So my little sister and I had babies two weeks apart from each other 3 years ago this month, after we had shared early losses with each other just months apart 2 years before our babies were conceived.
She and her DH have been not trying/not preventing since her little girl was just 6 months old. DH and I, on the other hand, have already been successful in another pregnancy/delivery and are now "complete".
Yesterday I packed up the bassinet for the last time and started to tear up knowing it will never come out again for us. Then I got to thinking, what if I gave it to my little sis? So I called her up and left her a voicemail saying I had a gift for her if she wanted it. She texted minutes later saying that she's stuck at work til 10pm and wanted to know what it was. I should have just said call me tomorrow. I really hope I didn't make her cry, cause I put myself back in the position we were in together after our losses and realized that I was not as considerate as I could have been.
This is what she texted back after I said that since she might have a use for it eventually. "Oh, well hopefully we will have a use for it sometime... but i don't know when or if we ever will..."
I didn't know what to say after that and just said, well we can talk about it later.
Is this a mean offer to give it to her knowing that she's feeling hopeless right now? I just don't know.. Maybe I should have just put it in storage until she happily announces a success and then stick a bow on it?
And this just after our aunt told her at her daughter's birthday party while holding our new little one "I'm giving you 2 years. You have 2 years to give me another niece or nephew." I wanted to punch our dear auntie for that comment cause I know how long she's been not preventing.
I just want some opinions on how to further proceed with the bassinet offer.