(Sorry if this is a little long)
Okay, so I am really upset with my BIL right now. Isaac has a cousin who is 1 year older than Isaac, and the two of them constantly wrestle, fight, etc... Sometimes we break it up, sometimes we let it play out. Sometimes Isaac starts it, sometimes the other way around. My BIL is always hard on Isaac and seems to show a lot of bias in who gets blamed, etc...
Last night, the two of them were wrestling around. Not over a toy, just wrestling and I have no idea who started it. Chad and I and my Dad were standing around keeping an eye on them. I told Isaac to get up and walk away but when he tried, his cousin pulled him back down. So Isaac pushed him off of him and happened to push on his face. His cousin, went crying to my sister and BIL. BIL asked what happened and my sister said, "He's crying b/c he got poked in the eye." (Not really, but whatever). My BIL's response? He says, "Next time, I'm going to tell him to punch Isaac in the face." :eek:
Seriously??? First of all, Isaac was trying to walk away (not that BIL bothered to find that out). But even if Isaac had started it, etc..., when is it possibly EVER a good idea to say that you are going to tell a 4 year old to punch another child (not to mention YOUNGER child) in the face? How is telling children to be MORE violent and aggressive going to help resolve conflict? Not to mention that that comment makes it sound like it was OBVIOUSLY Isaac's fault. :bigangry:
I am just so mad that I am practically seeing red over this. I don't want to say something and have it turn into a big thing but I cried on the way home b/c I just don't even want to bring Isaac into that type of situation where he is always getting blamed for any conflict and he is always getting scolded for being a normal, curious 3 year old. I told Chad that the thing I love most about Isaac is his happy, endless energy and curiosity and I don't want things like this to dampen his spirit. I always feel like I need to run interference between Isaac and my BIL and I always leave feeling like I need to give Isaac extra love and hugs to make up for my BIL acting like Isaac is an annoying little brat. I just don't even want Isaac to be around him anymore.