Is your family complete?

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Lavender444's picture
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Is your family complete?

It seems most of us now have or are in the process of having 2 kiddos. Where does your family planning stand now?

For us, we are done. I had a my tubes tied with Andrew to ensure that. I may be open to adoption down the road a few years, but I do not want to be pg again. But I'm 99% sure our family is complete.

a's girl's picture
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My answer is: I have no idea! HAHA! Let me explain....

My pregnancy with Alison although totally worth it was hard. I was in a lot of pain, I had bleeding and bed rest, pelvic rest and swelling. Needless to say, I was not a good pregnant woman. And as much as I would like Ali to have a brother or a sister, I cannot wrap my mind around being pregnant again. Plus, I am already in my mid-30's. So, I have no idea right now. DH says we can discuss it in a year. If we both are not 100% on the idea then he is going to get snipped and we will think about fostering/adoption.

Jenn0113's picture
Joined: 03/09/07
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I have no idea. W have 4 frozen embryos to transfer still. If those take - then we will have more. If they don't - then I think we are done.

PookieB's picture
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We are done. Teddy is scheduled for a vasectomy in August. I loved being pregnant and was very blessed to have 2 uneventful pregnancies and would love to do it again. However we are going to be financially responsible so our children don't miss out on anything..like college??!? Wink

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"a's girl" wrote:

My answer is: I have no idea! HAHA! Let me explain....

My pregnancy with Alison although totally worth it was hard. I was in a lot of pain, I had bleeding and bed rest, pelvic rest and swelling. Needless to say, I was not a good pregnant woman. And as much as I would like Ali to have a brother or a sister, I cannot wrap my mind around being pregnant again. Plus, I am already in my mid-30's. So, I have no idea right now. DH says we can discuss it in a year. If we both are not 100% on the idea then he is going to get snipped and we will think about fostering/adoption.

Ditto to all the bolded and add a very irritable uterus to the mix. I was at the OBGYN, the Perinatologist and the ER way too many times when pregnant with Jordan. I wonder if a second pregnancy would be completely different? Would I get to have a normal pregnancy the next time around? Or would I end up with an even more premature baby? I don't think a day goes by that I do not think about this and wonder what we will do. I keep praying that we will just know at some point. I feel like we will have a least one more child and I am 100% open to adopting as well. I guess we will have to wait and see.

alwayssmile's picture
Joined: 08/26/07
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Our family is not complete. My cycle returned recently (boo!), so apparently we're not trying, not preventing for now. I really don't know how many kids we want other than we both know that we'd love to have one more right now. Guess we'll see what my body does. I don't have any desire to full out TTC anytime soon since the thought of chasing DS while having morning sickness and moving and DH still being in training sounds like a really bad idea.

a's girl's picture
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"Kayla1981" wrote:

Ditto to all the bolded and add a very irritable uterus to the mix. I was at the OBGYN, the Perinatologist and the ER way too many times when pregnant with Jordan. I wonder if a second pregnancy would be completely different? Would I get to have a normal pregnancy the next time around? Or would I end up with an even more premature baby? I don't think a day goes by that I do not think about this and wonder what we will do. I keep praying that we will just know at some point. I feel like we will have a least one more child and I am 100% open to adopting as well. I guess we will have to wait and see.

Hey, at least we got to see our sweet babies on TV a lot!!!! Smile

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Joined: 09/04/06
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We're probably done with this one. We certainly won't be paying for any more fertility treatments, that's for sure. I'm not sure how careful we'll be with preventing though, since I'm pretty much infertile. If we were to get pregnant with a third, by some miracle, we'd be happy and then DH would get a vasectomy. Smile

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I think we'll have one more after this one. We'll see how broke we are by then, lol.

Joined: 06/10/07
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Apparently. :bluesad:

PookieB's picture
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"Readyforbaby1" wrote:

Apparently. :bluesad:

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Linzwigz's picture
Joined: 10/21/06
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Great question!! But for me a hard one. I say absolutly not, I HAVE to have more children but DH tells me he only wanted two to began with. Sad He says he is open to the idea of another child but would be fine if we didn't have anymore. I think the age/stage that the twins are in right now is hard for him. I also had very bad postpartum depression that I still struggle with and he is wary of going through that again (as am I). We also have different time frames. He wants to wait for me to get out of school, I think it would be better to have another while I was in school. I thought it was a money think but he recently got a new job that came with a over 30% pay increase so its not that. We do have two frozen eggs. So I don't know, I guess time will tell....

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Joined: 01/18/06
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I am not done, but may be forced to due to my age at 40. :confused:

Ideally, I would love 2 or even 3 kids. Evie is incredibly compassionate, caring and gentle when it comes to younger children and babies and I would love to make her a big sister. At my age, I think I can only handle one more pregnancy tho, and so if I have twins to make the 3 kids, I'm totally ok with that!

At this time, I'm not considering IVF, altho might consider IUI or meds if that works out. DH is against any kind of fertility treatment...mainly b/c he's already seen my moods with high doses of prednisone and he does NOT want to go there again LOL! He is ok with just DD, but doesn't mind more kids.

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"PookieB" wrote:

We are done. Teddy is scheduled for a vasectomy in August. I loved being pregnant and was very blessed to have 2 uneventful pregnancies and would love to do it again. However we are going to be financially responsible so our children don't miss out on anything..like college??!? Wink

This is us exactly! Down to the vasectomy and everything! DHs isn't scheduled yet, but we were thinking August or September.

There are times I think I would want 3, but only if I could skip the chaotic parent of 3 part and go straight to having 3 adult children. And if we were to win the lotto to be able to support them the way I want us to.

Cali26's picture
Joined: 02/01/07
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Yes. Our family is complete and I couldn't be anymore happy with the family God has blessed me with. My 2 boys are amazing.