Back and pondering whats next (mc ment)

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DannyT's picture
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Back and pondering whats next (mc ment)

So the last 6 week have been a whirlwind both amazing and devistating. First pregnancy after two plus yrs of trying, major surgery for hemmoragic cysts and a week later a loss of that angel.

I know many of you have been through this and I want to know your thoughts on trying again. My RE said new research says the first cycle after m/c is higher prob but we need to be emotionally ready. What are your experiences and thoughts. He said we would prob have a month before my body starts the next cycle. Is that too soon?

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First off, I am so sorry for your loss, (as if those words are enough......) Even though I have had several losses, by far the one I lost at 10 weeks was the hardest, and the hardest for me to recover from emotionally. I had conflicted feelings. Part of me wanted to give up and forget all aspects of TTC because it was just too dang painful to go through losses, and the other part wanted to jump right back into it to try and get preg again, but then I felt guilty for feeling that because it was like I wasn't giving our little baby the time it deserved to be mourned......If that makes sense??? Because of some meds I took I had to wait 3 cycles to try again and honestly looking back I am glad that I did because it really did give me time to work through all my emotions. That being said, you have to do what feels right for you. If in your heart of hearts you want to jump back in to TTC than that is what is right for you. If you want to wait then that is right too. I don't really think that there is any right or wrong answer here. I think it is all about what you as an individual want and can handle. Best of luck in what ever you decide (((((HUGS))))))

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I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard to know what to do. For me, we tried but it did not work. Personally I don't think I would have been ready for a pregnancy that soon. I was so lost and hurt. Mentally I was not in a good place - I would have worried every second of the pregnancy.


Joined: 02/24/11
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Oh Danny im soo sorry for your loss! I think you need to listen to your body and your heart! I do believe however that you need to heal then continue

DannyT's picture
Joined: 09/11/11
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Thanks guys. I think I am going to lurk around and process. I am conflicted, part of me says I need time to heal but part of me was elated the dr said next cycle would be best because that is the greatest honor I can give our little angel, not to give up. I will see what my heart says when its time.

Joined: 02/24/11
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Was your m/c caused by the surgery?
Maybe you should try again maybe getting prego again will help you heal too

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Joined: 04/01/09
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I am so sorry love.
We are all here for you.
You need to do what you feel comfortable doing.
After all my m/cs I have just jumped back on the horse as such.
Although my consultant thinks maybe that has been the cause of so many chemicals. I personally don't believe that as such.
So if you need to heal then take time but if youbfeel ready then go for it. Fertility rates are higher straight after m/c
Again I am so sorry for your loss.
If you need any of us we are here.

Joined: 03/02/07
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So sorry to hear of your loss. Please take care of yourself.

I don't really have any advice for you other than what was mentioned earlier. I hope you find the answer comes to you easily as a little time passes.

Joined: 07/26/04
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so sorry! :bighug: