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Can I sneak in here

Hi, My name is Wendy and I have been TTC for nearly 2 years now, I'm on cycle 20 or something like that, I have lost track. We were referred to a fertility clinic after our GP here was being painful so I sought another GP to refer us. Initially our clinic said they could work with us as my husband and I live an hour and a half from the clinic and both work full time, and he doesn't get sick days so we needed a freeze to be done and he only gets Monday off. Fast forward them cancelling an appointment because some one else was ' more important' and then telling me they could not do Monday's as that is egg retrieval day and they don't have time. We are listed as having unexplained secondary infertility, I have pretty normal cycles (although a crazy few have popped in lately) and hubby had a great SA. I have had a few very early losses, two confirmed by early very positive HPTs and a few suspected as I have given up on testing.

I am at the point of not being able to do this anymore I am an emotional wreck half the month.

I also have a 3 year old son, Ronin who was naturally conceived the first month of trying. No one thinks I need any tests, I went to a GP when our hopes of IUI seemed to be gone to see about progesterone and have a pathology request for CD 21 blood work, but not sure I will get there this month as that falls on Friday and I have a court hearing so have to be at work early.

I guess thats all, I just wanted to introduce myself because I am finding myself lurking more and more over here lately.

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Wendy, sorry that you have to be here. It would be nice if the forum went away and we could all get pregnant easily.

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I too am sorry to see you here.
It's been a long journey so far eh?
At least you are surrounded by friends here.
I so hope your stay here is short and sweet though.
Hugs love
Xxxx

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Oops sorry double post xxx

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Jump right in. Smile We get it here.

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Thanks. I hate that anyone is here. We may be able to do IUI next cycle if we need to hubby did a freeze today. I really hope (and this is the only time I will ever say this) that we have just wasted money on it and that I will get pregnant on my own. Fingers crossed

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Oh yay for finally get into do a freeze.

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Yeah they made it hard enough. Poor hubby had to get a bus at 4am today to get there. He hasn't slept since yesterday at this point

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Wendy I am so very sorry to hear your story! What an ordeal with doctors and getting the freezing done so you can do an IUI etc!! That's crazy stressful for sure!! Wishing you all the best!!!

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Thanks everyone. Stuck in the two weeks of delusion and believing I have 5 million symptoms. My temps aren't really high so I do think it's mostly delusion this month. It's just so hard, I never thought this would happen. We had some issues with my MIL last year where she was running her mouth and so was her partner to strangers (nurses in a hospital, one who happened to be my aunt) and said they hoped we never had more than one child, so yeah I have anger and sadness all mixed together.

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WTF???
Why would she say that?
Are you confronting her?
I am so sorry!!
Not nice at all!!

I hope your symptoms are real this cycle.
Thinking of you xx

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"Lizbet22" wrote:

WTF???
Why would she say that?
Are you confronting her?
I am so sorry!!
Not nice at all!!

I hope your symptoms are real this cycle.
Thinking of you xx

My MIL stopped talking to us for the first time when DS was a month old. She pushed me and my PP hormones and borderline PND too far one day. She then started talking to us again but she does not like me any longer and has chosen to ignore both her son and grandson. She has a number of issues she has never addressed and is not likely to ever address. We only found out everything they said (that was just the tip of it) because he said some of it to my aunt (who he didn't know was my aunt) and her colleagues told her the rest once (especially once they started on saying we should have DS removed from our care) she requested to no longer be assigned to his care. So no confronting her we just don't talk. It is her loss, she has two grandsons(DS and BIL's son) she is missing out on watching them grow up because she hates both her sons partners, she liked me until she pushed me too far and I told her straight up

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Oh my god!!
What anasty piece of work... Sorry but.....
I am gobsmacked here!!
Think she needs some help!!
You are right it's totally her loss!!
But still quite distressing for you guys.
Oh what goes around comes around and I hope she starts to feel regret soon!!
Xxxxxxx

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We've got used to it Liz, though it did upset hubby a bit when he rang her recently and every now and again when she sends emails to him. I've also offered to drive him and DS up to see her and leave and come back when he calls.

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You're a good woman!!!
I bet your husband appreciated that.
A lot of women would demand hubby choosing.
I have a lot of respect for you.
Not for her though.. Nasty woman.
She should count her blessings that she has you for a dil!!!
Xxxx