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    DH's SA came back today and let's just say, I don't eve know how I have a daughter. He is seeing a urologist on Tuesday and I'm waiting for my oB to call back. At this point I have no idea what is going to happen in terms of treatment. If any, at the moment... I have cried my eyes out. He is destroyed, we are just at a loss. HIs numbers were soooo low it was shocking. I'm probably at my lowest I've ever been. At this point, I'm not even sure I can even have a baby. I'm just destroyed right now. I will KUP as to what happens next week.

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    Okay, so he went first yesterday, and let's say it was Okay and then NOT GOOD! First off, he was not overly concerned with DH's SA results. He said he has good quantity and good mobility, which is a positive. So he gave us a regimen of how we needed to time sex. He said that men with results like that must start having sex 72 hours prior to O, and then we needed to BD every 12 hours after that until after O!!! HOLY COW!! Then I must elevate my legs during and after BD for at least 20 min. He said I can't even cough!!! He wasn't too thrilled that DH produced at home, and actually leaned toward the test not being that accurate. He must repeat in 6 weeks to get a better understanding. Now the bad news... he had sugar in his urine. Which means he is either pre-diabetic or already a diabetic. Which explains a lot symptom wise and fertility wise. He has to get blood work this week, and follow up with the MD and start treatment if needed. He must make a complete lifestyle change now before this gets out of hand. This might very well be the reason for not conceiving. At least we have some answers and can keep TTC. I go today to the OB...will post when I get back *****

    *****Well we were referred to the RE. We have an appointment next Friday afternoon. She is very well respected here in NJ, has awesome credentials, so I'm hopeful. AND the insurance covers everything of what I was told. They are really good at this office and will keep me up to speed with all the insurance info anyway. The only down side is that it is 40 min away from our house! I could have gone to another RE much closer but my OB insisted I see this one, so I'm just following her instructions Everyone thank you so much for everything, I really feel grateful for all the support that I have been getting here. It is very much appreciated. This has been a stressful week and now to top it of my damn tooth hurts and I have to go to the dentist tomorrow. IT just NEVER ends...****
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    Marisol im sooo sorry!!!! maybe after some treatment, DH can boost his sperm and it will happen for you. Are he drs saying there is no chance?
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    Oh Mari!!!!

    I don't know what to say.
    All the old cliches come to mind but I know you don't want to hear anything like that.
    Just know that my thoughts and love are with you both at this time.
    Be strong for each other. Things have a way of coming right.

    Hugs sweetness. Huge hugs.
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    I am so sorry for your news. Huge hugs!
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    SO sorry to hear this!! *HUGS* My husband has male factor. There are some supplements he can take that can sometimes help. I can get you the list if you'd like. Has he been sick at all in the past few months? A very high fever or an infection can affect sperm and it can take 3 months to replenish a new supply. Men regenerate sperm every 3 months. There are many reasons he could have a problem and there are things that can be done to help correct them. Seeing a urologist is the best thing to do. They will do bloodwork to check his hormones, should also have genetic testing done including karotyping, and a physical exam will also be done. Has he ever had his sperm tested before? It's difficult to actually diagnose with just one sample. I'd definitely get a repeat done in a few months. *HUGS* Try and stay positive, you have options! I remember all too well how I felt when we found out about my husband. If you ever want to chat please feel free to PM me anytime.

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    *hugehugs* Marisol, I'm sorry to hear this. Maybe some diet changes might help...? I had a friend whose SA was not good, but improved a great deal when he made some changes to his diet, in particular he cut out diet coke. I hope that DH's condition is treatable.
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    Everyone thank you so much. I found him a urologist rather quickly don't even know if this guy is good enough or not, but with my husband it has to be done quickly if not he would get discouraged and not go. For the first time I'm at a loss of what will happen. With numbers that low, I have no idea what will be done. I would love the OB to still put me on the med's in the mean time but I don't know if that would even make a difference. I couldn't even go to work today. I know I shouldn't compare the two but I'm so down about this I feel just like I felt when my mom died. I've cried and cried. I'm hoping as soon as my OB gets the results she can put my mind at ease. I will be sure to KUP on what the dr's say.
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    Marisol, SO sorry to hear this, all I can offer is a ((((((HUGE HUG))))))!!! I hope that you can get some encouraging news from your OB and the new urologist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mari626 View Post
    Everyone thank you so much. I found him a urologist rather quickly don't even know if this guy is good enough or not, but with my husband it has to be done quickly if not he would get discouraged and not go. For the first time I'm at a loss of what will happen. With numbers that low, I have no idea what will be done. I would love the OB to still put me on the med's in the mean time but I don't know if that would even make a difference. I couldn't even go to work today. I know I shouldn't compare the two but I'm so down about this I feel just like I felt when my mom died. I've cried and cried. I'm hoping as soon as my OB gets the results she can put my mind at ease. I will be sure to KUP on what the dr's say.
    You are greiving, it's completely normal to feel the way you are feeling. *HUGS* When I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure two years ago I slipped emotionally for a couple months. I was greiving bad! I still have bad days. My heart goes out to you! You will have some more answers soon and can make decisions from there. Hang in there!

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    Hey, I am sorry to hear you got bad news about the SA. Getting a diagnosis for IF is never easy to take. On one hand you are thankful to have another puzzle piece tell you WHY, but on the other hand you have a sense of lost hope and devastation. I've been on both sides - unexplained IF (two years) and explained IF (one year) and they are both incredibly hard. It makes you want to give up. Hang in there. I understand what you feel right now.

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