Another month down the drain

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Another month down the drain

How do people keep doing this?
I guess it's moving on for another month, so close to 2 years now. My DS wants a sibling so much but I am afraid he will be so old by the time one comes along he will resent the baby and they won't be close because of nearly 4 years (or more) between them.

This month may be my first IUI if with the timing the clinic can get me in. I feel like they don't favour IUI patients and it's all about their IVF patients.

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I am not sure how I have made it this far without going completely bonkers. Taking time out every now and then from trying (mostly for medical reasons) does help.
((((hugs))))
I too want a sibling for my son as well. He is now five.

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If we take time out I am not sure we will go back to TTC unfortunately. I had a CD10 scan booked, I hope I can get the time off work, it will all come a week before I have documents that need to be lodged for court so the worst week to be taking time out of work, especially as my appt for the scan is at 9:45 because thats the earliest they have because of theatre patients so it will be nearly 1 before I get DS to day care and me to work after the appt and driving home assuming the appts only take an hour (scan, meet with dr, meet with nurse, all with a 3 year old running around)

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Can you drop DS off at day care earlier than normal to avoid that extra stress? (yep I have taken DS with me to an IUI appointment I just made sure he has plenty of things to do, like colouring in, ipad movies ect)

Fingers crossed this works.

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Not this time, we have a birthday party in that town the day before so to save on petrol costs we will stay up there the night. I won't have hubby with me either because he doesn't get his roster until lateish Sunday night so can't come. I will just take some books or toys for him, it will just have to be the scan he sits quietly for

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I amso sorry you are having all this stress on top of stress.
I do wish you huge luck though.
Iui seems to have worked wonders for quite a few of the ladies here... So I hope it does for you too.
Xxxxxxx

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I'm not sure if the RE thinks we will be successful, he said we should be good candidates for it, but wanted to see us do 3 attempts before the end of the year, so not sure I should get my hopes up, though I guess with unexplained secondary infertility they don't have real answers as to what will work

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*hugs* I hope your son behaves at the appointment! Also, that it helps/works! Unexplained infertility sucks! It's such a toll on your body, mind, and relationship to have to go back and forth to clinics. And if I recall, yours is far away!

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I am so sorry! It is so hard to go through the heart ache every month. :bighug:

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I agree, how do we stay sane month after month of it not happening!?!?!? I guess it's the idea there is a baby at the end of it all - and that's totally worth it Smile

I'm so sorry you have all this extra stress - it sucks doesn't it! We not only stress when it doesn't happen, we stress about what's wrong, and then stress about seeking help, and paying the medical bills, and getting time off from work, and if it's going to happen or not...then there is the paperwork, and phone calls, and research. boy it's time consuming!

I wish there was something we could do to make this easier on you...I know just talking and venting helps. (well at least it helps me!!!) We're always here to listen and give support! Smile

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It certainly tries ones patience that's for sure! I'm so sorry you are dealing so much added stress with this process! Take deep breaths and focus on one day, one appointment at a time. Hang in there!! I hope you get your BFP soon and you can get off this rollercoaster!

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Hugs to you, Wendy and Jodie! I'm so sorry about this stress you're both going through.

:clinkingbeer: Here's to a great IUI and BFPs for you! I just know it will happen for you both! It will!!!

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I gave up on sanity a long time ago. Thankfully the bills aren't a huge issue, my tax return will cover those this year. If we have to progress past 3 IUI's though we will be in a bit of trouble but it will just mean cancelling renovations we want to do. It would all be so much easier if we weren't such a long drive from the clinic, hell I would probably have done three by now if we lived in the same town as the clinic.

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I'm just so sorry to see you join us in the 2+ years section... It's just so lousy.

I really hope that IUI works right off the bat and you have a new sibling for your little guy in no time! I know a bunch of ladies that have had successful IUI's! Good luck honey!

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First scan Monday, I am scared. Sounds stupid, but I am scared I am putting so much into this and because it is unexplained why I am not falling pregnant that it may not work. I am scared that this has been caused because I had to have a c sections with DS and that the doctor ruined something. I am just scared right now and I know it is stupid. The next three weeks are going to be rough. I also go to the GP tomorrow for the results of the blood work I had for progesterone so I will take those results to the specialist as well.

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Wendy - I'm so sorry you have to go thru this. I understand your fears, they aren't stupid. You're afraid they'll find something, and they won't be able to "fix" it - or it will cost too much $. (at least that was always my fears when we first started testing)
when we first started testing, I actually wished that they would find something - something easy to fix - but nonetheless, I didn't want them to NOT find something - b/c they can't fix something that isn't wrong.
Have you had any testing done other than BW? What about the HSG test - where they put the dye thru your tubes to see if there is a blockage? Your situation sounds a lot like my best friend - she had no problem conceiving #1 - but had an emergency C-section at 32 weeks. (her appendix burst, baby was okay, is a healthy 5 year old now!) Well she had a hard time with #2 - after about a year, she went for testing...had the HSG test. They said they didn't find a blockage - however few cycles later (not sure exactly how many, it could have only been 1) she got pregnant. I think she might have had some scar-tissue from C-section that was causing a problem...
(I know that us ladies dealing with infertility hate hearing about how "this procedure" or "that medicine" worked for someone else, and that's not what I'm trying to do here. But her situation sounds very similiar to yours, and thought I'd give my "advice" in an effort to offer support) Smile
Fingers crossed that it's something simple, and you're on your way to a BFP!!!!!! Please keep us posted...I go for an US on Monday!

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No testing for me, the blood work I went to a GP for when we thought IUI was off the cards and asked for. My GP and the specialist don't believe there is any issue on my end as my charts clearly show ovulation. I doubt they will do further investigations unless 3 IUI's fail.
I have heard HSGs can often be followed by a bfp, an old workmate had one done in preparation for IVF next things she was pregnant with twins naturally

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No testing for me, the blood work I went to a GP for when we thought IUI was off the cards and asked for. My GP and the specialist don't believe there is any issue on my end as my charts clearly show ovulation. I doubt they will do further investigations unless 3 IUI's fail.
I have heard HSGs can often be followed by a bfp, an old workmate had one done in preparation for IVF next things she was pregnant with twins naturally

Yes, I've known several people that have got their BFP after having the HSG. I'm personal super nervous to have it done b/c I heard it's very painful. There is no talk of me doing it, but if we do another few IUIs, I'm sure RE will want to.

Don't you love hearing those stories of people who have infertility for years, and then BAM get pregnant naturally. It gives you hope that it can happen to you too!!! Smile

I wish you all the luck with IUI!!

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Good luck in the morning Wendy.

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Thanks Jodie, It was a long day as I unexpectedly had to take Guides last night as well.

Did my scan, it was CD 11 he said my lining was a bit thin and there was one follicle at 13mm and a couple of smaller ones in my right ovary, nothing at all on my left. I told him I don't usually ovulate until CD15 but he didn't seem to listen. I have to have blood tests tomorrow to check for an LH surge and then they will let me know tomorrow afternoon what the next step is, at this stage it is likely to be go up Thursday for another scan and if they are happy with that Friday for the IUI, possibly a trigger shot on Thursday as well.

If it doesn't work this month next time they will make me do a medicated cycle with clonezipam (clomid I believe)

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How did the IUI go?

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It went as well as could be expected I guess. The driving for the trips up there really got to me plus a rough week at work that week. I am 6dpiui today. The progesterone is a pain, but I am getting there. My temps are stupid this month because of having to wake an hour earlier to do progesterone then lay day for 45 minutes, so yesterday was my first normal post O temp, but because of the trigger shot I am pretty sure I o'd much earlier than that