sorry the poor litlte guy is tackling all this junk at once. Sad No fair! Hopefully he can transition off nursing okay once he realizes what the new plan is. I'm glad your hubby is onboard and being so helpful in this process.

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:grouphug: Congrats on BFing for 16 months!

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Congrats on making it so long. That is great! It is so hard to watch our little ones struggle with things like this. :bigarmhug:

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Congratulations on 16 months of nursing! I too understand how hard it is to stop...but I'm sure T will do really well. I think its terrific that your DH is so on board with this. Should be a good bonding experience for them as well.

Nicole

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Thank you all! It's going ok so far. It's been tough on DH during the night, but DH actually said that he enjoys the extra bonding time with T, so that makes me really happy. Today was the first nap I put him down without milk. It took awhile to get him to sleep and my heart broke when he cried, signed, and pleaded for milk, but eventually he fell asleep. Thanks for the support...

Now my new frustration... engorgement... ouch!

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I'm sorry, Cali. That has to be so tough. You have done awesome! And Kudos to your dh for getting up in the night with him. I hope the engorgement phase passes soon. Not fun!