Grrr (preg and m/c mentioned)

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mom2robbie's picture
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Grrr (preg and m/c mentioned)

So I talked to my family doctor today about seeing a new GYN regarding my infertility. I was told that since I was able to get pregnant (that ended in a m/c) that I am no longer considered infertile! :fallingbricks: While I don't really want the "infertile" label at least I could get more help then what is available to me right now. He did say that he will make a referral for me to see a GYN and that it will probably take 6 months Sad Hopefully I can be pregnant by then.

Some of the ladies on my BB have now had their babies and while it hurts it is hard for me to stay away. I am excited for them but so jealous as I want to be waiting for my little one to arrive. :crybaby:

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:lurk:

That's a bit odd. I'm also in Edmonton, by the way. Isn't your GP obliged to get you an OB/GYN simply because you're a woman? We see them for more reasons than just pregnancy.

I thought I read somewhere (can't remember where or when--and maybe it wasn't even you...) that you had Dr. Choua as an OB--aren't you still his patient? Or am I confusing you with another Edmontonian on pg.org?

I'm so sorry for your loss, and your current frustration. :bighug:

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"clio" wrote:

:lurk:
I thought I read somewhere (can't remember where or when--and maybe it wasn't even you...) that you had Dr. Choua as an OB--aren't you still his patient? Or am I confusing you with another Edmontonian on pg.org?

I was seeing Dr Chua but he was horrible with regards to my m/c. He also told me that there was no way I had endo...another GYN found endo when he did my lap.... Both DH and I are frustrated with Dr. Chua and so I am no longer going to him.

My family doc is going to send me to a GYN but he doesn't think I will get much help TTC as I am no longer considered infertile. However, I am 42 and not getting younger so if I am not pregnant soon that will be the end of trying for a second child.

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Margaret, what kind of help can you get other than the testing with OB/GYN? I am not considered infertile either (and the testing seems to pan out on that as well). All my OB did was refer me to the fertility clinic. Are there other things the OB/GYN can do for you?

*hugs* I totally feel your frustration as I am 40 myself. I hope that you'll get in to see a GYN soon.

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Margaret, I so can relate. Been trying so hard not to think about October! Sad
So sorry they don't want to help you, when we lived in England we had to go private just to get someone to listen to us and it royally stinks. Sad

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Margaret, I'm sorry they won't help. I don't mean to sound like a b*tch, but he works for you and should do what you are asking him to do. I would get stern with him and tell him this is what you want...end of story, period. Good luck

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"mom2robbie" wrote:

I was seeing Dr Chua but he was horrible with regards to my m/c. He also told me that there was no way I had endo...another GYN found endo when he did my lap.... Both DH and I are frustrated with Dr. Chua and so I am no longer going to him.

My family doc is going to send me to a GYN but he doesn't think I will get much help TTC as I am no longer considered infertile. However, I am 42 and not getting younger so if I am not pregnant soon that will be the end of trying for a second child.

Ugh, I hated Chua too. He never wanted to be questioned and would yell at me (seriously--he yelled at me) when I wanted clarification on things he said to me. And although I had scans proving I had PCO, he didn't want to see them before he tried to put me on fertility meds, which I thought was rather dangerous. So I kicked him to the curb.

But what he was going to do was put me on Clomid because I had tried for 3 months to get pregnant and no joy (he only wanted to know about the last 3 months). He made me mark on a calendar all the times I had sex throughout my cycle, in order to determine if I was having sex during my fertile period and truly wasn't getting pregnant. I lied and marked down that I had sex every second day for 3 months, and he was immediately ready to give me a prescription. So, 3 months is a lot shorter than a year. When I said no to the Clomid (I wanted more intervention), he referred us right away to the Royal Alex fertility clinic. True, that took 6 months to get in, but there, they're hard core.

So, I guess what I'm saying is, if you want some help, Chua might be an @ss, but he might be your best bet for quicker access to Clomid.

Good luck. The OBs in Edmonton have given me more heartache than I thought possible. I'm now with my fourth, and chose her because she's young and relatively inexperienced; turned out older and experienced meant that they were also arrogant and utterly heartless.

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Hugs to you!!
I was also told that since I can get preggers I am not infertile so it was no to IVF...hmmm....the clinic said different..but there you go.
I understand where you are coming from...truly I do.
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UGH!! I'm wondering if they will tell me the same thing if I"m not pregnant in the next 6 months since I already have a child. This is so frustrating!!!! It really is. :bighug:

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How frustrating!!! Seems weird that they would not consider you infertile??? I have 2 children and have gotten pregnant multiple times, but after having my last child I have never had one of those pregnancies result in a living child so I have been labled as having secondary infertility. I wonder why they don't consider you that as well??? (((HUGS)))

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