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Need some advice

I need some advice on how to get DH to start wanting to DTD again. We have been TTC for 7 yrs. We did timed BDing and IUIs. We haven't been seeing our specialist for the last year. Just letting things take its course. Well, DH seems to not have the desire to DTD anymore. If I try to initiate, he says that I'm only doing it b/c I'm ovulating. I'm at a loss of what to do. He won't come to bed on the weekends until way past 1 or 2 am. I'm in bed before midnight. During the week, he puts his ipod on and rolls over. What am I supposed to do?

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Hmmmm....thats a hard one.
Sorry you are going through this.

Have you thought of maybe doing a date night....being a bit romantic.
This is maybe tmi..I don't know you well enough to know if this will offend or not so I am sorry if it does..but have you thought about just pleasuring him every now and again...if he says anything about you only wanting it because you are oing..you can say that there is no way you can pregnant when your doing something for him if you get my jist.

M gets funny with me too....so I give him a bit of release on a regular basis with nothing in return....then if I want to dtd with him he owes me...LOL

Cor..I am being very reserved here.

When he was staying up at his folks because I was being good fiance he ended up setting up a little love nest in the gym shed and it was the best sex we had had in a long long time!!!

I guess what I am saying s make it all about him for a while...that will get the libido back...and just don't tell him your dates...except when you aren't oing...if he says that say actually its already past or way too early I just want to be with my husband as we should be and get the romance back.

Hope that hasn't made you cringe or anything.
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That's exactly what I was going to say!! Just walk up to him and start pleasuring him, no questions asked, then go back to what you were doing! It may make it not so mechanical, if that makes sense! Smile

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I agree with pp... Make him feel like hes number one it will make a difference...my dh actually said the same thing to me last week so in turn ive has sex with him rvery say since saturday for 2 reasons .. 1 bc i was oing and 2 because it were me i wouldnt want to feel that way and to be honest its actually been fun .. Both get something out of the deal

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Thanks ladies. I have done this, but will give it a try again. He is always saying he is tired, but then never comes to bed until I'm already asleep. I am not one to sleep in a nightie ( I wear shorts and a tank top to bed) but made the effort to buy one and wear it for a few days. NOTHING. I even made sure I pranced around in it before bed, nope. he stayed up watching tv